FreedomPhilosophy Posted January 5, 2014 Share Posted January 5, 2014 There are maybe a couple of programs where Stefan talks about visiting dying relatives or going to their funerals and whether a relatives behavior has earned such loyalty. Can anyone point me to these programs please? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A__ Posted January 14, 2014 Share Posted January 14, 2014 This is a powerful podcast. It helped me when my abusive mother was on her deathbed. Unfortunately having her two other children present, to be there for her, to watch her die albeit eventually in a medicated disconnected euphoria, made my absence less noticeable. I don't regret doing it. I just wish I was less emotionally tortured by the whole situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike Fleming Posted January 18, 2014 Share Posted January 18, 2014 That was a great podcast although what if you were to go to their deathbed and say "Rot in hell, asshole!".? I guess I kind of have this fantasy about going to their funeral and wearing something completely inappropriate, like t-shirt and shorts, and giving a speech on the true nature of the people I knew. And when their friends tell me they are sorry that they are dead, I'll just give a wide smile and say "I'm not. I'm glad they're dead.". Maybe it's just a fantasy though... I probably saw it in a film. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A__ Posted January 20, 2014 Share Posted January 20, 2014 That was a great podcast although what if you were to go to their deathbed and say "Rot in hell, asshole!".? I guess I kind of have this fantasy about going to their funeral and wearing something completely inappropriate, like t-shirt and shorts, and giving a speech on the true nature of the people I knew. And when their friends tell me they are sorry that they are dead, I'll just give a wide smile and say "I'm not. I'm glad they're dead.". Maybe it's just a fantasy though... I probably saw it in a film. I know it's a fantasy but it sounds a tad unhealthy, like an excess of unresolved bitterness, like bile eating oneself from the inside. A healthier fantasy might be imagining abusive people apologized and improved themselves. I agree though; being glad an abusive person is dead is definitely healthier than being stuck in a debilitating depression for weeks after. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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