MysterionMuffles Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 I found this trending on the front pages of Youtube. What do you guys think of this "life lesson" this mother taughter to her daughter? To me it seems like she just taught her daughter how to angrily say NO! to the category of "strange men." But does she explain what a strange man is? Or better yet...why would the mother be in any situation that would allow strange men around her daughter in the first place? Especially one that young?! Oh and the comments below are priceless. What can you expect from Youtube after all? All the comments are geared towards how cute the kid is. Yes that much is obvious, but the valuable lesson the mother is trying to teach is how to ward off predatory men that might lure her daughter through cookies, candy, or offers to go swimming together. However, her execution is more of inflicting conclusions and teaching her kid WHAT to say. There's no conversation, there's no framework in which to help her daughter think critically about strangers. I would also argue, the daughter should already be living in an environment that teaches her to spot the difference between safe people and strange people.
Wuzzums Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 It's less than 1 minute of interaction between mother and daughter and they're both laughing. Why the strong response?
Prairie Posted March 17, 2014 Posted March 17, 2014 In order to train her to not do what someone says, she's trying to get her to do what someone says. It'd be interesting as a parent to create a situation where there is a man/woman the child doesn't know, who asks the child to come with them, and see how the child responds. Then you know what you're working with. I also wonder whether the more effective approach in the long-term is to always respect the child so that they will fiercely resist when someone is doing something they do not want. It of course means that you as a parent don't have the lazy way out, but it also means that you as a parent aren't constantly training the child to obey adults (you) and thus leaving a huge safety risk open to strangers to take advantage of.
MysterionMuffles Posted March 18, 2014 Author Posted March 18, 2014 It's less than 1 minute of interaction between mother and daughter and they're both laughing. Why the strong response? Because I'm disturbed how most of the Youtube comments miss the point of the video, even though the point of the video is executed poorly. Reminds me of the narcissism that comes from broadcasting one's children online to boast their cuteness. Not to say there aren't any genuinely cute videos of children on the internet, but in this case, seems like a weird way to show off.
Wuzzums Posted March 18, 2014 Posted March 18, 2014 Because I'm disturbed how most of the Youtube comments miss the point of the video, even though the point of the video is executed poorly. Reminds me of the narcissism that comes from broadcasting one's children online to boast their cuteness. Not to say there aren't any genuinely cute videos of children on the internet, but in this case, seems like a weird way to show off. So the point of the video is for that parent to showcase her entire parenting technique? How about the subtitles, I myself don't speak Korean, but are they accurate?
Sunflowerac1 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 it reminds me of a few articles i read lately on trustworthiness and would I think would support what @Rainbow is saying "Don't tell kids not to talk to strangers – encourage them to trust their instincts (If we teach children to unlearn their talent for discrimination we are endangering them)" http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/mar/10/kids-talk-to-strangers-trust-instincts-babies-children ‘Intelligent people are more likely to trust others' http://www.ox.ac.uk/media/news_releases_for_journalists/140312.html (I am not sure if this what kind of response you are looking for Rainbow but thought some scientific study would help you make your point)
Sunflowerac1 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 it reminds me of a few articles i read lately on trustworthiness and would I think would support what @Rainbow is saying "Don't tell kids not to talk to strangers – encourage them to trust their instincts (If we teach children to unlearn their talent for discrimination we are endangering them)" http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/mar/10/kids-talk-to-strangers-trust-instincts-babies-children ‘Intelligent people are more likely to trust others' http://www.ox.ac.uk/media/news_releases_for_journalists/140312.html (I am not sure if this what kind of response you are looking for Rainbow but thought this info would be interesting)
Sunflowerac1 Posted March 20, 2014 Posted March 20, 2014 it reminds me of a few articles i read lately on trustworthiness and would I think would support what @Rainbow is saying "Don't tell kids not to talk to strangers – encourage them to trust their instincts (If we teach children to unlearn their talent for discrimination we are endangering them)" http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/mar/10/kids-talk-to-strangers-trust-instincts-babies-children ‘Intelligent people are more likely to trust others' http://www.ox.ac.uk/media/news_releases_for_journalists/140312.html (I am not sure if this what kind of response you are looking for Rainbow but thought some scientific study would help you make your point)
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