Addict needing help

[steadyb]

Hi there peeps.I didn’t know where to post this but he hoe. This is my “get to know you post” since I am new here. I heard Stef for the first time on Alex Jones’s show and was instantly hooked on Stef’s clarity of thought.I have a lot of shit to sort out. I have my first child on the way, and I am not ready. I have no time or money for therapy but I am desperate to get help from somewhere. FDR has already helped me start the journey of self-knowledge that will hopefully help me be a better husband and father. I also have a very supporting and understanding wife.I don’t know whether I can be helped by this community, either because of the depth of interaction or my own stubbornness but I want to give it a shot. My main problem is alcohol addiction but I have been addicted to more or less everything over the years. I am just an addict. I really need help but I am new and I don’t want to be a burden on people here and don’t know whether this is the sort of thing which people are willing to try and help with. I feel pretty pathetic to be honest. I hope someone can help.I would just like to finish up by saying how much FDR has helped already, in the form of the call in shows. Thank you all of you who have been brave enough to have participated. It is amazing how many parallels can be drawn from others experiences. But I have realised how long the road is and it is terrifying.ThanksEd

[Jake Danczyk]

Hey Ed. I am new here too, I found Stefan on Alex Jones too, and am struggling with addiction myself. I've been listening to the show for a couple years, but it has taken me until the last month or two to begin admitting to myself I have a problem, so congratulations on reaching that stage as well. I wish I had some advice to give, but right now I really do not. Just wanted to say hi and that you are not alone on that long road. We can make it, it will be worth it. One thing that helps me is to try to be relentless in asking myself what I want in the future, if what I am doing now is helping to bring that closer or further from reality. 

[regevdl]

Hi Ed, 

 

Welcome and thanks for your honesty.  Have you considered calling in to the show?  It might be a great way to get more of Stefan's clarity that is personalized to you and your story.  The process is quite simple and I think there are instructions on this site.  Especially since money is a challenge for you to pay for therapy and you have a baby on the way, maybe it would be worth a shot.  We all know how what Stefan can say in about 30 minutes cuts through what most therapists say in about 5x 1hour sessions!  lol  He doesn't B.S. around or play patty-cake.  haha

 

you are not alone nor a burden.  There are very caring and compassionate people here.  all the best on your journey of healing and rehabilitation, I think it's very brave to admit your problem especially since you have a little baby on the way.  Please own that courage and give yourself a LOT of credit first and foremost.  All the best!

[steadyb]

Thank you both for your kind words.

I have thought about calling in but I am very self conscience and it would make me extremely anxious. I know a lot of the callers feel this way however.

I don't feel very brave. I feel like a wounded animal most of the time.

Funnily enough, about 20mins after I posted that message, my wife (who is in a different country for her scans) sent me the first picture of the baby. I immediately printed it out and am going keep it on me to look at when I get tempted. I really think this might help. We shall see! I had an alcoholic parent and really don't want this cycle to repeat.

[TheRobin]

I found the IFS model to be really good, when it comes to self-therapy. I'd recommend the book Self-Therapy, as it both explains to process and has practical exercises/questionaires. 

 

I'd assume the addiction is there as an anesthetic to something else, so once you can uncover and heal that, there's no longer an urge/need for the addiction. (Yes, easier said then done). Of course there's always the possiblity that on top of that, you're still regularly in a situation where the same wound gets triggered over and over, in which case figuring that out and getting out of that situation/environment would also be very curcial (else you're just gonna have an internal battle for the rest of your life, which is also not really helpful or solving the problem)

Try having a few regular times each week, where you can maybe set aside an hour or more for self-therapy and keep at it and do it properly and see how it goes. 

 

Anyway, really great of you to openly talk about it and ask for help. 

[steadyb]

That book looks great. Thanks for the info.