n25an Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 I have a work friend that whenever he gets angry... he starts lying... I am trying to back out of the friendship because I don't think this will end well for me. He is a cool guy to talk to but I don't know when this behavior of his will bite me in the but. please advize...
SamtheSinger Posted September 10, 2014 Posted September 10, 2014 You could try being honest with him and let him know that you see it happening and you're uncomfortable with it. You could ask him why he feels he has to lie you. I've learned over the years that if you're coming from a place of genuine concern for someone you can say some really tough things, and they get received as compassionate contributions. On the other hand, if you come from a place of judgement or condemnation, you could read the phonebook to him and he might get upset. Check your heart first. If you feel scared and just want to make sure you're safe that's ok, just be honest with yourself. In that case I suggest you end the relationship as quickly and uneventfully as possible. When I'm faced with a confrontation like this, I ask myself something like "do I think there's even a chance they'll listen?" If I feel the answer is no, then I try to move on. Usually I think there is a chance though. Does that help at all?
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