William Wyatt Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 It's pretty much all in the title. What forms or schools of psychotherapy did Stefan find to be most beneficial to his health and progress in life? I'm fucked... I'm simply fucked... Fucked up bogan childhood, fucked up school, fucked up friends, fucked up my brain with drugs... I am more detached in relationships than other people I know who seem to have worse problems....
Kevin Beal Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 He recommended Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). He's also recommended Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy insofar as it can help you connect with what he calls the "mecosystem". He himself went to a Jungian therapist who he said was especially good. The school of psychotherapy is not as important as the allegiance and alliance the client has with the therapist, and the commitment of both parties. I've heard of bad IFS therapists and bad CBT therapists and bad Jungians. I'm very sorry that you are in the state you are in now. That lack of connection in the presence of other people, especially when they claim to love you can be agonizing. You've got to protect your heart like a mother lion protects her kittens. Roar and get yourself the help you need, my friend. Life's too short for anything less than genuine connection.
dsayers Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 I can't answer for him, but I believe the answer is talk therapy. You're not fucked. Maybe you were fucked over, but if you internalize that, you won't be able to overcome it. Instead, you will just continue to seek answers to a question you can't read. Step one is calling things by their proper names. Like if your bedroom was a total mess, you wouldn't be improving things by putting your socks in your pants drawer, etc. You must first identify it as a sock before you can put it in its proper place. If you were abused or neglected and your takeaway is "I'm fucked," then you don't see the person that harmed you as the source of the problem. Which means you won't understand WHY you do this or that, which means any attempt to change them will be a crap shoot. Talk therapy can help you identify the source of the problem, the problem itself, and ways of processing it so that it doesn't have to be who you are anymore. Also, what is "worse problems" than adults abusing weaker, dependent, not-there-by-choice children? 1
William Wyatt Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 I can't answer for him, but I believe the answer is talk therapy. You're not fucked. Maybe you were fucked over, but if you internalize that, you won't be able to overcome it. Instead, you will just continue to seek answers to a question you can't read. Step one is calling things by their proper names. Like if your bedroom was a total mess, you wouldn't be improving things by putting your socks in your pants drawer, etc. You must first identify it as a sock before you can put it in its proper place. If you were abused or neglected and your takeaway is "I'm fucked," then you don't see the person that harmed you as the source of the problem. Which means you won't understand WHY you do this or that, which means any attempt to change them will be a crap shoot. Talk therapy can help you identify the source of the problem, the problem itself, and ways of processing it so that it doesn't have to be who you are anymore. Also, what is "worse problems" than adults abusing weaker, dependent, not-there-by-choice children? What I mean by worse problems, is people who had far worse childhoods, and problems with addiction etc.. yet still seem to be connecting more with other people and being more productive in day to day life... Sure my parent's are to blame, sure the government is to blame... but to blame my parent's is to blame my grandparent's for the way they raised them... to blame my great grandparents etc... So in terms of the root causation, am I to blame the existence of violence and coercion itself? to express anger at somethign that exists within nature in order to limit its inlvolvement in my live" I just realized I use a lot of triple full stops out of habit to create.... the impression of more wisdom... even with my low IQ.
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