MysterionMuffles Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 I follow this page on Facebook called Humans of New York that's owned by this dude Brandon Hony. He goes around New York interviewing people about their life stories, taking pictures of them, and then cutting their stories down to the most concise and important details when posted on Facebook. I've usually skipped reading them the past little while, but this morning I felt like NOT ignoring today's posts: https://www.facebook.com/humansofnewyork/photos/a.102107073196735.4429.102099916530784/858199057587529/?type=1 https://www.facebook.com/humansofnewyork/photos/a.102107073196735.4429.102099916530784/858207717586663/?type=1 I'm happy to see the recognition of abuse being inexecusable and the idea that biological parents don't = true family in all cases. Also sad of course for what this woman had been through. Your thoughts? 2
J. D. Stembal Posted January 10, 2015 Posted January 10, 2015 A few questions popped into my head. What drove her to contact her former abuser? Was she driven by the need to forgive her mother for the abuse? Why don't you typically hear about daughters wanting to get in touch with abusive fathers? And a few more. Why did her parents warn her no to talk with her mother? What did they say to her exactly and what were their feelings in the moment? Did they try to prevent her from contacting the abusive woman? Is that a sign of emotional abuse in itself? I have no way of knowing this because there are so many questions left unanswered, but what if the adoptive parents were also not peaceful parents (or overtly abusive)? They might see the birth mother as competition, and the daughter might be motivated to seek her birth mother because her adoptive parents did not create a loving environment for her.
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