Article: Dear Gay Community, Your Kids Are Hurting

[kerou]

http://thefederalist.com/2015/03/17/dear-gay-community-your-kids-are-hurting/

 

Interesting article. Thoughts?

 

If course political correctness and child disposability will prevent this from ever receiving further studies or discussions but it's nice to hear an honest experience

[AynRand]

I did not like this article, or at the very least I didn't understand it. The author says that she is against same sex marriage, but the only issues she talks about are gay adoptions. Why can't gay people marry, but just not adopt children?  That being said I believe that as long as a child is raised peacefully then the gender of the child's parents does not matter, and I fully support gay people being allowed to adopt.

 

I think it is very reasonable for the author to want a father, but I think that any hole left by not having a father could easily be filled by her gay parents if she had been raised peacefully. 

 

 

It is a strange and confusing thing to walk around with this deep-down unquenchable ache for a father, for a man, in a community that says that men are unnecessary.

I'm not sure why you added this line. I would instead advocate to change the culture then, and encourage the necessity of men in any society. I would not reach the conclusion that gay people shouldn't be allowed to marry. I feel that the author is implying that lesbian couples believe men are useless. I don't believe that occurs in these communities. It almost sounds like the lesbien parents have forced their sexuality on the child, in which case I think that would be child abuse, but the conclusion I draw from that is not all gay people can't marry, instead I would advocate peaceful parenting.

 

 

Gay marriage doesn’t just redefine marriage

No gay marriage doesn't redefine marriage.

[andkon]

My dad wasn’t a great guy, and after she left him he didn’t bother coming around anymore.

 

 

It seems like this was the main problem.

 

My father’s absence created a huge hole in me, and I ached every day for a dad. I loved my mom’s partner, but another mom could never have replaced the father I lost.

 

I imagine it would have been the same huge hole if there was a stepfather instead of another mother, especially if the father "didn't bother coming around anymore"... what does this have to do with gay marriage though? It's a divorce plus deadbeat father. Would a single mother have been better?