Three Posted August 5, 2015 Posted August 5, 2015 From a Youtube Presentation entitled, “The True Cycle of Violence”From Stefan Molyneux. Includes presentation facts and Stefan’s commentary in quotations. Child Abuse -Biological mothers are 3 times more likely to commit abuse against a child than a biological father“Now, I know what you’re going to say. I know what you’re saying to yourself already. What you’re saying to yourself is,‘Well, of course mothers abuse children more! That’s because That’s because mothers spend a lot more time with children.’That is exactly what I am arguing against in this presentation; that knee-jerk reaction to making excuses for women. This is important. Whenever the statistics of violence point towards women, the first thing we instinctively do is invent excuses for them.‘Well, because of this!’ or whenever I was reading about the statistics of women in prison, ‘Well, a lot of these women were abused as children’ Right! And a lot of the men, most of men in prison were abused as children, but we don’t hear thatSo, as soon as we come across anything which points the finger of responsibility of aggression, of violence towards women we immediately want to make up excuses.That is incredibly sexist. I don’t want that kind of world for my daughter to grow up in. I don’t want her to get a free pass because she’s a woman. I want her to get as much moral responsibility as we place on men. We have to start making excuses for men to match the excuses for women or we have to start imposing the same thing on women that we impose on men. But, we just have this incredibly sexist and condescending paternalistic response to female immorality, which is to make excuses, to take away their moral authority, their moral responsibility, I won’t do that! I have too much respect for women, to hold them to a lower standard- that soft bigotry of low expectations. Maternal Abuse- A British retrospective prevalence study of 2,869 young adults aged 18-24 found that mothers were more likely than fathers to be responsible for physical abuse (49% of incidents compared to 40%)- In a large representative study that examined the characteristics of perpetrators in substantiated cases of child abuse and neglect in the United States, neglect was the main type of abuse in 66% of cases involving a female caregiver, compared to 36% of cases involving a male caregiver. “So, almost twice as likely to neglect, which in many ways is the worst abuse.”- In a study comparing male and female perpetrated child sexual abuse using data from the 1998 Canadian Incidence Study of Reported Child Abuse and Neglect, 10.7% of of child sexual abuse incidents were found to be perpetrated by females, McCloskey and Raphael (2005) argued that female perpetrators of child sexual abuse could be much higher as many cases go under-reported.- Approximately 40% of child victims were maltreated by their mothers acting alone; another 18.3% were maltreated by their mothers acting alone; another 18.3% were maltreated by their fathers alone; 17.3% were abused by both parents. “So, of course you say, ‘ Well! The mothers are stressed and the mothers are not getting enough support…’But, this is not what we say about men who abuse their children. Do we say, ‘Well, the men are stressed, the men are not getting enough support’ You see, this incredibly condescending attitude that we have towards women, I wanna treat women as equal to men, which means calling them out when they are violating foundational moral rules.” Spanking- More than 90% of parents of toddlers say they have spanked their child at least once. - About 61% of mothers of 3- to 5-year-olds had spanked their child in the past week. - Boys are much more likely to be spanked than girls “So, let’s talk about this. What’s the thesis here? The thesis is that we have a cycle of violence. A report came about recently, tragic, that 1 in 3 women in the world are victims of domestic violence. Why is it that men have such aggression towards women? Hmm, could it be that men as boys were hit very hard, very repeatedly by their mothers and grow up with a lot of aggression towards women as a blow back? It’s a possibility, let’s at least be open minded enough and responsible enough to the future to look at it as a possible thesis. I will continue to make it in the presentation”- Spanking can continue into adolescent years. In places in the U.S. at least 40% of those in High School are still being spanked. - People in rural areas and in the American South are more likely to spank- Mothers spank children far more often than Fathers do. “Very important. Do early childhood experiences of being hit, do they have an effect in how we grow up in terms of aggression and our perception of the opposite gender if the opposite gender is hitting us the most? Of course it does. Is this ever talked about in the cycle of violence? No.”- Economic status of a family makes no difference in the odds of spanking. “I’ve heard differing reports on this, so take that with a grain of salt. ”- African American parents are more likely than white parents to use corporal punishment. “This is something I’ve never understood about the black community. Why do you continue to let the white man’s God justify you hitting your lovely black children? It makes no sense to me. I mean if you really want to be free of the white man get rid of ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’. “- Conservative Protestants are more likely to use corporal punishment than parents with other religious affiliation. “Religious fundamentalists are more likely to spank or hit children than other belief systems.”- Parents who value positive reinforcement tend to view spanking as inappropriate.“It’s not inappropriate. It’s immoral.” Maternal Spanking- In India, only 22% of fathers spank their kids, while 78% of mothers do. “Again this is self reporting and we would assume that it;s probably higher. I could imagine more mother’s say that that don’t spank when they actually do, rather than say, ‘Well, I do spank’ when they don’t. ’”- A 2011 study in Child and Youth Services Review published an article indicating that the percentage of mothers who spank their child increased with age: 15 percent did so at 12 months, 40 percent at 18 months, and 50 percent at 20 months. “Can I just say something here? I can’t believe it’s the 21st century and this still needs to be said to at least half of the women who who are taking care of babies, uh, moms, could you please stop hitting your babies? I find it astounding that this needs to be said at this point in human history. Moms, can you please, please, pleease stop hitting your babies. Because remember, power disparities are a bad thing. So, a husband who beats his dependant wife is doing bad because he has more power, but you as an adult wife have infinitely more power than a baby does. So, if power disparities mean that you have to have greater moral sensitivities. And there’s no greater power disparity in that between a parent and a baby, then perhaps you can listen to your own complaints about man and stop hitting your babies? Would that at least be something you could perhaps consider?Because we are going to have to live in the world wherein these catch and release babies grow up into being. ” - Fathers who were spanked as children are less likely to spank their own children than mothers who were spanked while young, according to a U.S. study. - Mother who were spanked when they were young are actually much more likely than father who were spanked when they were young to continue to hit their own children. “So, Dad’s learn. Mom’s repeat...”- Second generation mothers who were spanked at least once a week were found to be nearly as half as likely to spank their own children compared to mothers who weren’t spanked.- Fathers spanked as children were less likely to spank their own children. - The study found only 28% of the second generation of fathers reported spanking their children compared to 43% of mothers. “The second generation is ‘I was spanked, therefore..’ ”“So, moms are hanging on to this spanking like grim death and I repeat, for the sake of peace in the world and the future and the stability of your relationship with your children when they’re growing up, um, please stop hitting your babies. Would you maybe put that on the list of things to get done this week?” Spanking Effects“I’ve done a whole presentation, I’ll link you to this, on the effects of spanking, but this is since the post war period, the statistics, the research- all relentlessly the same that spanking is destructive to the children. Moms freak out about BPA and baby bottles and then will just continue to hit their babies. ”- ‘When one trains parents to stop using corporal punishment and use other techniques, child aggression decreases. We’ve seen that for 30 years’- Alan Kazdin, a professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale University’s Child Study Center “But, don’t listen to Dr. Kazdin! What you want to do is listen to your grandmother who spanked and don’t listen to the facts because I’m sure you still use her gramophone and type writer as well. ”- Researchers examined data from more than 34,000 adults and found that being spanked significantly increased the risk of developing mental health issues as adults. - According to their results, corporal punishment is associated with mood disorders, including depression and anxiety as well as personality disorders and alcohol and drug abuse. “I mean, we know that wives who are beaten get depressed, but somehow we think that children who are hit don’t”- According to their results, corporal punishment is associated with mood disorders, including depression and anxiety, as well as personality disorders and alcohol and drug abuse. - The study reports that spanking ups the risk of major depression by 41%, alcohol and drug abuse by 59%, and mania by 93%, among finding others. “See, you know how many american kids are being drugged for being manic? Uh, well, it;s many more boys. Do boys get hit more than girls? Yes. Is there a relationship with this? Of course there is. If you hit your boys, they grow up kind of manic and then you get to add drugs into their system, which cause permanent brain damage, suicidality, homicidal rages, Toprol weight gains. The things we are doing tp our children the future will not understand how we can have any sentimentality about our kids when we treat them this way.” Maternal Spanking -94% of 3- and 4-year-olds have been spanked at least once during the past year, according to one study. - 74% of mothers believe spanking is acceptable for kids ages 1 to 3, says another study. “There’s no such thing as a one-year-old kid, that is a baby. So, the baby is still probably trying to figure out how to walk with some kind of stability, but SMACKING them is by far the best way to teach them how to do the right thing.I mean, this is sadistic, this is sick. Women, what are thinking?”- 61% of parents condone spanking as a “regular form of punishment” for young children, according to a different study. - Various factors increase the likelihood, including geographical location (children in the south are spanked the most), family income (less money means more spanking), race (African-American spank their children more than any other ethnic groups), and religion (parents more fundamentalist in their religious beliefs spank more so than those who are less so.)
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