Man's Wounds: A Plea For Understanding

[Three]

Originally written on Medium: https://medium.com/self-knowledge-daily/man-s-wounds-a-plea-for-understanding-cd443ed7cdfe#.z475tkuc0



 


Doctors mutilate our genitals when we are babies, our mothers hit us when we are children, and our teachers humiliate us when we are adolescents. Then when we become adults, our professors tell us that we are the oppressive ones, the spousal abusers, and the rapists of society, and that we contain the entire capacity for sexism and abuse.

Even if we are single and live alone, possibly due to the low self-image and feelings of being unworthy that result from this incessant scorn, when we turn on the TV, we are reminded of how inconsiderate we are for taking up so much room on the local subway transit and then if nothing else, that we are still objectifying others through our sexist video games.


It’s no wonder the suicide rate for men is so high.


It is a kind of soft totalitarianism. Instead of there being loudspeakers all over town constantly praising the dear leader, as is the case in North Korea, instead of all operas, films, and concert performances praising the dear leader and attacking the West, anti-male propaganda is everywhere, shaming masculinity. It is relentless, it is omnipresent.


And it works. People become brainwashed into accepting this anti-male narrative.
And just as targets of narcissistic abuse are left in a constant state of fear because they cannot predict when the next attack will come, men are left with this debilitating experience of paralyzing hypervigilance that results when people find themselves in no-win situations.


Because we as men never know when a smile will provoke scorn.

We never know when playfulness will be derided as creepy.

We never know when our manners will be condemned as rude.

It is a no-win situation indeed, due to the brain wrecking amount of contradictory messages and edicts we are programmed from birth to accept and follow.

We are told we are evil, yet at the same time we’re told we must show confidence.

We are told we are all potential rapists who must be viewed with suspicion, yet it is we who must make the first move to ask a woman out.

We are told to be chivalrous, yet we might be castigated for holding a door open for someone.

We are told we are unnecessary, yet it is our job to pay for every date.

We are told we need to be more sensitive, yet when we do, we are scorned for being pussies.

We must not be pussies, yet we cannot fight back to defend ourselves when being clobbered by a woman.

As doing so might result in our arrest.

I couldn’t think of a better way to set a person up for failure, yet we are told that success is our duty and obligation.

We are made sick and then commanded to be well.

Well, at least in George Orwell’s 1984, Big Brother only watched you. Now he watches and he purses his lips and he wags his finger and he nags, slanders, berates, and scorns.

This is what the modern Western incarnation of totalitarianism looks like: subjugation by proxy, with the policing offloaded to the social justice warriors, the feminists, the political correct cultural Marxists.

For the Western tax farmers have learned, unlike Kim Jong Un, that owning slaves becomes that much more profitable when you can get the slaves to attack each other.

George Orwell once wrote,
“If you want a vision of the future, imagine a boot stamping on a human face — forever.”
I think that he was quite accurate.

Except that in the West, the boot has been replaced by the high heel of feminism.

[LancierDombre]

Amazing essay as far as sentiment goes.  Thanks for sharing!

 

The problem is that it assumes a lot of background knowledge that isn't present among the general population.  Unfortunately, this means that it won't convince anyone who isn't already on the journey.  If you could fit some of the supporting data into this, it would be more impactful to someone new to this I think.

[dsayers]

men are left with this debilitating experience of paralyzing hypervigilance that results when people find themselves in no-win situations.

This is just the worst.

 

I'm old enough to remember a time when these things weren't so obvious. Which means I am able to look back on my own life and see how I went from an outgoing bloke trying to find my place in the world, to a docile, huddle in the corner and hope nobody notices heap of apathetic concession. It was awful.

 

Thankfully, I'm past that now, or on the path to getting past that.

[Three]

Amazing essay as far as sentiment goes.  Thanks for sharing!

 

The problem is that it assumes a lot of background knowledge that isn't present among the general population.  Unfortunately, this means that it won't convince anyone who isn't already on the journey.  If you could fit some of the supporting data into this, it would be more impactful to someone new to this I think.

I agree! I do assume a lot of background knowledge. The average joe will probably not get it because there are so many premises that I just take for granted.  My audience is for people like you though.

 

Also, if someone is curious, in the medium article includes links to some of the facts I stated. 

[Three]

This is just the worst.

 

I'm old enough to remember a time when these things weren't so obvious. Which means I am able to look back on my own life and see how I went from an outgoing bloke trying to find my place in the world, to a docile, huddle in the corner and hope nobody notices heap of apathetic concession. It was awful.

 

Thankfully, I'm past that now, or on the path to getting past that.

I think that's great, dsayers!

[utopian]

Ya know Joel, I don't think men will ever get an apology. Maybe not for the reason you might think though. I think feminism is not actually about feminism, but about a psychological method of controlling populations. Case in point, the mass rapes in Europe that happened on New Years. After the news came out, I expected we would see militant feminists marching up and down the streets Nazi takeover style. Instead, what happened? A great, big... silence. Nothing. No women up in arms anywhere. No heavy media coverage. That's because as soon as the agenda for allowing migrants to populate a country is interfered with from the narrative from feminism, the feminist narrative  must be silenced. Because it's not actually about caring for women. It's about whatever best suits the establishment's goals.

[Three]

Ya know Joel, I don't think men will ever get an apology. Maybe not for the reason you might think though. I think feminism is not actually about feminism, but about a psychological method of controlling populations. Case in point, the mass rapes in Europe that happened on New Years. After the news came out, I expected we would see militant feminists marching up and down the streets Nazi takeover style. Instead, what happened? A great, big... silence. Nothing. No women up in arms anywhere. No heavy media coverage. That's because as soon as the agenda for allowing migrants to populate a country is interfered with from the narrative from feminism, the feminist narrative  must be silenced. Because it's not actually about caring for women. It's about whatever best suits the establishment's goals.

 

I couldn't agree more. It has nothing to do with women's issue and, like race baiting, serves the purpose of expanding the control of the state. Im also not expecting an apology any time soon.

[S. Misanthrope]

Hi Joel! I'm late on this, but I wanted to tell you that your article is heartfelt and moving. I do believe that every time a man is willing to speak about his feelings honestly, it helps to narrow the empathy gap between men and women a little more. To speak out publicly in the current climate is undeniably brave. Thanks for writing (and publishing) it!

[Natalia]

I feel strongly about this issue… it’s just bad for everybody for men to suffer all this abuse. When reading the "manosphere," I see how so many otherwise smart men choose not to have female partners, or not to have anything to do with women for that matter, out of fear for what can happen. And indeed so much happens to them. And it indirectly affects me.

It saddens me to see my country and other western countries getting more feminist each day… and I can’t do anything about it in a large scale.

[Three]

Hi Joel! I'm late on this, but I wanted to tell you that your article is heartfelt and moving. I do believe that every time a man is willing to speak about his feelings honestly, it helps to narrow the empathy gap between men and women a little more. To speak out publicly in the current climate is undeniably brave. Thanks for writing (and publishing) it!

 

 

I feel strongly about this issue… it’s just bad for everybody for men to suffer all this abuse. When reading the "manosphere," I see how so many otherwise smart men choose not to have female partners, or not to have anything to do with women for that matter, out of fear for what can happen. And indeed so much happens to them. And it indirectly affects me.

It saddens me to see my country and other western countries getting more feminist each day… and I can’t do anything about it in a large scale.

 

Thank you both so much for reading and complimenting! 

[dsayers]

I can’t do anything about it in a large scale.

Don't let scale stop you please. Feminists weren't able to change things overnight either. Stick to your convictions by voicing them and not allowing people into your life who run contrary to them.