Needing a good source of information about relationship stats

[SarahHurn]

Hi all,

I have a friend who is currently seperating from his wife of 12 years and he rang me to tell me he has already got into another relationship. I totally freaked out and told him a whole bunch of reasons why it was a very bad idea, for his wife, himself and the new woman. He also has a son so I also told him he should have his head in books that will help him be able to support his son through this time and hang his balls up for at least 12 months, and also of course any energy should be going into finding ways to make things work for their family to stay together. He was taken aback, and said he felt frustrated that I wasn't happy for him.

I want to know if anyone knows links to good sources that give stats about this kind of thing, and how long is the right time to wait before even considering a new relationship. I remember Stef saying a month for every year you've been in a relationship or maybe it was more than that. So in this guy's case at least 12 months.

 

I'm not too good at looking for reliable information on the web, everything I've googled is stuff like "you'll know when the time is right" and shit like that, or divorced parents trying to justify their poor choices. I would like some stats that show failure rates of starting relationships too soon after long term relationships or psychology advice to give to my friend, he is open to me challenging him but I want to do it with facts.

If anyone can point me in the right direction I'd be grateful for your help and time.

 

Sarah

[Wuzzums]

I don't have any good sources but I do have some guy-advice which can do wonders.

 

Make it as blunt as possible, tell him to rub one out and rethink his actions.

[SarahHurn]

Brilliant, I'll try that!!

[SarahHurn]

Stef answered the question in the recent call in show, he said a general rule of thumb of the time it takes to recover and be ready for a new relationship is half the time of the failed one.. so in this case 6 years!