Video for People Clueless About Healthy Relationships

[aviet]

From time to time I go over the the forums on bodybuilding.com. It's an interesting place to visit, which is largely filled with people whose minds are brimming with: pleasure seeking, ascetics, materialism, social hierarchy, abundance of sex and base culture; though there are notable exceptions.

There I have mainly replied to threads relating to depression and relationships and have had quite a few PMs from people who were blown away with my comments in the sea of 'brah', 'sloots' and bad grammar.

Does anyone have an idea of a good video of Stef's for people there who are seeking relationships based on superficialities?

To give you an idea of what a sorry state they are in, this is one of the recent posts: "I need help have no idea what to do(Serious) Escort might have poked a hole in condom".

The capitalisation of Escort is an interesting touch.

Some others:

• 25 YO virgin, should I just go with ugly girl to have sex and improve confidence?
• should i bang a fat chick "to get back in the game"

I'd love to hear how some of these would respond with an hour with Stef.

There is enough to keep him in multiple sexual/relationship disaster podcasts a day ad finitum.

[Jot]

Bodybuilding.com forums or in other words the place where full grown men never made it out of highschool mentality. 

 

That place is the internet version of a high school building + yard. Their concerns, the way they talk, their taunts, bullying, slurs are exactly what 15-16 old guys act like the difference is that most men on that forum are 25+.

 

If you look at that place from this perspective everything about that forum makes sense. In high schools, the most important things are physical attractiveness, unemphatic cooky/obnoxious/bullying personality (alpha male traits for high schoolers) which translates into success with "sloots", the ultimate goal. 

 

Like any high school, there are also people with social anxiety, insecurity, and loneliness issues who seek to fix themselves by asking the more confident guys what should they do? The insights they get with the help of those guys is that "thats coz your a phaggot" and they offer top-notch advice as well "just get over it", "stop being such a little bitch", "its all in your head".

 

Also, that place always struck me as a community of quite a low IQ average score. It does not look like most people there have a chance mentally evolving in any way so it makes sense that the most vital aspect of their life is having a nice body.

 

 

However, Misc is quite a funny place at times.

[aviet]

Bodybuilding.com forums or in other words the place where full grown men never made it out of highschool mentality.

 

 

That is a good analogy; and that, as well as most of what you have said is why I like it so much. My favourite FDR podcasts - the ones I have learnt the most from - are the ones when damaged goods call in. My favourite has been delisted on the Youtube channel, but can be accessed via the Youtube video Id: xTdq7DJQMw4

 

When I was younger, I realised that important learning experiences tend to be at the expense of bad experiences. But I have found I have gained the same knowledge from Stef's deconstructions with the various trauma call-ins.

 

As for Bodybuilding.com, I only go there very sporadically, to the misc section. I've been surprised with the results my postings have had there, which all seem to have come via PM, rather  than exposing that they are really a sensitive beta phaggot in public.

 

I would love to hear one of them on a call-in.

[scottm]

From time to time I go over the the forums on bodybuilding.com. It's an interesting place to visit, which is largely filled with people whose minds are brimming with: pleasure seeking, ascetics, materialism, social hierarchy, abundance of sex and base culture; though there are notable exceptions.

 

There I have mainly replied to threads relating to depression and relationships and have had quite a few PMs from people who were blown away with my comments in the sea of 'brah', 'sloots' and bad grammar.

 

Does anyone have an idea of a good video of Stef's for people there who are seeking relationships based on superficialities?

 

To give you an idea of what a sorry state they are in, this is one of the recent posts: "I need help have no idea what to do(Serious) Escort might have poked a hole in condom".

 

The capitalisation of Escort is an interesting touch.

 

Some others:

• 25 YO virgin, should I just go with ugly girl to have sex and improve confidence?
• should i bang a fat chick "to get back in the game"

I'd love to hear how some of these would respond with an hour with Stef.

 

There is enough to keep him in multiple sexual/relationship disaster podcasts a day ad finitum.

He's got a bunch of them, this one is great & matches your criteria: 

[Jot]

That is a good analogy; and that, as well as most of what you have said is why I like it so much. My favourite FDR podcasts - the ones I have learnt the most from - are the ones when damaged goods call in. My favourite has been delisted on the Youtube channel, but can be accessed via the Youtube video Id: xTdq7DJQMw4

 

When I was younger, I realised that important learning experiences tend to be at the expense of bad experiences. But I have found I have gained the same knowledge from Stef's deconstructions with the various trauma call-ins.

 

As for Bodybuilding.com, I only go there very sporadically, to the misc section. I've been surprised with the results my postings have had there, which all seem to have come via PM, rather  than exposing that they are really a sensitive beta phaggot in public.

 

I would love to hear one of them on a call-in.

 

The link does not work.

 

Yeah, I get what you are saying with them sending PM's. They are torn apart in the inside because their true self wants to be vulnerable and expose how they are hurt but because they believe this makes them beta, objects of scorn and so forth they will not drop the tough guy persona in public.

 

I would like to hear such a podcast too but I am afraid that it would be extremely rare that a person who is a devoted member there would have the vulnerability, humility, and capacity for reason necessary to get anything out of talking to Stefan, I foresee such calls ending quite abruptly. 

[dsayers]

Topic title should have a question mark.

 

The only "secret" to finding a romantic relationship has nothing to do with romantic relationships: self-knowledge. Up your self-knowledge and you up your immunity to bullshit and trivialities. After that, the way you approach all relationships will shape who is in your life. A quality mate will be the person with whom you are best friends. With whom your feelings mount involuntarily in response to the other person's virtues.

 

Be honest about how you feel and don't listen to your inner-abusers; Seize the moment and understand that it's okay to be happy. Don't throw it away in an attempt to re-create the trauma of your past for familiarity's sake just because things aren't "perfect." Especially if the person was kind enough to not turn their back on you when you behaved in not perfect ways.

[aviet]

He's got a bunch of them, this one is great & matches your criteria: 

Thank, I've not seen this one.