Your time is precious, don't waste it.

[Carl Green]

I don't know about you guys, but as far as I'm concerned, the most valuable resource I have is time. As I see it, if you don't have time, you don't have anything else.

 

Given that, we can say when you're talking with someone, you're giving them your time.  When you're typing up replies to replies to replies on the board, you're giving them your time. You're spending your most valuable resource on them.

 

Since time is of such an important value, it makes it very important to accurately assess what you're spending your time on. Ask yourself what the goal is in engaging in the discussion with this person/group. Are you spending your time on genuinely helping someone else out, or are you just trying to make sure it's clear that you're 'right' yet again? I don't want to imply either one is correct here, but if you spend your life trying to find new people to prove yourself right to, you'll find a limitless supply of people to do that with, and before you know it, all that precious time is gone.

 

Try keeping this in mind, when you're the navigator, you don't waste your time telling the pilot/driver all the places not to go, you just share the right directions.

 

Life is too short. Fill yours with positive connections by genuinely helping people out (and leaving alone the people you can't.)

[dsayers]

Too true! One of the more valuable lessons I've learned in the past 7.5 months. Prior to that, I was in defeatist mode, happily looking forward to days when I had nothing else to do so I could spend as long a chunk of time playing World of Warcraft as possible. Since then, such things (while fun) seem like such a colossal waste of time to me. I watch so few movies/shows these days as a result. My schedule present day is so full of meaning and self-care.

 

In fact, I recently had a day where a minor mis-prioritization, followed by accidentally giving somebody more of my time than they were worth led to the first half of my day going by with unfulfilled goals. I was surprised at how much this weighed on me during the second half of my day. I'm glad that it did though because on the day I was ready to start formally working out, I had a number of pretty good reasons to hold off. I consulted a buddy of mine who's well-versed in such things and he encouraged me to go for it anyways. I was conflicted. In the end, I chose to go for it simply because I remembered how much that un-productive half day weighed on me. Sure enough, I was productive, did not regret it, upped my human capital and health, and learned more about myself in the process.

 

The best part is that I recognize the ways in which my scheduling and prioritization--including addressing problems with them as I detect them--is yet another way I get live free from the abuse of my childhood. I was groomed to be self-destructive and this is yet another way I have risen above that programming

 

BTW Carl, what motivated you to post this if you don't mind sharing?

[Black Anarchist]

Thanks very much. Time is importent. Sometime I feel I am taking more time then give it. I will see what I can do to contribute to the forum in future.