My flatmate is a psychopath

[NinaS03]

Hello guys!

I am a very sensitive person with a good amount of human knowledge. My flatmate is a girl like me and also the same age. The first weeks I thought she is quite nice, very polite, humorous and charming like nobody else. We spend a lot of time together and but she was very engaging. I started to get a bad feeling, she manipulated me many times, which I found out now and lied to me. I didnt ask her why because she would have said that its not true. I am totally sure that she is a psychopath. From time to time her behavior is getting worse and worse. She never cleans and it is normal for her that I have to do everything. If i asked her to clean she said that she will do it, but doenst do it. She turns up her music in the night, without any guilt. She uses boys all the time and also other people and she thinks she is the center of the univers. I am scared because I know she doenst feel the same way like me and she doesnt have the ability to regret or have empathy. I dont know what to do because I cant avoid her because we live together. What should I do? I feel like the victim that cant get out of the situation... I also cant move because it is hard to find another flat here in Berlin. Do you have any ideas what to do?

[Will Torbald]

I wouldn't do anything. Just keep doing everything you're doing now, and it will fix itself in a few weeks.

[Somewhere]

Look for another place. I don't know how it works in Berlin, but here in London, July is an easy month to find accommodation; the time to avoid if possible is September/October when you're competing with all the university students. In a similar situation, within a week I had moved to a better place at the same rent - in fact I found mine through a friend on Facebook who was advertising for a friend.

[Sima]

She knows she is doing wrong, and she will not change, you have to find new place to live. Dont associate with broken people.

[AccuTron]

Sorry to say that all my ancient memories of bad roommates, my own or of others, is that they don't change behavior, at least in that location.  They may move elsewhere and change, who knows why.

[ValueOfBrevity]

If you are not in a loving relationship with your flat mate, then you will probably never change her behavior.

I recommend seeking a new place to live while neglecting your chores at home 

[Guest Gee]

Hi, look for another place. Can't means impossible, not hard.

 

I was wondering though, if you don't mind sharing of course, how did you end up living with her? Did you find her on a website? Are you university friends? How did it happen that you chose to be where you are?

[Hannibal]

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