themortalgod Posted May 5, 2017 Posted May 5, 2017 So I found myself in a discussion with a female friend and we were discussing when she should have kids. My position is very similar to Stefs in that have kids when you are younger as it is healthier and doesn't waste a ton of resources building a career you are just going to throw away and while young you have the highest odds of a healthy baby. Logically I was able to more or less persuade her that the "woman can have it all" thing is a big myth (her initial plan was she was going to have kids in her 40s while also having a high level management position) but she is resiliently stuck on the idea that all she has to do is freeze her eggs when shes like 27 or 28 and then she can wait until shes in her 40s to actually have the children. I struggled to argue against this, though it strikes me as a poor choice. I googled around for arguments against it in terms of health risks but most articles on the subject I could find were merely citing that "insufficient study has been done on it to date to really draw any conclusions" so I'm left without really any evidence based arguments against it other than its a complete waste of money. (It will end up costing her $20-$30k at minimum) And that if anything happens to those eggs or they don't work out she is just screwed. Neither seem to be issues she is concerned about. The topic more or less has me interested as it is a tougher one to debate than the one Stef often is discussing about getting pregnant with 40 year old eggs having mega risks. Thoughts? Feelings?
os.motic Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 Why are you interjecting in somebody elses life choices? So what she wants to wait to have kids? Why is it imperative you tell her otherwise? 1
shirgall Posted May 8, 2017 Posted May 8, 2017 5 hours ago, os.motic said: Why are you interjecting in somebody elses life choices? So what she wants to wait to have kids? Why is it imperative you tell her otherwise? Plenty of reasons a discussion can visit any topic. Good friends have curiosity about the choices their friends make or are considering.
meetjoeblack Posted May 25, 2017 Posted May 25, 2017 On 5/5/2017 at 4:46 PM, themortalgod said: So I found myself in a discussion with a female friend and we were discussing when she should have kids. My position is very similar to Stefs in that have kids when you are younger as it is healthier and doesn't waste a ton of resources building a career you are just going to throw away and while young you have the highest odds of a healthy baby. Logically I was able to more or less persuade her that the "woman can have it all" thing is a big myth (her initial plan was she was going to have kids in her 40s while also having a high level management position) but she is resiliently stuck on the idea that all she has to do is freeze her eggs when shes like 27 or 28 and then she can wait until shes in her 40s to actually have the children. I struggled to argue against this, though it strikes me as a poor choice. I googled around for arguments against it in terms of health risks but most articles on the subject I could find were merely citing that "insufficient study has been done on it to date to really draw any conclusions" so I'm left without really any evidence based arguments against it other than its a complete waste of money. (It will end up costing her $20-$30k at minimum) And that if anything happens to those eggs or they don't work out she is just screwed. Neither seem to be issues she is concerned about. The topic more or less has me interested as it is a tougher one to debate than the one Stef often is discussing about getting pregnant with 40 year old eggs having mega risks. Thoughts? Feelings? I had a argument on a message board with a woman. She is 30 + who spent her best years being a booty call rather then settling down and lock down a good man. She now spends her days with cats and egg freezing threads on reddit. This is what feminism brings. It leaves women more and more unhappy and these so called experts are promoting stupidity.
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