Freedomain Posted April 14, 2018 Posted April 14, 2018 Question 1: [1:57] – “I'm 28, male and I feel as though I've got low sexual market value/social value in general because of my height. After taking anabolic drugs and noticing the difference in the way people act toward me and I wonder if I've ever been respected before I ‘took the plunge.’ I'm wondering if this is the fate that befalls men like me. I've realized there is no positive word for a small man. I earn 6 figures and live in a major city and yet before my ‘transformation’ I was never approached first, was regularly rejected and was often cheated on. Since I started taking the drugs three years ago, it’s like I'm a different person. I got a fair amount of attention at the bar, had a year-and-a-half long, rocky relationship with my high school crush who'd previously ‘friendzone'd’ me, had my first three-way, and eventually met my current girlfriend who actually seems to value me. I've often battled feelings of worthlessness. I recently began to question if it was all in my head or if people actually looked at me that way. My current girlfriend even once drunkenly admitted that if I wasn't in the shape I'm in, our first date might have gone differently. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place here. Do I keep risking my health for a ‘life worth living’, or do I stop, shrink back into my former self and go back to simply surviving?”Question 2: [2:13:16] – “Although both our political and ethical viewpoints mostly converge, unlike you, I wholeheartedly oppose anarchism. I believe libertarianism is actually a superior proponent of the non-aggression principal. That no freedom should be unnecessarily revoked, but a very small amount of regulation is required in order to sustain an ideal laissez faire, capitalist, as free as possible society. I believe that the idea of “no government" is fundamentally flawed, because humans will inevitably default to socialism or authoritarianism if no boundaries are set and so anarchy is unsustainable. I see an ideal government not as a enforcer, but as a failsafe for times where bad ideas become too popular, or when there is no incentive to not neglect them. I believe that we need to protect ourselves from ourselves, because we have severally underestimated the proportion of the population that is unqualified, by virtue of their objective intellect (IQ), to make political, economic, social and ethical decisions. Is leaving everyone to their own accord (anarchy) really viable considering the majority of the population is utterly incapable of consulting reason over emotions, or looking more than a few weeks into the future?”Question 3: [3:24:21] – “I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months now. I am a Christian and he is an atheist. We have been able to have really good conversations, and while we don't agree on many things, we have been at least able to dialogue about it reasonably. Now though he is often bored and disinterested in our conversations. He swears that all I ever want to discuss is work, health, and ‘babies’ and he just doesn't care. I have tried to stimulate conversations about things he is interested in, but he feels like I'm unable to contribute to the conversation enough about things like politics, economics, history, and philosophy so he claims that he just gave up trying. Now I have lost some confidence in my ability to be an interesting, intelligent conversationalist. Do you have any advice for how to improve in that area? Is there something wrong with me that I am unable to keep up with him in this regard or are we just incompatible intellectually?”Your support is essential to Freedomain Radio, which is 100% funded by viewers like you. Please support the show by making a one time donation or signing up for a monthly recurring donation at: http://www.freedomainradio.com/donate Listen to the Podcast
barn Posted April 14, 2018 Posted April 14, 2018 To the first caller, Hi John, Hope you read this... A fair amount of your story deeply resonated with me. I have only good wishes for you, really appreciate you sharing all that! Get off drugs, 'stop running' man (from the truths you already know) it's exhausting and pointless, you know you can't keep it up... Mourning the past, assigning responsibility where the onus is due, IS GOING TO sure up the holes, stop your soul from sinking further, feeling constant pain deep down will disappear. (Dealing with the root cause makes the symptoms vanish, only that can make them stop: the things that you think you are addicted to, but they're just a form of self-medication, avoidance of facing questions you had formulated a long time ago and have been carrying for ages. It was time you listened to your true-self, right?! ) If you want to be your true-self, be a good parent (not photocopy, potentially repeat/inflict unexamined harm because you don't see it having been done to you...) and have more quality interactions, in order to do that you neeeed to 'stop running'... talk therapy, man! Do it, before you 'solidify'! Time is getting shorter. Do it as a favour for yourself! It's a lot easier to be natural when you know what virtues you bring to the world. (at peace, confidence based on evidence, truth) Live in a solid house rather than constantly keep propping up a crumbling shack and wasting your energies on chasing illusions! I wish you 'stopped running.' All the best to you John, Barnsley p.s. (You're smart, use it. FDR Podcast 1927, have a listen. )
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