Stan Hunter

I've been enjoying "The whole brained child" and "Unconditional Parenting" books.

Hi, let me start off by saying I have twin toddlers. Now that you know I have kids, let me say this: As has been mentioned, this 3 year old doesn't have a fully developed brain. All humans born with a fully formed brain have the upper region (reason and abstract thought or "upstairs", which is not fully developed) and a lower region; the Amygdala. When your son acts like this, he's "downstairs" with the amygdala. This will happen. This is always temporary, unless he is under a tremendous amount of stress (or perceives it that way). More than anything it's important to give him some time to let that pass. When he returns to the "upstairs" region of thinking and subsequent behavior, THAT'S the time to discuss his behavior. And when you do this you want to do it in a way that he can understand. Wait until he returns to a rational mindset, then discuss the events that transpired earlier. I hope this helps.

Indeed. I think this can have a profound effect. I never had the pleasure of having someone confirm that what I experienced was wrong, -not directly anyway. It was observing what happens when my friends got in trouble. They had very different experiences. No shouting or hitting or threats of broken bones. There was one event where my father smashed one of my toys into tiny pieces right in front of me, he was in a rage because I ran across a neighbors yard and the neighbor complained. I simply ran away to my grandmother's house, a few miles away. I was in pieces, I could hardly breath with the adrenaline and hard sobbing I was doing. What really stuck with me though was that I overheard her make a phone call to my dad. She said "you think you're being a little extreme perhaps?". In the context of this community, that certainly wasn't enough, but it gave me a shred to hold onto.

A handful of friends and family work in mental health professions. They're almost unanimous in the idea that the public mental hospitals in the United States were better than what we have now. (Private care and homelessness AFAIK) Are there examples of private mental health care in the real world? Are there theories on how this can work in a libertarian society? I was not able to find anything but criticisms and research that tries to justify tax-propped systems.

I think someone in the Harvard U administration is trolling these SJW's really hard.

Thanks, it looks like we'll be going. Still eerily quiet on the topic.

Is anyone going to Porcfest this year? I've never been. Is it any good?

That is powerful. Will the cartoon get cleaned up for publishing? Or is there a higher resolution scan?

Thanks for the input everyone. With my son there's a couple issues. 1) He moves constantly in his sleep, and we don't have a setup that protects against him falling off the bed 2) he still wakes up frequently, but more so when co-sleeping It's been a month. We're down to 3 wake-ups per evening. The reflux is less common now. We've eliminated rice cereal and the medication*. We give them both probiotics. *There have been exceptions, 2 nights ago his acid reflux was the most severe I've ever seen it. He was literally choking on stomach acid and gasping for air. We gave him the medication that time and it helped. Afterwards, he wasn't interested in sleeping again for 2 hours.

Just about 6 months I work full-time. Mom is "on-duty" from about 2am to 8am, takes a nap from 8ish-11 while her father babysits. Then she's on-duty again until about 10pm. So I'm the go-to from 10-2 so she can get a little rest. Any suggestions on the reflux are welcome. I'm literally open to anything, even if it's shamanism. I'm serious. If it works, I'll do it. We've got nothing from traditional western medicine to solve this problem. "It's common and normal. Here's a drug." The milk is just not producing. I'll look into it more, but they get maybe 4 oz. each per day. It has always been a struggle to produce enough for two (yes I know, two breasts, two babies, seems like human women are built for it) The pediatrician and all the books recommend starting solids at 5 months, we have not encountered any recommendations or data on holding off on solids. We aren't fans of the "Let them cry it out" approach, and have yet to try this approach, but I want it to be clear that most of the people we discuss these issues are of the opinion that we over-think this issue, and worry too much. Yes, I worry. Probably because I'm a sleep-deprived adult. Go figure. We co-slept in a spontaneous fashion early on, it is wonderful. Occasionally, we still co-sleep when they refuse to be left to sleep on their own. This approach is heavily downplayed, avoided, and discouraged in conventional literature. Our only concern is that it could become an habit the babies will expect in addition to the 3h (maximum) sleep increments that my son exhibits. It seems like a recipe for insanity.

I don't think you have to be defensive about the guilt thing in your conversations with kids. Keep it free and natural in your exchanges. Provide answers as they ask them, rather than say "This screwed me up, don't let it do that to you!". A different attitude and open, honest conversations can go a long way.

Perhaps try emailing Dr. Faye Snyder to ask if there is data available? I have her book "The Manual" and it talks about the problems caused by day care, but I have not dug in sufficiently enough to find cold hard data.

Thanks for pointing this out. I'm a bit of a newb with editing wikipedia. I commend your efforts anyways. I have to say, overall I'm impressed with wikipedia's neutrality, relative to the rest of the internet, but I have absolutely seen bias seeping through, this particular scenario seemed like it was blatantly ransacked by a leftist troll. This raises another question/discussion point, which relates to my personal journey towards anarchism. Many a new libertarian surfs wikipedia to verify and seek out information that corroborates the libertarian position, so I think having Voluntarists amongst the editors is a good thing. But who am I to say? It's not like I have a ton of time on my hands to police wikipedia. The canned "anarcho-commie" response. I've heard it before. But that's, like... just your opinion man.... In a year-long debate with a friend about the merits of Voluntarism, his emotional attachment to having some kind of authority had him finally admitting that maybe a "proto-government" would be OK and morally acceptable.

Fellow peaceful parents, I have double trouble. My wife gave birth to twins last summer. I am very tired, stressed, and I have gotten extremely anxious on a few occasions. I do not want this to affect my children in a negative way. Problem: My son wakes up every 3 hours... on a good night. My daughter wakes up once, feeds, and goes back to bed. We've been lucky on that front I suppose. But by 2am my nerves are shot. I've had to wake up Mom on several occasions so I can step away for a little while. Description: On a bad night, like last night, he wakes up 5-6 times, wakes up his sister at least once, and wants to be held while he sleeps. If we put him down, he wakes up and cries. If you make the wrong move (offer him a bottle when he doesn't want it, check his diaper, etc.) he cries. He also often simply refuses to go back to sleep, for hours at a time. I have some sympathy for him, because he has pretty bad acid reflux, and subsequently is a prolific spitter upper. Often when he wakes up I can hear him juggling fluid in his esophagus. That's usually when he refuses to go back to sleep. Being horizontal seems to aggravate the reflux problem. So that's understandable, if not exhausting. But at other times he does not suffer from reflux, and simply wants to be held. I don't know how he functions with so little sleep. Granted, his dad can go 4 - 5 days straight on only 4-5 hours a night, but after months of this and the crying and trial and error (mostly error) my nerves are suffering. I'm a zombie at work. Mom and I are strong advocates for attachment parenting. But most babies are singles. That is to say, they aren't competing for attention. The challenge we face is forming strong attachments for both of them. Possible Solutions: There are a few schools of thought on how to handle this problem. Give the baby what they want, regardless of your own needs (this is starting to wear me down) Soothe the baby but don't pick them up, try that twice, and if it doesn't work, see step 3; "Let them cry it out" Since some of you will probably ask: Doctor doesn't have anything to offer except a ranitidine prescription. It lessens the problem but is in no way a cure. I'm not a fan of this medication buy we if we don't use it, it's a guarantee that we will not be sleeping He was breastfed almost exclusively, but mostly drinks formula now (Mom doesn't produce enough for two, and he refuses to breastfeed unless from a bottle at this point) The acid reflux was a problem while breast feeding, so that is not a factor per se He eats "solid" food (rice cereal, fruit, veggies) He shares a giant crib with his sister, who usually tries to sleep through these frequent episodes he (insists) sleeps on his stomach He does not have any other problems we know of, very healthy baby, developmentally on schedule and in some ways ahead Mom is home all day, every day, we both have strong bonds with the babies They were cesarian delivery (long story) And for some reason we get asked this often: They are not twins because of in vitro fertilization.

All traces of Anarchocapitalism and Voluntarism have been removed from the main article on Anarchism on wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anarchism Furthermore, they have been removed from "Part of a series on Anarchism" article set. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Voluntaryism The voluntarism article is rather incomplete I think. Is anyone here an editor? I don't know the first thing about contributing to wikipedia or proposing edits.

I read a book on cheating, and a similar observation was made. People are more likely to cheat when they see someone get away with it. I gotta find that study! This. I live in a very "left-wing" part of the country, and this is the assumption, without question. It doesn't matter that the people making these statements live in the top 5% of socio-economic status in the world, they think anyone wealthier than them is cheating and that they can afford to sustain the whole country at a U.S. New England middle-class standard of living.

Putting more thought into this... there's some inconsistencies. First of all, yes, it would implicate the wealthy on the left as well as the right. Secondly, there is the fact that religious conservatives "are the most giving" when it comes to charities and non-profits (NGO's for you Europeans). Thirdly, as mentioned above, people who are born into poverty who achieve higher socio-economic status? Fourthly, read up on people who win the lottery (who are almost always poor), and how their stories play out. It's pretty much a guarantee that it will end in tragedy. Fifth, as mentioned above, what about the control group? Oh wait, there's no mention of it. Because there isn't one? I'm having trouble wrapping my head around the candy test. You have someone wait in a waiting area. In this country, waiting rooms often having candy bowls. And you mention in passing that the candy bowl is to be sent to a children's hospital?

Excellent point, I wonder about the professor who did the study. @JakeZeal the study can be found here: http://www.pnas.org/content/109/11/4086.full

http://www.pbs.org/newshour/bb/business-jan-june13-makingsense_06-21/ I'm curious about this, and would love to hear thoughts and opinions on the matter. It's *one* study, but it got quite a bit of media coverage. I'm especially interested in opinions from other researchers, and I am interested if there is research that reveals counter-evidence. EDIT: Original study found here: http://www.pnas.org/content/109/11/4086.full This guy is on some kind of "crusade" : https://socialecology.uci.edu/faculty/ppiff

Researchers at Stanford University’s Center for Research on Education Outcomes, or CREDO, have released the results of 3 major studies on charter schools and their effects since 2009. The first study found that charter schools had little effect on outcomes. Naturally this fed criticism of private schooling and school choice advocates. The third study showed promise. This tells me that Stanford's CREDO may not have a stake in bringing down the school choice movement. So why is the first study showing bad results? What are the explanations for these negative outcomes? And are there any left-wing criticisms of school-choice that have any merit? To that point, I read this article https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/got-dough-how-billionaires-rule-our-schools. It shows that the Gates Foundation is tampering with the school system and that they have not yet found a solution for the lagging education quality in the U.S., but also goes on to criticize private interests without actually explaining *why* it's wrong. From what I can tell, the Gates Foundation has not found a solution, but they're trying. Putting this in perspective with the accomplishments(?) of the U.S. Department of Education, and I can't say I mind the Gates Foundation at least attempting to break up the Teachers' Union monopoly. Thoughts anyone? Disclaimer: I'm a father of newborn twins. I want to have a thorough understanding of how to get the highest quality of education for my children and what my options are.