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High IQ but struggle to understand concepts and ideas
David Ottinger replied to Crusader1986's topic in General Messages
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Odds of a healthy relationship coming out of that aren't in your favor.
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These "news" outlets are not in the pursuit of truth. Instead, they're using language and symbols instrumentally. Basically, they're marketing an idea that is unpopular in order to normalize its premise. Repeat something long enough and by people of social status and you begin to manifest that idea. Hence, the Chinese proverb. "Three men make a tiger."
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For me, the argument for the state has always been an argument for war. And, the gun in the room analogy hits the nail on the head for me. i.e. People fight for that gun until totalitarianism eventually emerges. So, while I agree that Anarcho-capitalism is a valid antithesis to the state. And, I think Voluntaryism is the thesis thereafter which gives us a heading. There is still the pragmatic dilemma of: Who will protect the infant while it matures? In my many years of studying this school of thought, we're ultimately trying to overcome war. But, what happens when you meet an adversary that does not care to be reasoned with while actively pursues total control over the governing institutions under the illusion of best intentions? "It's all for the greater good." We can't all just exit the room leaving the retards to fight it out and hopefully kill each other. As long as there is the gun, war will emerge. Over the many years trying to reason with these "liberals," I have watched them double down and become polarized towards advocating communism. They make no apologies about wanting total control over the governing institutions. This is what they fight for. More importantly, they have been winning. What good is anarcho-capitalism, voluntaryism, or libertarianism when you're dead? Don't get me wrong, I don't think this conversation should let up. But, in light of current events, do we have a horse in the race? Either our horse failed to make it out of the gate, or she doesn't exist, i.e. The stage of infancy for this voluntary form of governance has yet to be born. Or, technically, this conversation is it. I've watched it grow. I've helped it grow. But, who is going to protect it from the self-righteous SJWs (or whatever you want to call them) from reaching for the gun and outlawing reason as hate speech? I'm strongly opposed to war, but I'm also not a pacifist. If the virtuous among us allow the might to fall in the wrong hands, then all is lost. This has always been the ultimate argument in favor of the state.
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Ok, you're not going to be able to fight off your amygdala. That's a very sophisticated system that has ensured your genetics are alive today. So, first off, let's not make that beautiful system your enemy. Basically, if your approach to this situation is to suppress that reaction, then you're just loading the spring. But, there is plenty of hope here... Try this: Instead of approaching the situation with the perception that you could be hurt, look at it as though it's an opportunity for you to connect with someone that will provide support in your life. If you find there is resistance within you as to why you cannot reach such a conclusion, then explore that. Journal about it. Whatever you have to do to reason it out. Ultimately, your perception needs to change from (a) a thought of loss which releases cortisol in you and paralyzing your interaction, to (b) an opportunity to gain emotional support in your life thereby releasing dopamine during the interaction.
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Hi AccuTron, Thanks for the response. Why is Fear a bad thing? I don't find that it is. If we didn't mistake shadows for predators lurking in the bushes and ran away, then we wouldn't be here -- which I was vaguely referencing in the above post. Basically, there are pros and cons to all these mechanisms. This site gives pretty good insight into all the "feel good" chemicals that occur: https://innermammalinstitute.org/
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I think the emotions VS thought (or better yet somatic mind VS intellectual mind) is a short hand dichotomy for what's actually going on. An analogy I've found useful is to consider oneself as an exposed nerve to the world. And with that, emotions are derived from this relationship with the world. From an evolutionary standpoint, we have developed various features (e.g. brain functions) to navigate this world. Intellectualizing the world around us is one of many coping mechanisms we have. This particular feature of the human condition is so advanced that we are able to adapt to the world around us insofar as to change the environment. In order to manifest our ideas, we ascribe emotional associations with them, or else how will they ever be experienced empirically? The absence of emotions is apathy. That sort of state of mind is antithetical to being a productive being. But to be inspired and motivated to achieve something feels like a fire burning within. Thus emotional vigor is essential for a fruitful life. And having access and acceptance of your full range of emotions allows you to be stoic in that you're more aware of the self, thus are more immersed in the present as you experience the world as well as how you "the exposed nerve" interprets these experiences. And, from that understanding, one can adapt his/her responses. Mind you, there is no such thing as omniscience, so there is no such thing as a perfect response. Either way, the world doesn't stop moving while you try to think things through. So, if the body always waited for the intellectual feature of ourselves to respond, then we'd be dead and extinct. Hence, when the base brain function (analogously the reptilian brain) takes over, you're stuck within the flight, fight, or freeze response of this brain function. Our abstraction of this sensation is called fear. Do you really think you can live without fear? Can you see why fear is a healthy response? I hope my crude explanation was helpful in providing a different perspective.
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"Hillary isn't corrupt or criminal", to which you reply...?
David Ottinger replied to zoomharp's topic in Current Events
This assortment of pictures comparing the duality in propaganda over the years is, imo, relevant to this topic: http://imgur.com/a/o61AS Enjoy! Or... wait, maybe, run for hills? -
My family has gone full libtard... (Need Advice)
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Step must interview Richard Spencer
David Ottinger replied to Mrdthree's topic in Reviews & Recommendations
Is this about that time Richard raised his glass to toast victory after giving a speech, and people passionately raised their hands for the Q&A, but the fake news media dubbed them all literally Hitler? -
I don't think the "establishment" will give up on pushing cultural Marxism. Trump winning is nothing more than a set back that they have to adapt to. But, there is no reason to accept that they've given up on pushing for a one world government. If anything, their issue is the scalability of their current governing model. Basically, I would say their current model reached a point of diminishing returns. Now, this change in leadership serves as a correction. Where Trump actually fits into it all is uncertain at this point. And, in many ways, I think that's what most people fear. I suspect the media will try to feed into that fear while pushing a solution that promotes cultural Marxism as it has been doing these various past years. But, right now the momentum is in Trump's favor, and the establishment will try to slow this down until it gains leverage over the narrative -- which it still has quite a lot of influence over. After all, SJWs are still their army of useful idiots.
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The due process of law is being fulfilled, although she is still at risk. In order to alleviate this risk, I think she should consider private security measures, and then file a civil suit against the boy for those expenses.
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(1) When you (or anyone for that matter) says, "...willing ones will requires somebody to be omnipotent..." You have defined will outside of reality. So, you edify my point by making that the requisite for will power to exist. If that is the definition of will power, then we've setup a false dilemma. I have no reason to accept that as an objective definition of will power. I fail to see how this is a straw man. (5) I am a man of nature. We all are. As a result there is a nature to our being -- which implies limitations. But, just because there are limitations, that does not automatically imply that we're finite. Consider set theory. You can have an infinite set of infinities. That means there can be infinities of infinities. Hence, the golden ratio. Or, the idea of a fractal universe. In other words, even though there is no such thing as true random, that doesn't mean the variability of reality can not be influenced by man. The degree to which we can affect our environment is proof that we are capable of being a force of nature. And, that in essence is will power. It's not omnipotence. But, it can affect the ebb and flow of space-time. Granted, there are larger forces of nature influencing our reality. And, yes, our fight against entropy is ultimately a driving force that influences our nature. But, just because there are parameters, that doesn't mean there cannot be anomalies that serve as doors (if you will) to another framework. An animal that lacks empathy, simply cannot utilize that particular framework to his/her/its advantage. It just doesn't have that sort of metric. In order for a being to achieve an end, that entity is limited by its nature. And, human have adapted insofar as to produce the power of abstraction thereby allowing one the ability to hack reality, thus affecting consequences. Exercising ones will power does not imply certainty of experience. Will power only implies influence on events, not control of events. (6) I don't know what it means for a decision to be free. Free from what? Reality? Because there is no escaping reality. (7) We're getting into morality here, and with that we're introducing a sub-topic to free will. Of course, I agree that there are physiological aspects that affect a humans ability to be self-aware enough (or intelligent enough) to understand moral theories and their benefits, thus affecting the individual's ability to influence his/her own behavior with respect to those theories. But, that is not cause for a moral free pass. You still have the de facto vs de jure dichotomy even if people do not understand it. For example, a foreigner can steal someone's property not knowing there is a pre-existing claim on that object. That lack of intent to steal doesn't mean that incident cannot be defined as an act of theft. Intent simply affects the degree to which it is malicious. We can discover the intent of an individual. Intent is evidence of free will. And, the overall point is that not all beings have the same amount of will power. That implies that will power can be expended. How you expend your will power today will affect how you expend your will power tomorrow. It also affects the amount of will power one can expend as it is like a muscle that can be developed and made stronger. Clearly, "will power" isn't an abstraction regarding how omnipotent one can be because there is no reason to accept that we are omnipotent when everything tells us otherwise. Instead, what this concept abstracts is one's ability to influence the outcome of events with respect to the self. Thus, it is more of a spectrum than merely omnipotence -- which would be the ultimate form of will power. But, again, what's the point of contemplating omnipotence when it is beyond us? That is simply not a dilemma we have. Our dilemma is discerning what we can an cannot influence. And exercising that influence is what free will is all about.
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(1) The ability to prescribe/create (however you want to put it) the governing principles of reality would be omnipotence. To have omnipotence would be to be god or play god. That's what I meant. What I'm saying is that this is not possible. And, if this is ones definition of free will, then we have defined free will outside of reality. (2) Yes, every animal has a degree of will, but their thinking isn't on par with our degree of abstraction, nor do they have hands like we do. All this means is that the subject's options to affect the environment thus one's circumstances are limited. (3) Yes, your imagination is an extension of cognitive abilities. What I was trying to convey was that the way one thinks matters, e.g. problem solving skills. This ties into self-discipline. For example, one can commit to a methodology thereby affecting his/her thinking as one's paradigm moves from subjectivity to objectivity. Committing to a methodology is basically a hack on our subjectivity. We will never achieve omniscience, so demanding 100% objectivity would be demanding the impossible. (4) What does it mater what one has been exposed to when it comes to free will? i.e. Why is free will predicated on controlling what I am exposed to rather than exerting an influence? Choice gives us the ability to influence consequences, not control them. For example, one can commit to the scientific method, thereby producing the most accurate awareness of these governing principles which we have ever known. From these discoveries we can choose how to position ourselves thereby landing people on the moon, curing disease, and resolving famine. The more one exercises his/her will, the more mastery is developed in that discipline. What you choose to practice, you will become. (5) Will is free because no other can decide how you will respond to events. That is your sovereignty. The forces of nature produce a box that you can play in, but it is on you to decide how you will play. If one infers that to mean life is a cage, then that is how he/she has chosen to take it regardless of whether that individual realizes why he/she made that choice. Understanding oneself in this regard is why self-awareness is important. This sort of abstraction of the self is a higher brain function, and utilizing such functions leads to more choices. As far as empathy goes, I do not understand what this has to do with free will. (6) Free from what? Because, we are never free from the laws of nature, nor is it a cage. This would be a false dichotomy. Self-awareness is an element of free will. Self-awareness grants a subject a larger array of choices. If you permit me to anthropomorphize the laws of nature for the following analogy, then it may serve to provide a better understanding of free will: In essence, free will is one's ability to contract with nature. The scope of which is only determined by the essence of a man, i.e. his/her integrity. "Good vs Evil" is a dichotomy of man, not of nature. And, you have the ability to affect how you choose to live.
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Welcome to the dark side. I wasn't sure about Trump until the dinner speech after the 3rd debate. When he called everyone out, that's when I accepted he really is anti-establishment. Various core members of the Republican party turning against him helped as well. Whatever the case is, Trump has already changed the political environment. But, what would you like to see happen?
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Either the guy is trustworthy, or he is not. I don't think alone time is any definitive indication of either. Or, if it is, then I don't understand why it is. For example, two weeks alone time can be hunting/camping with a buddy. You, nature, and a good friend to share the spoils with. What would be wrong with that?
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This sets up a false dilemma whereby one is required to obtain omnipotence in order to exercise free will. In other words, omnipotence is conflated with free will. If you define free will outside of reality, then yes, free will does not exist. So, if you want to say we are not capable of prescribing the governing principles of reality (i.e. play god), then I would agree because that would be omnipotence. Free will, however, is the ability to respond to the governing principles of reality insofar as to affect consequences. Governing principle + choice = consequence That means your awareness of governing principles respective of the self matters. Your imagination (i.e. creativity) matters. Your self-discipline matters. And, your cognitive abilities (i.e. conscience) matters. What you focus on will affect your thinking. What you expose yourself to on a daily basis will affect your thinking. And you have cognitive influence on all of this, thus you're capable of influencing what you will because that is what the gift of self-awareness brings you.
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"Hillary isn't corrupt or criminal", to which you reply...?
David Ottinger replied to zoomharp's topic in Current Events
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(1) One can only love to the degree one loves the self. Love responds to integrity, and integrity is made up of a commitment to truth (or honesty). So, to be truly honest is to be truly accepting of the self. "I am all that I need for there to be love." And to share this openly with others is honesty. (2) Articulation is an art form in and of itself. There are like 600,000 words and most people only know 60k, if even that. So, yes, there are many ways to invoke a concept or emphasis a feeling. (3) Equal consideration is always necessary for there to be a voluntary exchange whether it's merely ideas or actual goods/services. (4) Figure out what is the nature of the resistance. The metaphoric wall is either (a) altruistic, i.e. an attempt to protect you or someone from yourself, or (b) self-serving, i.e. the individual is protecting oneself from some perceived pain.
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Why don't people with "good" childhoods have empathy?
David Ottinger replied to Jot's topic in Self Knowledge
Thank you for the clarification. Although, I still find there is an aversion to intellectualizing being expressed here? Rather than understanding it as a defense mechanism, I understand it as a coping mechanism. One that is quite resourceful. Now, I do understand that people can utilize this resource in order to avoid feeling something, which can be construed as defensive, but I fail to see how that's happening here. So, my point is that intellectualizing events does not automatically make one defensive. I respectfully disagree with your analysis. The question was in essence, "How can person 'A' feel (i.e. empathize) with person 'B' when person 'A' has never gone through something as traumatic as person 'B' has?" Well, we all have the same assortment of emotions, so what you're dealing with here is scale. And, to put it analogously, we're an exposed nerve to the world. So, the person who went through trauma has an imprint like a groove on a vinyl if you want to consider it harmonically. Or, you can consider it like a foot print in sand verse an asteroid crater. The point is that each individual has experienced these emotions on some level, and if the two individuals are in person, mirror neurons will do much of the work for you. But, if one is genuinely trying to tap into the depth of another's experience, especially a deep fear or sadness, then they need to find a way to simulate it within themselves. Funny thing is that when it's a great feeling of joy everyone has no problem jumping into those waters and seeing how far (i.e. deep) the feeling goes. But, when it's fear or sadness or grief expressed, there is a hesitancy or reluctancy because the observer's flight response is kicking in to avoid pain for the self or even the other individual. Exposure to traumatic events lead to the development of coping mechanism to process these events so we can respond better and survive. So, someone who hasn't gone through such an experience doesn't have these tools developed in such a specialized way. And, my example served to provide one. And with that coping mechanism they can explore these deep emotions safely by finding a way to connect. Basically, everyone has experienced the full spectrum of our emotional capacity on some level, except maybe not in magnitude. Thus, everyone (psychopaths aside) can connect to the experience by calling up within themselves events that triggered those emotions and then build from there via imagination while remaining vulnerable in the moment. That initial connection is all you need if you're truly genuine in feeling the experience. That moment in my example where the individual says, "It was scary," that individual has stepped into those emotions. It may be a fractal version of the host experience, but nonetheless you're mirroring it, and thus feeling it. And, now you're a guest at this other's emotional paradigm. Enjoy the ride.- 16 replies
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Why don't people with "good" childhoods have empathy?
David Ottinger replied to Jot's topic in Self Knowledge
I don't find intellectualizing complicates things. It leads to understanding how the world works, thus expanding one's choices which promotes free will. So, I find no reason to share your aversion to it.- 16 replies
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Why don't people with "good" childhoods have empathy?
David Ottinger replied to Jot's topic in Self Knowledge
I went through abuse, and even I was unaware of how to connect openly like this. Vulnerability is difficult to step into. And it's even worse when you have a lot of responsibilities pulling you in multiple directions already. But, thanks to Brene Brown's work, I've been able to slow it down and understand others more compassionately. Just like will power is a muscle that can be trained, this ability to connect with others on a deep emotional level can be exercised, too. And, as a result, you end up expanding the bandwidth, to put it visually. You can find her TED talks, but her books on audible are the best. I recommend, "The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection, and Courage" http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-Audiobook/B00CYKDYBQ/ref=a_search_c4_1_2_srTtl?qid=1476896807&sr=1-2 I picked up that definition from Stefan myself. But, I've expanded on that definition even further due to Brene Brown's work as expressed in the post above. So, I look at it all differently now. In that sympathy example you quoted, there was relating, but it was absent of adopting the feelings in the moment because to actually feel requires one to tap into that emotional framework rather than simply acknowledging it, and that adoption of another's emotional state can be painful -- which some people don't want to step into for various reasons. So, one can relate (i.e. sympathize) with others without actually resonating emotionally with the individual. "I acknowledge what you're feeling, and I acknowledge I've felt that before, too." That's all it takes to relate, i.e. sympathize. From here some one might crack a joke to release tension, which moves us away from that emotional state. And, that's a coping mechanism as well. However, it does not give closure. Only love can bring closure. And that requires someone to connect and feel it with the individual so that the individual knows s/he is not alone. And, that's real empathy in its fullest form. The rest are just stages of it, but never the full embrace of emotional connection. One cool thing is that there are people who see colors due to synesthesia, and that's how you get people who see someone's "aura". Feeling blue?- 16 replies
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