KyleC

Hello FDR community, I am a long-time listener to FDR and pursuer of self-knowledge and personal growth, who has recently began an Skype counseling practice. I am also currently working through a Masters' in Counseling program. I bring a lot of personal experience, insight, and empathic understanding into my therapy work; and am offering it all at a premium while I am still in what I consider a training stage as a counselor. If have been considering trying out therapy, or you are looking for a boost in your personal growth, please feel free to try out a free initial consultation with me and see if you think it might be helpful for you. All the best! Kyle Below is a promo video for my Skype counseling services http://youtu.be/r6kbyKns1W0

I am happy to announce that I will be restarting my Skype therapy service next week, after I return to the USA. A combination of the inconvenient timezone and unreliable internet services in Vietnam; along with a few more procedural aspects of the therapy practice that I wanted to iron out, led me to choose to delay starting up my service earlier this summer. If you are looking to enhance your life through greater emotional connection and get greater clarity on what you want, then I would be very happy to offer you a free 60-minute inital session. My website has changed, and is now associated with a new YouTube channel I have started recently where I plan to chronicle my own past and ongoing thoughts and experiences on self-work and personal growth. So now you can find information on my therapy services at www.KyleGrows.com. I look forward to hearing from you! If you know anyone else who is looking for a therapist, I would greatly appreciate it if you passed along my url to them. Thank you.

My thanks to the brave souls to tried out my services this last week. After these initial consultations, I feel that I have learned some things and one of them being that I don't feel quite prepared to start offering therapy. So my plan is to retool, and prepare to get things started when I return to the USA in January (the time zone difference here in Vietnam is another challenge to making this happen now). Thanks for your interest, and I will be sure to update here when I am satisfied that I am able prepared to offer this service.

Hi rayamato1, It sounds like you have a real ambivalence about getting into a relationship. One the one hand you have been in the position several times of having girls you are interested in either give you clear signals of their interest or ask you out directly. And you feel you want a relationship. But on the other hand, it sounds like you feel so much fear or anxiety in the moment of expressing your interest, that you haven't gone through with it. I read all your replies, but not the other posters, so maybe this has already been said, but I think I would explore what you are afraid of might happen if you ask a girl out, or accepted her invitation. It seems you are trying to protect yourself from some consequence of getting into a relationship or checking one out. That's what the fear would be good for. But whatever that danger is, probably lies behind the fear. I can personally relate to being disappointed that I was not better able to accept and risk a closer relationships with girls I like throughout most of my public school years, so I know personally it is a very painful thing to feel.

Thanks for sharing what was a really emotionally unpleasant encounter to have had. It sounds like this guy could pick up on your feelings to some degree, but that his reaction was to put them down, by either lecturing you or pointing out something very boldly, which if true you would probably not feel safe to reveal in this context or to this person. And while it has been difficult for you historically to interrupt others to get some legitimate need met, you did take that risk here of speaking up. And I imagine that was not easy to do. Kuudos to you for dealing with these challenges productively, and as you say not passing the buck onto others in the world. In the title you mention your inner critic, but I could not gather what role this played for you in processing your anger. But it sounds like these implicit messages you felt communicated by your co-worker got under your skin, and that these are a challenge to shake off. If I get your meaning.

Hi Jack, I am not currently a donator, but I did donate on the Philosopher King level for about 1.5 years, and also about a year on the Gold level.

Hello all, I am a long-time listener of FDR who has just opened a psychotherapy practice where I see clients both in-person as well as over Skype. I started listening to FDR back in 2010, and it had a huge impact on my life, sending me deep into the study of psychology and self-knowledge. This study has been my major pursuit for over 4 years now. I am currently enrolled in a Clinical Mental Health Counseling Masters program so that I can get legit in the USA, but most of my education has come from other activities. Over the last 4 years I have around 2,000 hours of journaling focusing on understanding my deepest self, and over 800 hours in co-therapy with self-knowledge motivated aquintances. In addition, I myself completed 2-years of weekly in-person psychotherapy, over a year ago. I have also read widely on psychotherapy, particularly of the "humanistic" variety, and continue to study the works of other therapists, to the present. And now I am very happy to offer to others my capacity for empathetic understanding of the personal and difficult things we so commonly, but often secretly, face in life. As a therapist-in-training, I am offering my services at a real premium. Easily 25-50% the standard rate of practicing therapists. If think you might be interested in working with me, I offer a free initial consultation of 60-minutes. If you have more questions about my services, please see my website where I discuss many details of my service, including FAQs about how I do therapy. www.kylerchambers.com Looking forward to hearing from you. Kyle