FattyWatt

Frohicky1 said it perfect! Thank you! "The monopoly over language is the first step in any authoritarian scheme." I have to say, "Communist United States can't take off ur pants & manipulate ur dangly bits. Male or Female, which one is it?"

Wow. I don't see you as racist, having a black wife. Wouldn't that be opposite of racist, more like, open-minded? You got off to a great start, understanding to .... "treat a cult like what it is (a cult)" ----ull find ALOT of people "don't want to call their grass green"

This situation is awful. The CNN vid is more relevant. The victims are under the age of 18. Child abuse is wretched & despicable. It isn't "against the law" (i.e. rich-persons-opinion-written-down-on-paper) in the USA. Huh, that really makes me wonder-----> Do the rich people who write the laws, enjoy the prior abuse they received from their authority figures? They must've. The cycle of abuse goes round & round.

Is there a question/statement posed for this initial-post? I agree with the quote. I'm just wondering why this thread was started? Does WasatchMan want us to tell our knowlege/experience, in relation to this quote?

I've been to Utah before, which reminds me, alot of Mormons live there. Are (the religious that distinguish themselves as) mormons, known for their adherance to Universally Preferrable Behavior(UPB)? I don't think so. Do the people of Utah like to get shot? OR Do the authorities in Utah Like to shoot?

Like that tax commercial says... "Get your billions back, America!" Sure, get government subsidized. Have you ever paid "taxes" (i.e. Government Initiated Theft)? Taxes on products you buy? Taxes on working? If you've ever paid any tax, the government started this form of theft, which has already taken-away from the quality of your life (& child). There is no-option for a "tax free life". Taking UI (Unemployment Insurance), along w/having extra money, You sound responsible. Go ahead & get your money back! It's your money.

Thank you for doing this! Child abusers should feel VERY afraid, in this society Maybe the child will get hit, even 1-less time.... & that is an acheivement!!

I appreciate ur reassurances!! Because I got so much blowback, I wasn't sure it was a good thing (it just made me nervous). Thanks so much! & I'll keep working on hammering that nail! If I could get her to stop spanking I would. I think I made quite an impression on her. I still have some of that family trying to defend the poor-disabled-mother(the spanker), "we were all spanked & oh she rarely does it" ... I say, "I don't care!! then it's even easier for her STOP the abuse". I'm starting to understand *shaming* is a valid/great way to get people within the family to think about what they're doing.... & possibly change ("family" does care about what u think because they have to see u again&again)

My Xmas included this family: I'm Watt (female, 30), Fatty (male, 30ish), my dad (60), my aunt (56ish), my cousin Sacha (female, 40ish) & her daughter Ky (female, 9) Note1---My cousin Sacha has epilepsy & had a tumor, so she had an icecream-scoop-size of her brain removed (right after she had Ky). Note2---Cuz of that, Sacha is really child-like in her actions & reactive, like a teenager. Note3---My dad, aunt, Sacha & Ky all live together. Xmas yesterday, I had a great day w/everyone. At dinner Ky slapped her mom(Sacha) on the hand & hissed at her. I said that wasn't very nice. I talked to my family about how to be nice & correct that behavior. Ironically I was mentioning about how that behavior could result from bad punishment, like spanking. Sacha heard me say the word spanking & said "Oh spanking? I just spanked Ky lastnight!"---she said that with a smile on her face! I said "No, I was saying how spanking was a bad thing & abusive & that's why Ky hits you!". She kept trying to defend spanking! Every1 else got quiet. After going back & fourth awhile, Sacha says "It was Xmas Eve! Well when you're a mother, you'll understand". I was so mad, I couldn't tap into my FDR-brain, I retorted "oh well, when you get a Playstation4 you'll understand where I'm coming from! You don't abuse your kids, spanking is abuse! I don't spank Fatty, hell! Can I spank you, Sacha? Are you gonna spank her when she's 16? Spanking people isn't normal, it's violence!". Sacha is getting more mad/yelling, then poor Ky (thinking about how she'll have to deal w/her mad-mom, later...) says "it's okay, I think I made her spank me, cuz of how I was acting". I said, "no you didn't Ky & that's not the right way for her to deal with punishing you. You should never be spanked. Spanking is a tool. You see this (butter)knife, Ky? I could use this tool to punish you, but I never will!! Your mom has other ways to deal with this" Sacha, gives me the silent treatment! While my dad exclaims "yeah! you could have the naughty corner" I said "yeah, thats better than spanking! It's not smacking a kid, the naughty corner's not-violent" Everyone else keeps eating, still silent. My aunt says "well, lets try to change the subject", I said "No! I'd rather have this awkward silence to punish Sacha for being violent". Sacha gets so mad, she walks away to her room for the rest of the night. Eventhough noone supported me while I was arguing w/Sacha (probably cuz they all have to live with her), they ALL started saying to Ky, "well you can come in my room, for a safe-place, if you're scared that you're gonna be spanked or even just scared when your mom's angry" etc. I said "thank you guys, that's what I wanted, was to give Ky another option...spanking IS violence/abuse & that is NOT an option!"

First, I am so sorry for your problems. I do have neurological problems, but I do not have "DID". I have NO experience with your issues, so if my advice doesn't apply... don't take it....& I don't mean to offend. It sounds to me, like each one of your emotions are in segregated "categories" (to the point that you give each emotion a title/name?). (from your post) I see so many aspects of your personality...essentially your emotions, that are conflicting to your self. You talk in 3rd person, as if your emotions (&opinions) are separate from yourself. Talking like this makes people aware of your conflicting feelings & they might have negative reaction towards that (as a red-flag-type-of-behavior?). Maybe this is helping you recognize your feelings, 1st hand? Also, I noticed how you said something about 'trying to drink your (human) self to death'---that's so painful to hear. Have you taken into consideration, Stefan has said before, how alcohol abuse creates a form of emotional delay-in-dealing-w/problems. I noticed when I stopped drinking, I had ALOT more time to think and feel and DEAL with my problems (in your case, if you took a break from alcohol----maybe you can recover your emotional-self?). It sounds like you've been talking about your anger, separate from yourself, but it IS part of you. It might hurt, to feel AND understand that that IS part of you. It's okay! We all have anger... I call my anger "rage-a-hol" &picture a volcano exploding sometimes & have my teeth clamped. You're allowed to BE angry. You're allowed to be happy. You're allowed to be sad, or any emotion! You're allowed to FEEL! Walt (or, the name you're comfy with...) YOU, (being one person) it's ALL YOU baby!! (... i'm trying to be funny;) Good luck in the re-association process Walt!

i am so sorry, ur problems sound like they stem from traumatic events... how do u feel about that (beating the dog) incident now?

Is it possible to forgive him? Being that you're sexually abused, I am so sorry, no. Don't even bother giving him a second more of your time or thought. Could this be the reason why I have never felt emotional intimacy in relationships? Yes. No question about it. You were violated, so young, in your most personal (parent) relationship. My guess is, you might relate, that emotional intamacy hurts you, as a (understandable & valid) reaction, to your past traumatic events. Is this the reason why I don't trust men (in relationships)? Yes, as early traumatic events are very "imprinting" / "scarring" on the brain. Again, I am so sorry for your loss of feeling & such emotional pains. Good Luck --Watt

This is Watt (the one w/the pink hair) Ivan, You CAN use your excess of self-knowlege to help you get friends It's just hard & I'm sure you'll have to think ALOT. In my opinion, I don't feel I'm very picky about friends, but I am an intellectual & lacking "good/close-friends" (aside from my relationship)---- I don't want this to be a justification; I just don't have a specific answer of "where to go to get close friends?" Maybe....start having good conversations, that motivate people to keep coming back &talking to u?? That's one suggestion. Good luck! & I'll b lookin at this thread for more people's input/answers.