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Hello everyone Recently a Moroccan Atheist got his YouTube live streaming activity suspended and one his satirical video about Salomon deleted without any rational explanation given to him. This has become a trend that YouTube is censoring free speech and criticism of Islam especially within the Ex-Muslim community as they regularly receive strikes and sometimes get permanently banned from YouTube for criticizing Islam. It is possible that the Youtube arabic team of moderators act out their personal feelings and ban some contents based on their personal beliefs and emotions instead of community guidelines. This has become a very dangerous trend as many Ex-Muslim arabic and non arabic speaking are being censored and permanently banned from YouTube. Atheism in the muslim world is on the rise and during the last 5 years tens of millions of individuals men and women have left Islam to Atheism or converted to other more peaceful religions in secrecy. These people live like strangers in their own countries some of them are ostracized by their families, threatened and sometimes killed for leaving Islam. Internet and Social medias are their only outlets for free expression as they are isolated within their societies. It is also important to mention that this increasing trend of people leaving Islam has got some Islamic governments and clerics very worried of losing their credibility and power over people. Muslims especially radicals consider Internet and freedom of expression as the biggest threat to Islam and they are influencing Facebook and Youtube to censor and ban content that uncovers the dirty hidden secrets of Islam. I am linking to this Moroccan Atheist video down below. Please support him by liking his video (in english) and sharing it with everyone interested in this topic. We need more people like him! Thanks a million! Video title: Youtube Strikes Again! Channel name: Kafer Maghribi (translates to Moroccan Infidel)

It's the most cruel thing to do to a baby leaving him or her with strangers that baby has to bond with strangers in order to emotionally and maybe physically survive. It's gonna result in broken future relationships or abusive relationships, self hatred and violence against the self and against others. This abandoning of babies at such a tender age should be listed as a crime against humanity and its future.

I think self knowledge is a life long odyssey the best way in my view is to integrate the new knowledge before jumping ahead to know more, meaning accepting it and taking it seriously. Also the present is the best way to know the past (your biography) present triggers and especially when confronted with intense emotions these are signs that an old repressed emotion/childhood memory wants to come up to the surface after the emotion is experienced the memory itself surfaces then you work to integrate this new knowledge this new reality you did not know before with compassion and self love. Doing this with a compassionate therapist can speed up the process and make you feel safe and understood because self knowledge can be sometimes confusing.

I think it is staged

They do exactly the same way the first muslims conquered the middle east and north Africa then Spain by spreading chaos and fear and then changing history that it was peaceful. It's a dangerous ideology and needs to be fought

The truth about the Clintons and Obama is out there if people want to know the truth they can now with a push of a button but if they refuse to acknowledge the truth because it makes them anxious then it is not worth it to push it on them you just have to leave emotionally not only physically and not expect them to change because you may wait for a long time and can reinforce your illusions and your emotional dependency.

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If you get slapped by a psycho on the street you may apply buddhist teachings, stay zen and give the other cheek. Or you can get angry (natural animal and human response) and save your dignity and defend yourself. But if in your childhood you were brutally punished for talking back to your parents you may think in your brain that life is that way or you can choose to abandon this dangerous propaganda of zen and know that natural response to abuse is anger, rage and disgust and all these are natural human feelings (please read and try to answer Nathan Diehl question). Do you remember the way you punished for talking back ? If you do remember this violence inflicted on you as a child, this important step can open you up to discover how you were taught to get rid of anger so you became a "quiet child" and then an advocate of Zen in adulthood. Punishing children for expressing their feelings is a crime because it is literally killing their internal rich life! The joy of anger part 1 by Stefan Molyneux http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_363_The_Joy_Of_Anger_Part_1.mp3 The joy of anger part 2 http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_364_The_Joy_Of_Anger_Part_2.mp3

What a nice and exciting discussion it is really very interesting. Since 1 year and a half I found myself enjoying much parks and forests. I take my bike and I just go where there are trees and animals and very few people or no people at all and I can sit there for hours and I don't get bored!! I laughed so much when they said zombies will stay in cities it feels true!!! And the host smile and good energy is so contagious. Thank you for sharing this.

I believe you when you say that you think that your had a good mother and I think that is the reality your mother wants you to believe since a very young age abuse is always hidden behind good intensions we keep the good intensions in memory and we erase the abuse. I have listened to so many podcasts that now I clearly believe that we repeat a propaganda that we internalized so early about the "normal" childhood. The positive side of you being here and being open to talk about your childhood is that you will learn to de-normalize what was normal in your past. So...in order to see things for what they are it is important you read some books about childhood rearing and I would highly recommend you the book "For Your Own Good" by Alice Miller you can find a free copy of it at www.nospank.net (scroll to the bottom of the page) it will help you to remember things and review your ACE score. I am very sorry you had to go through a suicide attempt, that is very painful I have been there too and it is really the biggest crisis someone can go through and it is a signal quite big signal that things are not well within you and it is a good thing you are starting therapy. Also try to schedule a call with Molyneux he can help you a lot, if that happens please private msg me with the episode link. Last point is about the girl you are dating you chose this person for a reason and to know oneself better is to know that nothing is coincidence in our choices we just do things and we are driven by the unconscious in choosing things that is my view of things. Therapy should help you to bring back to the surface what was hidden in the unconscious, at that moment you will say "AHA I was in my childhood all this time without knowing it". Thank you for sharing!

We usually choose or cling to what is familiar to us. It looks like you did not have a good mother and this girl is a perfect parent figure/replacement. Have you listened to any of Stefan podcasts about childhood loneliness and the relationship mother/child ? Are you open to talk about your childhood ? Do you consider that you had a good mother and that it is purely your fault that you make bad choices ? or you consider that your choices are the template you learned in childhood from your mother. The template you internalized which your mother may have provided you with through education, punishment and rejection could be this, she could be saying this in your head "You must change not me, you are guilty not me, I am perfect you are not, Only me can love you, Don't desert me or I will be sad, You must love me, You cannot live without me, You will suffer from loneliness if you leave me, I don't owe you anything I am your mother and you owe me everything, etc etc etc" In my view it is not a coincidence that you have this girlfriend in your life though knowing why and the reasons that led to your choice is what will help you to avoid them in the future. If you have a wound and you ignore it, it does not mean that the wound is gone and the wounds from childhood go into the unconscious and pretty much run our lives. This podcast can help you http://media.freedomainradio.com/feed/FDR_312_Girlfriend_Part_2.mp3

I know and feel you write from the heart! Thank you

You're welcome I think we all need the help of others especially when we are in the beginning of the path to the real self slowly you will need less validation from others and you will provide validation for yourself without much doubts. Sometimes you will find yourself typing for yourself and no one really understand or want to understand your struggle at that precise time you should not feel guilty or abandon yourself, at that precise moment you need your own unconditional compassion for your own self because the person that ultimately should understand you is YOU others can bring support to help you to trust YOU. I too sometimes type for myself. I think that self knowledge is not yet as popular as it should be that is why you don't get much attention. On a mother note I recommend you a book called The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Hurtful Parenting by Alice Miller Take care

Yes it was concern that sports would take you away from self-knowledge thank you for clarifying your position. Self knowledge for me is the most important thing in the world. I hope it becomes also an important thing for others too. I wish you good luck in your projects!

The dream may tell you that you are still drinking your parent's propaganda. It takes so many years to heal. Dreams are very helpful and can be highly symbolic and very clear like in this one. Some of my childhood memories came up in dreams and they were very clear I used them to advance in self knowledge. Don't forget that your drinking habit was to numb your pain. Anything done in excess is to numb emotional pain and to not to remember the past. Beware of anything you are doing in your life in excess that can serve your escapism. Also beware of finding all sorts of "logical" excuses to your escapism. Sometimes we need to stop to run and face the past. You are a very smart man use that asset to extricate yourself from your abusive past, please don't repeat it.

Sorry this is off topic but just a reminder for some enlightened board members to listen to two Gold Podcasts called What Trolls Reveal 1&2. I think it will help a lot of people to stop to debate with the unreasonable and also investigate psychologically why some of us continuously challenge the irrational and the unreasonable and why trolls enjoy our agony in hopelessly us trying to change them, turn them into good people and make them understand how we are hurt although we know they don't have empathy and we always forget it. Enjoy listening.

It is not invalid, it is invalid to you because of your defences but this information is quite accepted and well known on FDR see "The Bomb in The Brain Series” 6 Videos I’ll link below in case you or any other person wants to know some basic and scientific facts about the roots of violence in childhood. Link: http://fdrurl.com/bib About the chocolate binging it is called self-medicating and it is also because of child abuse you can read books by Gabor Maté or listen to the interview he gave Stefan not long ago. Clearly it is not an adaptation to the so called "modern society" but an adaptation to physical and sexual abuse endured in childhood at the hands of their parents. You choose on which side you want to be on the children's side or on their abusive parent's side and their propaganda repeated everywhere on TV and in media. If you do not know these well known facts you should investigate them and read about them. By now there are more than 3000 podcasts which you can listened to in many of them Stefan Molyneux repeats to listeners these facts some listeners open up others close like a clam and unfortunately they also lose the opportunity of richer and more emotional life. I would not recommend a better tribe than this one. Concerning serial killers they actually deny they had a bad childhood themselves and society helps them in doing so by not being curious of their childhood history so parents and religions can maintain their purity. One famous serial killer Joseph Fritzl when interviewed he said he had the best mother. Here’s an excerpt from Wikipedia Joseph Fritzl a famous case in serial killing this is what he said: Reflecting on his childhood, Fritzl initially described his mother as "the best woman in the world" and "as strict as it was necessary”. Later, he expressed a negative opinion of his mother and claimed that "she used to beat me, hit me until I was lying in a pool of blood on the floor. It left me feeling totally humiliated and weak. My mother was a servant and she used to work hard all her life, I never had a kiss from her, I was never cuddled although I wanted it - I wanted her to be good to me.” Source https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fritzl_case Another story about Whitney Post the prostitute killer, who killed his victims by cutting their feet and other parts of their body this is an account of his childhood from the book Base Instincts: What Makes Killers Kill? by Jonathan H. Pincus When reading further in the book you find this Whitney's interest in feet beyond his being beaten on his legs and feet by both his parents. He told me that it was his job to massage his mother's feet. I asked him to describe these sessions. He said that she would lie on her stomach in her bedroom, wearing only a slip, and ask him to rub her feet. He hated doing it and tried to do it for as short a time as possible, but she would request a more prolonged massage. She would moan and gasp softly as he rubbed her feet and he felt very uncomfortable massaging them, thinking it was more of her husband's role. He could not decline to participate as this would have been 'back talk' and punishable by beating. Thus, he was helplessly drawn into a very sexually charged, incestuous situation. Whitney told me how he masturbated with prostitutes' feet. They were naked and would lie on their stomachs across his front seat or kneel on the front seat facing the back of his vehicle. He would straddle them with his back toward their head and would place his penis between their feet. I told him that I thought there might have been a great deal of sexual abuse in his family that he might not have told me about because he did not remember it. … He said that he, literally, would rather die than let others know the details of what was done to him by his parents.

What a child needs are few simple things: Love him, Protect him, Care for him and Guide him, Let him express his feelings. Don't ever slap, spank or beat him, Don't ignore or belittle him, Don't interfere with his sexuality, Don't project your own fears, shame and guilt into him, Be honest with him. (him could be her) so if these few things are done by a small family or a collective then the child can grow free and balanced and will treat his kids the same way he was treated. You say that "Kids are raised by the collective tribe. This makes it harder to isolate them.” It is possible but not always the case, some tribes in Tanzania and Kenya continue to practice child abuse under the name of customs and traditions. On the other hand a family/tribe big in numbers can be beneficial because it can have some empathic members who can help the abused child the psychologist Alice Miller calls these people who can offer support to an abused child “Helping Witnesses” I quote a review of one of her books on her site link Miller writes about a "helping witness"—someone who acts (routinely, or even once at a critical time) with kindness toward the child and who somehow, by looking into the child's eyes, shows the child another way to live and be. This helper may have no idea of his or her role but nonetheless acts as a counterweight to the cruelty or neglect a child experiences. DR Miller says that a critical prerequisite for normal survival is that at least once in their lives, mistreated children come into contact with a person who understands that the environment, not the child, is at fault. This helping witness teaches the child that he or she is worthy of kindness. This lesson is the basis for resilience. Dr Miller also describes a "knowing or enlightened witness"—someone who understands the importance of being a helping witness. This person recognizes the adverse effects of childhood trauma or neglect and is willing to give emotional support that helps a child understand and express true feelings. Sadly, the first (and perhaps only) "knowing witness" in most people's lives is often a therapist—but readily could be any physician, nurse, or teacher who is willing to understand what the child sees every day. Another quote of hers on the effect of the absence of the helping witness link If the child has no helping witness to turn to, it will learn to glorify what has been inflicted on it: cruelty, sadism, hypocrisy, and ignorance. The simple reason is that children learn by imitation, not from the well-meant words addressed to them in the later stages of life. The mass murderers, serial killers, Mafia bosses, and dictators who grew up without helping witnesses will inflict, or connive in inflicting, the same terror on whole nations once they have the power to do so. And they will be doing nothing other than putting into practice what they learned by experience when they were small children.

What you said is very true they are using her to obtain your coming back and btw your father will never change like most parents because these parents have to go thru so much guilt because of what they have done to their children before even going on resolving their own childhood that is why most parents use manipulative "sweet" words or use younger siblings to inflict guilt on you, they do this to you to avoid self knowledge because your defoo is showing them that they are not good people. Obviously your sister in my view is a victim because she is still a child and she cannot be held responsible for her actions and she cannot understand that you escaped the prison where she is in right now (without knowing) and she has been in that prison for 7 years, she has been swallowing a new dose of your family poison each new day, her brain and pathways are intoxicated already and deeply and she cannot see herself the prison she is in because it is unbearable for her as a child, remember when we were children we also used dissociation to not to feel and see the prison we were in. I am so deeply sorry JD that you have to go through this pain, actually they made you go through this but at least this will show you the real face of your father and you will slowly abandon your hopes and I can tell you the more you abandon your hopes for "a better family" the more you will be free of them, there was never good family and there will never bend it takes time and therapy to fully accept this painful truth. One last thing bad people use your sensitivity to ethics and morality and they play on those cords you need to know that information and you need to know that by them knowing very well ethics doesn't make them ethical people they actually hate ethics at the highest level they use it against you they already did in your childhood and that is why it still confuses you but you are on your way to the truth about your family please beware of narcissists !

Yes I know that feeling of letting go of your right to defend yourself and giving it up to an imaginary power. That is the illusion we had as children when we surrendered to our abusive parents and fantasized that they loved us and they will always protect us, which is a complete lie they were abusing us in the worst way possible and no one noticed it. People who think that the slaps, beatings and disrespect they got from their parents was a sign of love and for their own good will for sure repeat this illusion with god, spiritual gurus or with other parent figures I can imagine a woman who views herself helpless and victim her whole life (like a child) wants to be in a relationship with a "strong and influential man" so she feels loved and protected at last she feels that she means something, she feels she is loved and her fears and inadequacies are temporary gone. A lot of people are trapped like that. I am really happy for you that you can protect yourself from these guys and openly talk about it. No I am not a subscriber I watch your videos when you post them here.

I strongly believe that people know exactly what they are trying to block from processing. They know it unconsciously some are open to investigate and others (majority) will blame you for their chaotic emotional state. Btw I tried many times to speak to people about my family at first you get their attention but the more you go deep especially in very early childhood experiences the harder they can follow sometimes I get the silence treatment. It makes perfect sense to me that people cannot process your emotional reaction when talking about your anger against your father they prefer to hide their anger behind notions like spirituality and higher power and they talk about successful recovery I call that having a new pair of crutches. Real recovery is one day walking without them not seeking to upgrade them to the latest model. I wish you much success in completely getting rid of every obsession and addiction in your life you are very much worth it and by the way I admire your courage to be on YouTube it's something I envy you I hope one day to be able to do something like what you're doing.

Congratulations on your sobriety it must feel good to get out of addiction that is a lot of courage!! I can share your enthusiasm also because I stopped smoking a little more than a year ago and I feel great and my lungs feel great too! The more you escape toxic people the less you will feel the need to destroy yourself. Addiction to substances is the price we pay to continue to lie to ourselves out of fear of exposing our family's lies. The 12 steps are maybe helpful to encourage people to stop but they do never treat the root problems of addiction to alcohol which are violence, humiliations and sexual abuse in childhood mainly perpetrated by parents the twelve steps clearly protect parents at the highest level.

Sometimes music can bring you closer to yourself and other times it can separate you from you true feelings for example you listen to happy music to not to feel sad or angry but if you want to be honest with yourself you need to face the feelings you are avoiding so the first step is to acknowledge that sometimes you will use music to escape a bit and to have a respite which is totally ok if it is a temporary measure. You can use therapy or self-therapy to know yourself better and know your feelings also to build more tolerance for your most difficult emotions that you are escaping with music. You will escape them less and less in the future and ultimately you will listen to the music that goes so well with your true self depending on how you feel in the present moment. One more thing if you cannot easily cry you can use sad music to help you to open the floodgates in this way music can be very helpful to ease the resistance to your feelings.

Great answer btw and yes a successful therapy is that you become your own competent and loving caretaker.

If possible for you you can use a phone app to track its position and then use a good telescope 40X to view it with your own eyes.