To the caller, you are not alone. Your description of your mother sounds exactly like my mother. Some of the things you said that your mother told you were almost word for word what
my mother told me. It gets better. Trust me, as someone who has been through this, you can get past it. The greatest help for me was to find something to do that was meaningful and helped others. When I help others, my problems melt away. If you, the caller, read this; please feel free to PM me.
K7TRY