Rayakins

Just heard the news. I don't think any public event has ever made me so happy. Just love the sound of statists and Social Justice Warriors crying in the morning!

I have a lot of sympathy for the conspiracy theorists scepticism of the state and the powerful but I think that it can become philosophically problematic where people imagine that there were no conspiracies everything would be perfect, and resources would be so plentiful that no one would have to work and that it is only the one big, global conspiracy that keeps us from utopia. It seems kind of linked to primitivism, I see quite a few memes which suggest that everyone lived a happy and joyful existent before we became "imprisoned" by science and technology. This plays into the hands of the state because it is easy to blow these ideas up with common sense and it also stops the people who put forward these viewpoints from building something productive in their own lives, because they feel there is no point with the conspiracy around. Utopian ideas are very demoralising and energy sapping because they lead to constant disappointment.

I think it is very brave to be able to confront your parents at all about childhood abuse. Somehow the idea of confronting my mother about the way she treated my sister and I as children fills me with fear and guilt. We were spanked and hit with wooden spoons, sticks by both parents. My mother also had a completely uncontrollable temper and would scream, swear and abuse the rest of the family including my Dad. He passed away almost a year ago and my sister was diagnosed with lymphoma in February. In the wake of all of this I feel completely unable to talk to my mother about the abuse but filled with anger and sorrow about it. Meeri I recognise the controlling tactics well - whenever I talk about being unhappy my mother steers it back to some discussion of my choices (relationship, career etc) and won't countenance any possibility she had anything to do with it. Somehow she makes me feel guilty at the same time and one of my subselves tells me I am inventing the abuse, even though my mother is quite brazen about spanking - she is open about believing in 'spare the rod, spoil the child' philosophy.

My first steps into Anarchism / Libertarianism were actually as a result of studying Jurisprudence as part of an ultimately unsuccessful (for me) Law degree. None of the arguments for the existence of or obedience to the law made any real sense to me so I began to side with philosophical anarchists. It was a very traditional British Law School and this did not seem to be within the acceptable range of responses... Wesley's point is great though. If you look at the recent events with Adam Kokesh - he would be unable to do most of what he does without sympathetic lawyers on his side.

Hi Cornelius - I cant really offer any advice as I feel that you are much further down the road than I am on this. Your description of the emotional relationship reminds of that with my mother and even now I have huge waves of fear and guilt at the thought of confronting her about the way she treated us children. My father passed away last September and I feel and felt no real grief, just more guilt that I did not. I think you have been courageous in your decisions to date, and avoid the dreadful guilt that destroys your joy in life if you let it.

Thanks everyone for the info - there was plenty that was useful in all of it. Cherapple I think that I am just beginning to realise the truth of what you said. Funnily enough beating myself up about my poor relationship decisions and painful unrequited fantasies never stopped me repeating the pattern over and over again and I could never work out why. In addition to parental abuse I was extensively bullied physically and emotionally at school throughout my childhood and have probably spent most of my life asking myself "what is wrong with me?" and it is a hard habit to break.

Thanks Wesley - having listened to episode 711 I think all of the relationships I have had have been marked by fusion and the more 'successful' ones by mutual fusion.

My relationship with my mother was exceptionally close but also abusive - she was a stay at home mum and spent a lot of time with us but was also controlling and manipulative using a lot of anger and character assasination techniques. I feel she is at least a borderline sociopath. My father was a lot more distant but less controlling. Both prents spanked and also used implements at times to hit my suister and I. I had no close friendships till adolescence.

Hi - I'm quite new here and I wondered if anyone has some good information on attachment disorders particularly the tendency to attach in a deep emotional way to someone when those feelings are not reciprocated or falsely reciprocated. I have done a little therapy in relation to this last year but I still find it to be a state that recurs in my life along with deep emotional highs and lows.

Have been watching Stef's videos on youtube for almost two years and thought it was time that I start to interact with people who get it! I do try to spread the word but in the UK at least people are very largely statist or still searching for a political solution to the problem of politics. Also equally interested in discussing the psychological aspects of life and unpacking my own issues more.