When you mentioned that you want your sister in your life, do you possibly mean that you rather want a healthy relationship with a sister in your life? Stef discusses the confusion that can occur in wishing for healthy relationships and connection somewhere in the first couple hundred podcasts. For example, if I wish I had a healthy relationship with my sister I am likely fantasizing to have had what I never had growing up. I think he explains this to be a dangerous fantasy. I'm sorry I can't provide more detail but I think that understanding the initial motive and how much of it is wishing for what never was will help you manage where you Target your thoughts and efforts.
