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I can definitely see where that could be the continuation of control, however, I felt more or less in control of the conversation. I also feel as though I can confront my mom and my dad with the same gusto.

Woohoo! Got it today. Going to put it on and donate to FDR because of it

So I've been ignoring my FOO for 6 months or so. Had a nice little fallout with my mom( she demanded to know why I wasn't speaking to her, I explained I was upset with how she "raised" me and she completely denied and then aggressively attacked my reasonings) about 4 months ago and we haven't spoken since. Fast forward to last week, there is a knocking at my door. I immediately get nervous because my wife, son, and myself live 2.5 hours away from our hometown and we don't have friends here. I look out the window and see it's my grandmother on my mother's side. My stomach swells into a knot and I just stare at my wife hoping she'll tell me what to do. After about 5 minutes I gain the courage to confront her. I step out of the door and shut it behind me. She immediately says "why have you been ignoring my calls?" Which tells me that she isn't concerned of my safety or she would have led with that. The next logical assumption is she is here to assert her dominance over me. I reply that I'm mad about how I was treated as a child. She acted as if she had no idea what I spoke of. I then went into how I was abused to the point that she used to brag about how if she would look around for a fly swatter I would cower in fear. She minimized it by saying she had only done so once. I brought up how her late husband once whooped me with a belt just so I would know how it felt to prevent me from doing anything "bad". "I don't remember that." She replied. We then went back and forth about what beating kids meant for their future. She told me how the prisons were filled with people who didn't get beat as children. Lol, easily countered with the facts. She asked how my son was, I told her he was great, nobody was beating him. "I don't know where you're getting this shit." "Scientific fact." Then she leaves with a "well when you get this figured out maybe you'll talk to me." I felt an overwhelming sense of happiness and nervousness at once. I'm not sure what I want to come of this post but...yeah. there it is. Has anyone else had any experiences of family going wayyyy out of their way to track you down? What became of that?

I'd post it here so other Spanish speakers could read without having to pm

I'll gladly proofread for you

XD I've got a set of "US forever" stamps -_-

Wowza. I'm surprised it got to the air. Also super surprised he worked for fox in the first place. Interesante.

Damn, my math is that bad XD love the analogy Wesley.

Can't agree more lance. And to cab21. My math is quite horrid but I figured there were 525949 minutes ÷ 40,000 laws=13.1 laws/minute no?

There are a lot of excellent ideas on here. I especially enjoy the idea of setting a goal of whatever the child wants to be able to do and showing the different learning opportunities involved in achieving the goal. Has anyone already been through this type of parenting/teaching? I'd love to hear about what others have had success doing.

I hope the bible study/corporeal punishment is a joke or at least let the bible count as the fiction book. How would the month long course work out /day or /week? Would she be forced to do math on Mondays and what happens when she doesn't complete the coursework?

My wife and I moved to our current city 1.5 years ago and we knew nobody at the time; no family no friends. Since then we have discovered FDR and began acting as such (rtring with each other, not wanting false relationships and such.). She is a stay at home mom because luckily my job suffices our living. We have yet to make friends due to the fact we don't want to create false relationships that we just relieved ourselves of. My position in my job allows me to only see 4 others outside of work, none of which have the slightest inclination to reason and thought outside of what others tell them to think. It's rather difficult to find people worth becoming friends with it seems. I am honestly just fine with the relationship my wife, my son, and myself have. Much better IMO than having false friendships.

Negligent parenting is a little more difficult to call out than abusive for me. I've had small discussions with people about why abuse should never be an option and so forth, however, it's never been in the moment of the abuse. I've yet to witness any since I've been ballsy enough to do anything about it.

http://www.cnn.com/2013/12/30/politics/new-year-laws/index.html?c=politics At first look, 40,000 mandates in one year looks as efficient as all get out. If I did 40k things I would have to do 13.1 of said things per minute around the clock for the entire 365 days of the year. I know we, for the most part, already ascribe to the fuckthegov sentiment but that blows my mind.

My wife turned me onto FDR and rationality in a somewhat similar situation. The way you described your husband's knowledge of your views seems to suggest it is quite limited. I would talk him through what you believe and why you believe so. There are many ways you could go about this; Christianity, ethics, politics and so forth. Stef has tonsssss of podcasts over how to talk to your loved ones about rationality. Hope this helps! And if you would like to hear some more about how my wife helped me get into FDR just mail me

Oh oh oh. I want one it would be a wonderful convo starter.

When I was a Christian, or at least forced to be one in childhood, I always thought that god worked through science. I suppose this was just my brain trying to make sense of obviously contradictory ideas. I assumed he put into motion the laws of physics and whatnot. Much like a programmer puts in all of the script and let's the program run from that point. I've never seen that idea used anywhere else so I don't know if many religious people hold those views. That's my perspective on how they can be OK with science

I believe a more productive manner would be to see why his wife feels that yelling is productive. To the OP, you mention you allowing your wife to continue with her yelling and whatnot. Have you spoken with her about how that makes you or your son feel? How does that make you feel? I suggest doing a little RTR with her and maybe even going over some statistics about peaceful parenting. You even referred to her parenting as authoritarian in nature, that shows me you don't enjoy your son going through that. Just some questions and suggestions for you!

http://istouchidhackedyet.com/ That's the website kevin. Plenty of news coverage surrounding the event if you go to Google ^^

Smart phones are currently the most sought after in terms of hacking. When the newest iPhone was released a website was paying $10k and other bonuses for the person who figured out how to successfully hack through the finger print scanner. Until security on cellular devices increase I don't see this being a huge plus.

Why are you giving up on your argument? Stand strong. If you believe something is true, regardless of what others are saying, provide examples, science, and reason to it and nobody can say you're wrong. Going off the last bit you said about physical abuse progressively getting better- I don't think that slowly over time is ok. If you hit a child, unless that child has a gun to you or some other non-exsistent life/death scenario, you are being abusive. If you were to slap a cop, even if you were stressed and raised badly, you're going to jail or being shot. If you were to slap your mom back when she slapped you, do you think she would have not retaliated? If you were to slap your boss, would you be fired? Its not "OK" in any of those instances so, to me as well as others, its not OK to do to a child.

Rape is still disgusting if I continually only put the tip in. Serial killers biographies generally contain the most horrendous childhood stories, yet they don't get any less of a sentence based on how their parents interacted with them. I just don't have sympathy for people who "only" do a little atrocity. Also, if all this sympathy is given to the grandparents for choosing to go into the military and your parents for this that and the other, where is the sympathy for you?

The fee is $95 per person this year, however, it jumps to $695 per person in 2016. And at what point do you "call it quits" for living in a prison?

I live in the US. I've never been a huge fan of this country but have never had a reason (or the resources) to become an expat. With the ever popular Affordable Care Act coming into place soon, I don't know if I can much longer afford to live here. My wife stays home with our young son as my occupation suffices our needs. The ACA required insurance premiums are through the roof (500+ a month for just basic coverage) not to mention the fine for not having health insurance. We have discussed moving countries before but ,with the ever-looming grip of the government grasping tighter and tighter, we are looking more intently. My question is would it be more advantageous to move to a minarchist society (chile for example) even though minarchies generally end up with the largest goverment sor stay in a over-reaching country and try to wait it out for the collapse of said government and hope for anarchy?

I absolutely agree with you about the fact that they are generally good people. The reason I tend to shy away from those seemingly delving into illegal adventures is because that shows a fundamental disregard of "rules" for monetary gain. I.e. "I wouldn't mind stealing your product if it means more money for me." Not to mention I've had a employee arrested during work hours for dealing. Costs a lot to train somebody to replace D: