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Hey guys, This is the first of what should be many episodes exposing the inconsistent arguments feminist opinion leaders put out that continues to perpetrate the double standard narrative that domestic violence against men is somehow acceptable. I hope you like the approach I've taken. Read: http://consistencytest.com/2017/01/05/woman-on-man-domestic-violence-is-acceptable-episode-1-jezebel-tracie-morrissey/

Which parts in particular of those sections sound creepy? The "environmentally friendly" aspect I can look past.

Hey guys, Have any of you heard of the "Mankind Project?" My therapist just recommended it to me during my session today. If you've heard of it and/or experienced it, please let me know what you thought. And if not, what do you guys think? My therapist is an IFS and I've been with him for 10 months and trust his judgment of where I'm at emotionally. http://mankindproject.org

At least on her emails, I think this outlines things pretty succinctly (I just created it): https://truthmapper.com/map?id=f0ee47725f4bdd3bf8bbd7a3e25ba58e#.WBmBWMlc_St And if you guys have any feedback/edits, please let me know.

You stand out. You become a leader in whatever it is you are passionate about that involves other people. You also, just get the fuck out there and meet people and vet people. The Ks exist and they should be easy to spot among all the rs. And if you become a leader, they will also come to you as well. So, become a leader and look for leaders. Start/join meetup.com groups. I'm just beginning these techniques, but am already feeling more connected and not nearly as isolated as I used to feel. The most important aspect is interacting with people in person. Isolation can get reinforced by limiting yourself to only connecting with people online. My personal reason for becoming isolated and not finding more K people is because I live in a densely r-selected town (90% Bernie Sanders supporters), so I am planning on moving. But even still, while I'm here, I'm going out and meeting people and seeking out the leaders, getting their numbers, and staying connected. I hope this helps.

Thanks!

I am posting this in the Self-Knowledge category, because as part of my self-knowledge growth through therapy, I'm realizing some big parts of my childhood that have been holding me back from my K-selection urges and my potential to embrace living more K-selected. So, if anyone has any recommended books on the analysis of r/K in humans, I'd appreciate the references. Thank you.

Welcome to the boards, ginseng.

Welcome, Luisa. Thanks for sharing your story and desires for connecting with like-minded people. I think you're in the right place. What topics do you think you're most passionate about?

Welcome, cassidy.

Thank you for the recommendations. Thank you. I actually already own this one. This is the 2nd time it's been recommended to me. Time to pick it up off my stack of ones to read.

For you, Troubador, and for any others interested, this coming Sunday (9/11) there will be a google hangout with a group of people (I think all of which are FDR supporters) about dating. If you'd like to join the hangout with us, add yourself to this group (if you can): https://www.facebook.com/groups/AcrossTheDesert/If you can't add yourself, ask Ady Sheerer for approval to be a part of the group. You also don't need to join the hangout to listen in, since the events are also live streamed on YouTube, where you can just listen in.

Hello. Does anyone have any books or good resources on self-erasure, it's origin, analysis of it, and ways to overcome it's controlling nature? With more self-knowledge and looking back on past romantic relationships, especially the relationship I have with my mother, it's becoming very likely that this is what I end up doing. I also think I attract people that feed off of my self-erasing actions/words and I want to be able to recognize when I'm doing it, so that I can get rid of these people from my life as they show up. This will also help me recognize these kinds of toxic people, so that I can avoid them to begin with (seeing their red flags) prior to investing in any kind of deeper relationship with them. Thank you very much. This seems like a pivotal place of growth for myself right now.

Ya, I'm pretty sure she has. I PM'ed her on facebook a while back and this is what she said in regard to Galt's Gulch in Chile:

I'm unsure what I think about this. It's an article written by Rosyln Ross (below). I have some unsettled feelings around this and it may come from me being ignorant around NVC or that Rosyln is wrong. My gut reaction is that yelling is simply raising one's voice to be heard, whether or not someone is there to hear it. The emotions (if any) that are behind the act are what is the important factor to consider. For example, I could yell to a child that is very far away from me, simply because my voice needs to carry: "Time to pack up and head home Johnny!" Or how about a child that falls into a ravine and needs to yell to get your attention, so you can come help get the child out? These seem like valid ways to yell. The invalid ways, I think, come from when carrying your voice isn't necessary for the other person to audibly understand what you are saying. So, if you are frustrated or are having some emotion that you want someone else to know about, that doesn't justify using yelling as a way to tell them. I argue that yelling shows an insecurity within a relationship. If you and the person (friend, spouse, child, etc.) have a real-time relationship, the trust you have in the other person to express your emotions will allow you to do that without yelling, because you know empathy exists between the two of you. UPDATE: I just saw a comment by Kevin Beal to Roslyn under the blog post. Feel free to chime in here, if you'd like to, Kevin Source page: http://roslynross.blogspot.com/2016/02/i-think-i-may-be-pro-yelling.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+RaisingChildrenIsAnActOfPhilosophy+%28Raising+Children+is+an+Act+of+Philosophy%29 Full Text: