kavih

Thanks.

Unfortunately, these were experienced from a former FDR listener that I was trying to get to know romantically before she went off the rails, slamming FDR: Used no punctuation or capitalized letters during a lot of our online communication to each other (laziness and lack of reciprocity to my well-constructed messages). Responded to my posts, but didn't answer questions I asked within them or didn't answer them at all (again, laziness and lack of reciprocity). It's too bad I met her at a time where she was so hurt from a past relationship. I'm just glad I noticed the red flags enough to remember to post them here. Be aware of these.

What do you guys think of this video as a good one to share to the liberal audience? It's quick, to the point, and caters to the short attention span and shallow minds of the left. https://www.facebook.com/numbersusa/videos/1034230199967008/

I just got back from my nephew's birthday party. There was a woman there (with her son playing with my nephew) that was hitting on me. Years ago, without FDR's help, I would have written off the following red flags and probably would have pursued her, since she was "cute:" 1) Mentioned she likes to find ways to get rid of her son (having her family/friends/neighbors watch him) so she can drink with her friends. 2) Was drinking all day (about 4 drinks over 5 hours), while being the only adult responsible for her son (she is divorced I believe). 3) Slightly overweight and not trying to overcome it at the party (eating unhealthy foods). 4) Was avoiding discussing any kind of philosophy: I had started a conversation about the recent US terrorist attacks; she responded with making fun of Putin's last name. 5) She tried to give me a hard time in front of others as I was putting on my shoes to leave, since I had yet to say goodbye. Since she was being so public about hitting on me, I think she wanted to try and shame me since she felt rejected, even though I was going to say goodbye eventually. Since she was hitting on me from the beginning, I knew I had to be extra alert, since her red flags had an agenda. It's seriously amazing to actually notice the red flags now!

I also think that was a good presentation. Will you be publishing your "2nd part" on YouTube as well? I'd like to see it.

Wow, that hugely resonates with experiences I've had with women. Luckily, I don't think any of them turned into dates or more.

Thanks for the contributions, guys. Let's keep the list growing!

Here are some more I thought of: Doesn't like to philosophize or avoids talking about moral/ethical issues. Gossips/spreads rumors. Tries to laugh off traumatic experiences she has had or denies herself as being a victim to them. Regularly watches cable television. Consumes mainstream media news sources as her only news sources. Appears reckless in behavior (highly impulsive). Treats you differently when one-on-one versus around other people. Talks about your physical features or assets when describing what she likes about you, but doesn't include anything personal about you.

Let's keep an ongoing list of Red Flags guys need to watch out for when dating women. Here's an initial list I created to start things off: Physically aggressive towards you, your friends, her friends, or strangers (includes pinching, punching, slapping, pulling, pushing, etc.) Verbally aggressive or makes fun of you, your friends, her friends, or a stranger Drinks and drives Jokes around about being an alcoholic or pot-head Hears you, but doesn't listen Lacks genuine interest in you Asks you the same question too many times Is not empathetic with the experiences you share with her (immediately starts talking about herself after you share) Can't go out in public without some kind of makeup on. Wears revealing or tight clothing while in public to attract attention. Prefers digital communication over in-person or verbal communication (texting, facebook, etc.) Expresses she is indifferent with kids or doesn't want to have children. Confidently describers herself as moody, sassy, or a "bitch" and expects you to deal with it. Expects you to open doors or pay for meals or doesn't ever offer. Has cheated on someone in the past. Isn't looking for a relationship. Has an addiction to something (drugs, alcohol, food, pain, sex, etc.) Rigidly associates herself with a political party or believes government is necessary. Supports corporal punishment. Is a narcissist (takes a lot of selfies, shares her stories, but doesn't ask about yours, etc.) Has dated/slept with someone much older or much younger than her. Was raised by a single parent.

Thanks guys, for all your research. I've included this page in my work, as seen here: https://truthmapper.com/map?id=8a6c8244e79684cdc79147c7b2f3b371

Excellent news! If you meant Microsoft Publisher (with a capital P), then do a google search for "export from microsoft publisher" (without quotes). The first few results I found show ways to export into other formats. Looking forward to seeing it, Zaccheus!

That's a tough situation JD. If you have the option to talk with your sister on the phone or in person, I would recommend that over written communication, especially since so much can be lost in that form. Maybe just write back telling her you would like to talk with her about it on the phone, so that at least you responded to her (haven't left a feeling of abandonment). As for arranging the call, if you don't want to have your other family members involved, maybe also include your number in your letter back to her and have her call you.

Update: superbrochure.com got back to me and their prices are way too expensive ($10,000 for them creating a custom brochure). Anyways, hopefully we all can collaborate and come up with something ourselves or find another resource.

Zaccheus, this is an excellent idea and if you come up with a pamphlet, please post it here or PM me since I will also go door-to-door delivering them. However, I would not just put the website freedomainradio.com on the pamphlet, as is, since FDR covers so many topics. I would instead find a specific place on the website dedicated to resources on peaceful parenting and put the link to that content, so that they don't have to find the spanking information themselves (maybe you were already going to do this). I'm working on a project right now that will try to refute the common justifications people come up with regarding spanking ("I was spanked as a kid and I turned out fine," etc, etc.) by supplying counter analogies and the statistics showing the risk factors associated with spanking. I would love to collaborate on something, if you are interested. The Alice Miller content is great, but it needs sources next to each statement, otherwise it looks like just an opinion without any empirical evidence to back the statement up. The last idea I have, since you mentioned you're not a designer of pamphlets, is to use a service that can potentially create (and even mail) the pamphlets. I used to canvas for Ron Paul waaay back in the day (before I came across anarchy) and there was a group of people that created a brochure for him, which was really well done. I'll reach out to them and see if they can help: http://www.superbrochure.com

I wouldn't have seen this had it not been for the necrobump, so thanks I'm down in Santa Cruz. Is that considered Nor Cal?

I think the latter. My parents didn't reinforce their spiritual beliefs in me at all. But then again, they weren't really parents to me in general, so most of the decisions I made or beliefs I created were usually based on my older siblings' influence, my friends' influence, or my own research. Though, I didn't start depending on my own research until recently, which is why I said it wasn't too long ago that I shared their close minded beliefs.

It actually sounds a lot like what I was describing here: https://board.freedomainradio.com/topic/44014-is-the-movement-towards-global-peaceful-parenting-the-toughest-battle-to-win/ But I guess I was describing more so the challenge with helping the close minded learn, due to us being a social species. I was describing that to challenge one's current reality can, and a lot of the times will, break up relationships one has, which is detrimental to one's survival as a social being. As for empathizing with the close minded and having the patience to work with them, I have no choice, because I shared their close minded beliefs not too long ago.

I recommend buying the book Primordial Violence. Michael says it is the "bible" when it comes to research on the negative effects of spanking. Much of the statistics Stef quotes in some of his videos comes from the research done in this book. I'm about 25% through it so far. From what I've read so far, it doesn't tell you how to be a peaceful parent, nor give you tips on peaceful parenting; rather, it does tell you what the effects of non-peaceful parenting are. So, you can learn a lot about what not to do and having the stats from the book in your back pocket during conversations with others is also important. I'm using it for all of the above, plus using it as part of my research for a project I'm working on.

It sounds like you've gained that passion that I once had when I thought changing the world meant getting every last person to vote for Ron Paul. After a year of digging deeper and realizing anarchy is best solution, I look back at my days of passionate activism, holding signs, canvasing, protesting, and more and realize it was misdirected. Now that I know what Stef and this community has helped me realize about peaceful parenting, I wish I would have used that past activism to hold signs, canvas, protest, etc. for peaceful parenting, as you are doing. I really commend you for actually taking action! Something that I would recommend, is to have someone record you on the other side of the street or setup a camera to record yourself, in case you are physically threatened (given the scenario you described). As for signage recommendations, may be create a sign that quotes troubling statistics about spanking or whatever the topic will be? Statistics usually provide a sense of 3rd-party validation, so that the phrase on your sign doesn't just look like your opinion. I'm going to add you as a friend on here, because I'm working on a project about the effects of non-peaceful parenting, with the end result being something visual people can share. Then, if you wanted to, you could print them out and hand them to people as part of your boots on the ground effort.

I'm sorry to hear about this, William. I would start with the root cause, your mother. You said she has apologized before, but then reverts back into her terrible parenting. Maybe grill her hard about it. Make her know she did wrong with you and is doing wrong with your brothers. If she doesn't want to have anything to do with you after confronting her, then I'm not sure what you can do since spanking is legal. On the other hand, the half apology is at least a sign she CAN admit to it being a problem, whether or not she wants to fix it. So, the other option I could see is to be in your brothers' lives more, showing them a real father figure and male role model. This will give your brothers hope and proof that good role models do exist. It sounds like a very tough situation. Again, I'm really sorry to hear about it.

I was just talking about this with a friend yesterday. So many people are trying to fix symptoms, while I (we) are trying to fix the root issue. At the same time, I am also glad that people are battling the symptoms, because we need people who are passionate about solving certain problems that I just don't have time or the passion for (cryptocurrencies, for example).

The war on drugs. The war on religion. The war on women. The war on [fill in the blank]. How about we start a philosophical war on bad parenting? I'm game. In fact, I've kind of already started on my facebook.

Yes, and unfortunately, few and far between. Wow, I hadn't read that one yet. The consistent irrationality of people keeps surprising me.

So, are you saying people talk the talk (re: peaceful parenting) too easily, but can't necessarily walk the walk without self-knowledge? Or are you referring to only a certain percentage of these people? For myself, I'm close to starting therapy with an IFS therapist in my area, but considering how repulsive it is to see myself parenting like my mother did with me (physical and verbal abuse), I have a deep passion to parent exactly the opposite as her. It is so rooted in me at this point, I'm even becoming critical of my brother's parenting style, even though he majored in developmental psych and has always been a role-model of mine with regard to how to raise a child (he and his wife are peaceful parents). I've come this far and become this passionate about it without any therapy yet. Though, I have reached out to the community here, in private, and some of the members have helped answer questions for me. That's not a professional approach to self-knowledge, but maybe that sets me apart from the people you are referring to.

I probably saw your post kahvi, because I've been reading a lot about people's reactions and I've been trying to upvote or like those that are disapproving of this Mom's actions. I think I remember seeing your comment somewhere. I really am disgusted as well. I want to move off this sick planet.