RachelAnn

Hi Boohickey11, Does your gf want to set up a skype call with me? I'll message you my skype handle.

Love that podcast!

Great, sending a message now!

Hey ladies! I am very interested in getting a group of us together for a support group, through messaging, and Skype. It's hard to find quality women for friendships, and I am looking for that in my life. You can post here or shoot me a message if you are interested. Thanks!

Right, giancoli? She has been a great mentor for me.

I'll check it out, thanks!

I wanted to share a great video by Roslyn Ross. I hope you all like it! http://www.atlassociety.org/as/parenting-how-raise-individualist-high-self-esteem

Hi Nigel, I'm sorry to hear about your lack of motivation. I have definitely been there before! Something I have learned about motivation in my own life is this: I need momentum in order to feel good and productive about what I am doing - so that initial action towards my goals is the hardest, but I have found that just doing it without having the battle in your head before hand is key. For example, when I wanted to start going back to the gym, without giving myself the option of turning down that idea in my head, I put all of my exercise clothes and running shoes on, got in the car, drove there, got in front of the treadmill, and then I asked myself if I felt like working out that day, since I was already there, I just said sure why not! After a month of doing that, it just came natural to me, and now I rarely have a day where I underestimate my willpower when it comes to exercising, and on the days that I don't feel like going, I don't have feelings of guilt like I used to. Just working on that area alone has given me extra confidence and motivation which has translated into other areas of my life, with daily routines, and with my business. I don't know if that helps. I can't imagine that staying in your current situation is going to relieve any stress, your discomfort will only grow. Exercising is a good place to start, because you'll produce the endorphins that can act as a defense against your inner critic.

Thank you. And yes, I am getting a lot of experience working one on one with individuals, which helps. Hmm, that's interesting. I am going to look into that. Thanks so much.

Thank you everyone! It's a pleasure to be here. Gausian, what exactly does your wife do?

Hi everyone, I haven't officially introduced myself yet, I'm Rachel from the Los Angeles area. I started to listen to Stef a few years ago, but more consistently over the last year. I feel like I won the lottery by finding FDR at such a young age - I believe that it has saved me from a lifetime of heartache and disappointment. All of my life I searched for rational consistency but couldn't find it anywhere, not in the public school system, not in the mormon church, and definitely not in my relationships. This past year I have really dedicated my time to acquiring more self knowledge and information about my history through therapy, journaling, podcast listening, and browsing these boards. I recently ended a 7 year relationship that I felt was not beneficial for me and my pursuit for philosophy and truth, which was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I am passionate about health and child development- I am currently a health coach, but my dream is to cultivate a career in advocating for peaceful parenting. I see myself working with parents helping them to secure a healthy bond with their children and learn how to connect and negotiate over using control and punitive punishments. FDR has helped me realize how much the world truly needs that, and so I can't let this passion of mine and insatiable hunger for knowledge in the field be wasted. I am eager to start the next chapter of my life by applying these new values and principles to my everyday life and connecting with intelligent, empathetic people like yourselves. I just wanted to tell you a bit about my story before I start posting more on the boards. I really look forward to chatting with you all. To the members I have had the pleasure of speaking to already, thanks for being so awesome. Thanks!

I am so sorry about the abuse you endured. I think that message is powerful and drives the point home. It's wonderful that you are seeking therapy. I would also suggest keeping a journal to recall all of your childhood experiences and thoughts, if you haven't already. Wish you the best.

This is another one by Roslyn that is pretty comical but eye opening.

First of all I commend you for your interest and dedication to peaceful parenting. There are a ton of great resources out there! Here are some great books: Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion Through Love Instead of Fear, Dear Parent: Caring for Infants with Respect Escape from Childhood: The Needs and Rights of Children Seeing Infants with New Eyes 1,2,3... The Toddler Years: A practical Guide for Parents & Caregivers Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise and Other Bribes Bulletin No. 14 by Emmi Pikler Tears and Tantrums: What To Do When Babies and Children Cry Unconditional Parenting: Moving From Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason The Continuum Concept Raising a Healthy Child in Spite of your Doctor Hope that helps!

I believe so. Here is her blog http://roslynross.blogspot.com/