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Stef said " Love is an unvoluntary response to virtue" and I happen to agree. This would suggest love is conditional upon a person having virtues that can be loved. It is conditional upon a person continuing those virtues from which the love arose.

Both my parents were university educated. My mother has 2 science degrees. So the low education, stupid parent thing isn't valid there.

I sent the conversation, between my mother and I, to my siblings. I really want them to get the full story so that I am not painted by my mother as outrageous of selfish. My older sister has shown me more sympathy than my mother already. She currently is of the mind to forgive, but never forget. I will have to say this experience was incredibly liberating. If you have not told abusive parents the honest truth I highly recommend it. I was ridden with guilt for not visiting my mother before this. Now the truth is out and I don't have any guilt not visiting. I can now dispel the myth of my mother as a good person in bad circumstances. She is not a nice person and her reaction is all I need to confirm my past abuses.

Yeah I wasn't sure if she was calling me a narcissist or herself. Given the emotional distance from herself the whole reply she was probably saying I was the narcissist. O boy!

Thanks for all the support. Here is what i got in reply. [*] Nick, I'm sorry you feel this way and I hope you get to a place where you feel better. I only want the best for you.You might consider talking to your therapist about cycles of abuse and narcissistic personality disorders I am always here for you. and I love you so much and that won't ever change. [*] I should have explained the narcissism comment - at the very least my father was a narcissist and I am slowly moving out of the role of the victim parent. [*]You might want to read what I am reading now (this was independent of your FB message) http://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/parents-empowering-themselves-for-their-childrens-sake/#utm_source=New+Life&utm_campaign=24fc6bd11e-My_Most_Important_Artcile_and_Radio_Show_Ever&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_005709a593-24fc6bd11e-407346389 What a complete lack of thought, sympathy and empathy in return to me pouring my heart out. My decision to defoo is reinforced by her response to my complete honesty.

I haven't seen her since Christmas. She asked me if I was avoiding her. I am avoiding you. I have been examining my childhood and I can't forgive you for what occurred. I can't trust you. The children you claim to love should never have been exposed to such toxic abuse. You may think that I have had lots of good times with my stepdad, but I would trade them all to have never been exposed to his verbal abuse. It was an experience that has scarred all your children. I am currently trying to repair the emotional damage I experienced as a child. It hurts to get screamed at by a large man, it hurts more to watch someone who "loves" you continue to allow this influence to be in your life. You were supposed to protect me from people like this, but instead you actively brought this person into my life. I thought that maybe I might have been overreacting but it has haunted me into the present. I am emotionally fucked up. When I'm vulnerable I shut down completely, turning off all my emotions. This has made it impossible to engage with people on any meaningful subject. It is a like a form of emotional PTSD. I have been attacked so many times in an emotional state that I now assume an attack is coming whenever I open myself up to someone. I can no longer overlook what happens in your home and laugh like it's a joke. Its abuse. You are not a victim in it, but an active participant. I will not feel comfortable entering that toxic environment again. I'm in tears right now. I don't want to hear excuses for your behavior. There is no excuse for not protecting your children. I am starting therapy next week to hopefully salvage my broken soul. Please let me heal.

Someones got to graduate at the bottom of the class!

The China Study -- http://www.westonaprice.org/health-topics/abcs-of-nutrition/the-china-study-myth/ Dean Ornish -- It all comes from a single study done on 35 people published back in 1998. Twenty people were randomly selected to receive the Ornish diet – a low-fat, vegetarian diet rich in fruits, vegetables, legumes, grains, and soybean products. They were also placed on a lifestyle modification program which had them exercise regularly, go to stress management training, stop smoking, and do psychosocial support group meetings. That was the experimental group. The other fifteen – the control group – were not counseled in this manner, instead being told to merely “keep listening to their physicians.” How did this all play out? The experimental group was exercising five hours a week; the control group was exercising two and a half hours a week. The experimental group was spending 87 minutes per week performing stress management techniques like meditation; the control group was spending less than five minutes a week doing it. The experimental group lost almost 24 pounds after a year and managed to keep 12 of them off after five years. The control group lost little to no weight. Sure enough, by the end of the study, the experimental group had reduced atherosclerosis. After five years, the experimental group had experienced 0.89 cardiac events per patient, while the control group had experienced 2.25 events per patient. Things definitely improved. So, what was it? Was it the diet alone that improved the experimental group’s health, as Ornish loves to emphasize? Or could it be that the weight loss, the meditation, the stress reduction, the exercise, and the lack of smoking also played a role in improving their heart health? We already know that weight loss improves health, and a recent study even suggests that the type of diet isn’t very important for improving the function of blood vessels so long as you’re losing belly fat on it. We know that meditation and stress reduction can lower hypertension and reduce mortality from heart disease (and it can even increase telomerase, which Ornish again says his diet is responsible for). We know that regular exercise fights heart disease. And everyone knows that smoking tobacco is a terrible choice (PDF) for patients with heart disease (and anyone else, really). So why does Ornish feel the need to reduce the benefits of his program to the composition of the diet while deemphasizing and often failing to mention the other aspects of the lifestyle modification program he recommends? Read more: http://www.marksdailyapple.com/dear-mark-ornish-strikes-again-vitamin-d-from-light-boxes-and-kimchi-and-cancer/#ixzz380e3yUTq Eat To Live -- http://www.westonaprice.org/book-reviews/eat-to-live-by-joel-fuhrman/ The Starch Solution -- http://www.westonaprice.org/book-reviews/the-starch-solution-by-john-a-mcdougall-md-and-mary-mcdougall Debunked!

This is going to come down to a disagreement. Thankfully we have freedom to choose.

I think NAP dictates no spanking period.

Hey man don't rock the boat!

If the government controlled all the food I would not feel hypocritical eating that food. Besides isn't this a loan?

You may be lonely now but that is because your relationships were built on false ideas. However, now that you are experiencing truth in your relationships you achieve the capability to truly connect with someone. If this were easy, everyone would do it. Amazing relationships are rare and that is why everybody wants them.

Someone is abused. Someone exploits that abuse. You support that exploiter. Allowing the exploiter to continue his exploitation. You see no problem in this. In no way would I restrict someone who wants to watch porn. All I suggested is that if he wanted some incentive to stop he could develop some empathy for the people involved in the industry. Could you watch a video about a woman explaining her terrible past in introduction into the industry and then turn on her porn and masturbate? I could not.

My boss won't buy my birth control waaaaa! This is so strange. My boss doesn't stock condoms for me why do you get yours paid for and I don't? If women keep putting huge impositions on employers, on top of an employment, it will not achieve _________ for all women. It will lead to larger numbers of unemployed women. The additional potential cost to a business in hiring a woman is insane. Special bathrooms, maternity leave, and birth control it would just lead me to hire an inferior man to avoid the regulatory headache. Why was this resolved on religious grounds? Its common sense. You want things use the money from your job to buy things!

Does anyone know if these are more effective than mixed academically? Is there danger socially?

Undefeated is a great movie. I could hardly believe it wasn't scripted. It is the story of how one positive male influence in a child's life can make an enormous difference. In what appears to be an extremely low income, black neighborhood a team of football players find something to take pride in. When I say low income i mean it. Many shots of the kids leaving their homes to walk past a dozen boarded up houses, insulation coming out of the wide open ceiling in their rooms etc. I did not see one father, other than the coach, this entire movie. Watch this movie. 9.5/10

Tues July 15 today, now the header is a week old!

This is terrible to watch.

Just because veganism is healthier than the standard american diet of high fat high carb all trash doesnt mean it is healthier than a well constructed diet that contains animal products. This is essentially saying well I'm not as bad as Hitler, therefore I am good.

Have you seen this

Have you thought about having other great health products alongside the juices? Grass fed free range meats for instance, I'm picturing a whole healthy eating market for you down the line

Those are the kinds of people that go into porn. Abused souls. Porn continues their exploitation to the point where people you are trusting in are setting you up to get diseases.

They have had a conversation and that is the important bit.

If you want some incentive to stop.