IndianaLee

Thank you. I'll do so. I apologize, but I just saw this. I've been so busy. Trying to make a living. :-) Do I need a name? If so, can you send it to me at my email addy? [email protected] and let me know you're on here and you're refering me. I get a lot of junk mail. Thanks and I really appreciate it. Tim

Thank you. I'll check it out. I appreciate it. Tim

Hello. I'm sure this has been asked before and if so I apologize as I didn't see it. But, where can I find information about a therapists background such as success, and recommendations from clients etc? Anyone have any good recommendations on a good place to start finding a therapists for childhood trauma, etc,? I mean, I realize I can use the web, but I thought there might be some org's I'm not sure about that might have listings or something for good therapists? Thanks in advance. Tim

I was young when I went in and I wish I'd never done so. It's amazing that they use the young to murder others. Now, don't get me wrong, there are times one has to defend one's self, but the military is about something else. Anyway, PTSD is very real. I don't have it, but I do have ME and they say the same thing about it. I'd love for some of these folks that say this to feel the physical pain and exertion I feel when having symptoms, especially when they say this, although I'd never wish this on anyone. He has no idea what he's talking about. Sure there are people that fake things, but this doesn't mean obviously that all of them do. Besides, the military fights such claims with vigor after you're out of active service especially. Theyre' done with you at that point you might as well say for all practical purposes. It's too bad the military is so attractive to young men, but this is because of other issues obviously such as parenting and the economy / state, etc,. Tim

Hi Matthew.

I believe women do most of the choosing. At least it seems that way to me from tradition if nothing else. I'm not sure there are any studies I've seen about this though. Interesting. :-)

This is so refreshing to hear. Good luck to you two! I think that's true for sure as far as guys not paying attention to light and taking many pics, etc,. I used to take pics of myself as photography is a sorta hobby. So, when I took photo's of me playing my guitar or doing something it for sure seemed like I was received a lot better by women. Interesting for sure. I think biology makes us seek the most attractive we can initially at least. I think women are actually much more forgiving in some ways than men. Men know exactly what they want as far as a girl looks. I mean it's really pretty simple. She has to be attractive and have physical attributes. Now, I'm 53, and I know of women that tell me that they find attractive something weird like a voice or a stance, etc,. I don't know how many times I have been told that my deep voice is sexy or something. Not trying to brag, but it's interesting. It's true too that women don't like short men for some reason. I suspect it has something to do with hunting and gathering or something back when we were humping in the night. Tall men might have had better luck at hunting or resource gathering or something. I'm not sure. Maybe not, just my observation about the whole thing. I'm 5. 11 1/2" and I get told all the time I'm tall by gals. My best friend is like 5. 6 or 5.7 and can't buy a date, and he's very virtuous, kind, owns a business, (isn't rich or anything) and has it together. I think it's mostly to do with Biology and the way we are raised and our values for sure. Just my two pence. :-) Tim

Interesting question. I had children later in life as a guy at the age of 34, but my wife was 22. I'm glad I waited as I wasn't mature enough earlier in life. I'm not sure except it was a selfish thing maybe. I wanted them? I mean, I wanted copy's of myself. I wanted my gene's to continue and I wanted to be a father as my father was good to me, so I wanted my own to enjoy the fatherly love I received as well. (Never hit, was very supportive, etc, although he made some mistakes, but no one is perfect). Anyway, great question. Tim

Wow, so much to ponder. Great points. Thank you again! I'll for sure do what I can. I totally agree with all you said! Thank you. Tim

Because she's a woman, you have to make sure you have proof in the form of as everyone has stated her or most have in writing and camera, etc,. Do what you have to do, but you have the right to defend yourself against man or animal in any form. I wish you well and I hope you're ok. Tim

Very interesting. If anyone ever tries to tell me I must do something or I'm an idiot or "this is the only way to do something" then I'm immediately skeptical about their reasoning or agenda. Why are they so afraid of me finding out information is my worry. I mean, if something is true, it's true and opinion doesn't matter. :-) I can figure that out on my own, but I totally agree that we must encourage others via being kind. Just my humble two pence though. :-) Tim

Hey Ozone, I appreciate all the advice. I really do.. I have really tried to figure it out as far as the illness went. Hardest thing I've ever done. The pain and stiffness is so intense I wanted to die at times. I mean it's the worst pain I've ever experience over time. It's a constant thing and it's like having a fucking wet suit on that's 5 times too small. This isn't a matter of will, but just biology I guess, but I'm so much better now than I used to be with meds. The weight is the biggest issue and it's like you said for sure about the eating and exercise. Hence the reason I asked more about the yoga. I went to probably 12 docs all in all while I was still working in the IT field full time when I became ill, first they swore as they tested me over and over again I probably, but didn't know for sure that I had MS, then it was test after test and nuero after neuro, etc, and finally I went to a surgeon and pain doc and he's the one that did the Chronic Lyme testing, and others that finally game me some answers. He also encourages the counseling aspect and insures that drugs aren't the only things used for the management of the pain, etc,. The first docs kept telling me I was depressed, and I of course at the time didn't see it, and maybe still don't. I was making great money, was doing my thing, but I did have the self awareness I have now, but that was 12 years ago or more when I became ill. The big problem at the time was that I couldn't get out of pain long enough to concentrate on fixing any problems, etc, and I found out it was because of the laws that doctors are afraid to really treat people with Chronic pain and other problems. This is kind of what helped me find philosophy, etc, as I wanted to know why anyone would have this type of thought, etc,. as it wasn't rational at all to me and my current doc. Finally the same great doctor dx'd me with ME, and then later with ME and Chronic Lyme. He's been treating me for years now and I've at least been able to work part time, but it's struggle. Now of course, I'm wanting to make sure it's not just the Lyme, but I'm sure after learning more that the childhood trauma doesn't help of course. Anyway, I'm making progress, slowly, but surely! The Anger issues are pretty much under control unless someone really pushes my buttons and insists on being a dick, then the problem isn't getting angry if it's justified, but getting in a rage and saying things I wish I may not like later, etc, but I do have most of it under control I feel like but I'm for sure going to counsel much, much more. I'm looking into counseling now and it's just a little hard to find a good one here where I live, but I'll find one and will fix these problems of mental anxiety, but the physical thing is the thing that worries me as there is no cure from what I can see and learn about the illness. That doesn't mean I can't live a good life though. I just have to adjust. I've done much of that already. I'm going to continue to do so and more. Anyway, I just basically wanted to thank you very much. I really appreciate it. Tim

Zosha, I can tell you as a man that is 53 and thru hard experience that a man (or woman I'd guess) will have a harder time with demands or feeling like he's being demanded (even if not the case) for sex or anything else. I would for sure suggest you look into why you love each other and if you really do and what love means to you and if it's true love. I'm doing the same, and I wish you and your partner luck. Regards Tim