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Most excellent. Most people think they can "reason" and "logic" their way into, out of, around, and explain everything in life away. That's not how emotions work. Not even close. There's no such thing as an "appropriate" emotion. Emotions just are. People have emotions all the time for reasons they cannot even explain. It won't do any good to try and rationalize it, explain it, or reason or logic with it. It just is. Observe it, don't absorb it. Learn from it. Or maybe leave it open for interpretation later. Sometimes the answer doesn't come in a snap. That's the problem with "philosophy" and so-called "philosophers." They think they know everything. There is nothing they can't explain. There isn't anything they can't talk about and make it all better, make it all go away. They're always passing judgment on the lives and emotional lives of others. I wonder what their own lives really look like. It's easy to come online and pretend you got it all together, completely devoid of any responsibility for your actions and the shit you say. I'll bet most of the people on this board are a living mess who couldn't fight or find their way out of a wet paper bag. But here they are passing judgment on the emotions of a five year old, when they're only two year olds themselves. Donate enough and you can get a title and one of those little red "we don't like you" buttons you can push, like a little monkey every time you see something you don't much approve of, the "receive-electroshock-for-the-wrong-button-method". But if you kiss our ass and be a good little monkey with us, we'll give you a green one, which proves you're just as dumb as we are. When they shame and guilt, well, they're "philosophers", and that's OK. It's just that they don't like it when they're shamed and guilted, too. They're "philosophers" and they've got their shit together, but you? Well, you've got a long way to go, and we have a little red check mark to prove it. You're just misfits. That's all you are. Deluded little misfits. And people like Stefan Molyneux know this, and know how to exploit you and lie to you, just like the rest of society. And the lie is that change and healing are possible. They are not. You are what you are. Go live with it. Therapy can only take you so far, help you solve conflicts and turmoil, help you understand things better. Thank goodness for people, like Kaki, who have a brain, who use it, and who understand all of these things and strive to understand more yet. It's people like her who truly help to make the world a better place. But you can't be a Kaki. You can only be a you, unfortunately. You know who you are. You can tell who you are by the fact that my words are stabbing you in the guts and giving you pain right now. All you are is another member of another collective and head of State. You're a goon with a gun, a thug, an enforcer. That's all you are. Therapy can help you, yes. But therapy isn't everything. Philosophy can help, yes, but philosophy isn't everything. Psychotherapy and medications are concerned only with behavior modifications, not with healing. The State is concerned with your maladaptation and your inability to fit in because your maladaptation is socially costly. This board is a place where freaks, like yourself, come and get supply for your false, narcissistic little selves.

Hi neeeel, your honesty is very much appreciated. You are willing to admit and perhaps even to take responsibility for your own shortcomings. That will always help you out in the long run. Too many are in denial, and then wonder why they can't move on. They don't want to take any responsibility for their own nonsense. We come from the same sort of backgrounds, so I hear you loud and clear. Though my abuse was incredibly violent and horrific, mind and body shattering. We pick up traits from our parents, good ones and bad ones. My Dad, for example, was incredibly lazy, a loser and a failure, which is where I got my laziness and my own capacity for losing and failing. Reading books and doing constructive things were not encouraged, but that's what I really wanted to do. So there was always conflict. Lying around on the living room floor watching boob tube was encouraged. If I was caught hiding in a corner with a book, asking too many questions, trying to make sense of the world around me, I was asked, "What'd'you think you're smart? You think you're smarter than me, you little son-of-a-bitch?" And the book would be taken away and I would be beaten. That's all Dad ever did when he was at home. Bitch, get drunk, sit there and watch television, and you'd better not make any noise while he was doing it or you'd get a vicious whipping with a belt for having disturbed the big pile of elephant shit sitting in the middle of the living room. So, naturally, lying around being quiet, not moving, doing nothing became the norm. There was safety and security in doing nothing. In doing nothing, you were less likely to get punched in the face or kicked in the head or kicked in the ass, or backhanded out of your chair at the dinner table. I turned all that around one day in the mid-1980s while working outside as a very young adult, years after I had moved out of Dad's pig sty. It was a hot day and I was moving slow and lazy while trying to complete a furniture project I had been working on. It seemed to take forever, and, out my laziness, I was about to give up once more. But wait! Screw this bullshit! I am not going to walk away and be lazy and half-assed today! I am going to kick laziness in the ass and get this project done - TODAY! And that's all there is to it! And that's all there was to it. I took hold of that project and worked all day and all that night and finished it. And I never looked back. I was never lazy again. I have my moments from time to time, sure. We all do. But am I basically lazy anymore? Nah. I will always get the job done, no matter what. I feel, think, and act better when I am not lazy. So, it is always in my best interest to kick laziness on down the line and be done with it. For me, it's just an act of willpower. That little voice wakes me up and reminds me, "Ruh, roh, you're being lazy!" And I think to myself, 'OK, this has to stop, like, right now.' And that's the end of it. There was never any fundamental change to me. I simply chose to modify my behavior that very moment. I just made being busy a habit instead of keeping being lazy as a habit. There really isn't anything you can do about yourself. You are what you are. At best, you can modify your behavior and get a different result. You were abused, so you will naturally tend to be abusive, to yourself and to others around you. It's been wired into your hardware and software. Your awareness is key here. You realize you are lazy and abusive, and that will help you understand it better and be able to control your own appetites for destruction. Some people, knowing their tendencies and traits, go as far as to refrain from ever having children, for fear of treating them badly, being irresponsible and/or abusive. All this is worthy of consideration. One of the things most of us fail to understand, fail to remember about sociopaths, narcissists, etc., is that their disorder is made a purpose. They come from abuse themselves. During their horrific childhoods, for example, it was a protection mechanism, it was a means of survival, a learned thing that developed into what they are and who they are today. It's like being in a penitentiary. One does what one must do to survive the place, as the circumstances therein are beyond one's control, e.g., brutal warders and fellow inmates, etc. But the idea is that once you leave the prison, you don't need to utilize those particular ways any longer, and should leave them at the prison gates upon departure. But it does not always work that way. Example, child accidentally breaks a light bulb in the garage. Dad is abusive, mean, violent, and a beating is sure to come of this. The child knows this, and he also knows that all he has to do is tell a lie and he will escape the beating. So he lies and escapes the beating and another sibling takes his beating instead, or Dad is sent off in another thought or direction and the whole thing is forgotten. The child learns to manipulate through these events. He finds himself "smarter" than everyone else. And, in a sense, he actually is. He learns to use his wits quickly and creatively, long before others his age even begin, he is already taking the role of a shrewd, cunning adult, like a politician, a cop, or a gangster. He gets smart. He "educates" himself. He is autodidact. He learns to use his brains, in his own, twisted sort of way. When he finally grows up, he thinks that now he can drop all this nonsense he has to do to survive the prison, the home he grew up in, but when he does depart, he realizes that his thinking is but a load of crap. It doesn't work that way. You carry those beatings and bruises and broken bones along with you to remind you of where you came from, and sometimes, more often than not, the outside world triggers the old responses and the prison life carries on beyond the prison walls. And there is nothing these people can do about themselves. It is who they are. Berating them, guilting them, shaming them to stop is laughable at best. It will only spur them on, challenge them to do more and to do better. Telling them to stop is like telling a snake to stop being a snake. He simply will not do it. Though I did violence, stole, lied, cheated, sought thrills, screwed a few hundred women, I was never a full blown sociopath or narcissist. I actually have a conscience. Obviously, you do as well, or you wouldn't be here. For example, as a violent, ruthless teenager, I stole from stores and other places of business, but breaking into and or stealing from someone's home was out of the question for me. I even berated my criminal friends for doing it and refused to join them and warned them to keep clear of my house or they'd be shot. But a store? No problem. Take whatever you can get away with, thought I. Some rich guy owns this and he won't miss a thing. That was my stupid line of thought many years ago. There are plenty of people who don't have empathy or conscience. They just don't care who they hurt. In fact the more that get hurt the better, the more they like it. We all have sociopathic and narcissistic traits. But there is a healthy narcissism, and, in self defense, for one example, tapping into our sociopathic traits, temporarily disregarding the feelings and well-being of the criminal we are trying to save ourselves from being murdered by just might be a good thing to have in the moment. It could save our very life.

Sometimes your interference will only make things worse. When the child gets home, the child could end up getting a mouthful and perhaps a fistful of, "Did you see how you embarrassed me in front of that man in the store today? You acted up in front of everyone and made me have to grab you. Well, now, I'm really going to give you something to cry about..." Most of the time, when we try to do good, we only make things worse, like the State. There's nothing wrong with you wanting to get involved and make a difference, but I would certainly change my approach. Aside from getting involved with direct intervention, as in the case of obvious, outright, vicious abuse, e.g., punching, kicking, shaking, out-of-control screaming, etc. I will not tolerate the sight of anything like that from anyone. I will confront you directly, even physically, if necessary. I will call you out so loud it wakes up the whole neighborhood and has everyone's attention whether or not they like it. That I will not stand for. I know, it's a difficult thing for the self-righteous among us to think in this manner, but it works... show compassion not only for the child, but also the strugggling, frustrated parent. Your walking up and berating, guilting, and shaming her sure didn't help matters any, obviously. She's abusing the child, now you're abusing her. You just piled abuse on top of more abuse. Next thing you know, there's an argument, and possibly a fight. Someone convinced against their will is of the same opinion still. The child will only get caught up in the middle of it, and end up more abused, more terrified. Instead of approaching in the self-righteous manner, approach with a big smile and a cheerful attitude, "Uh! Oh! What's the matter here?" Smile at the child, wink, and assure him with your body language that everything is all right and that this is all just a big misunderstanding we are going to fix up in a jiffy. Mom will take the hint and join in as though nothing is happening. She does not want to be more embarrassed than she is already. "Is there something I can help you with, Ma'am, is there something I can get for you? Listen, we've got a big box of really good donuts in the break room, would you and mom like a nice, fresh donut? How'd that be?" Again, smile, let everyone know everything is OK. Change the subject, change the scene to something more and more positive and alluring. A few years back, eating in a restaurant, brunching with some friends, there was a family sitting a couple of tables away. It was a Sunday, everyone nicely dressed, just got out of Church, I supposed. The family had a crying baby at the table with them. As they tried to sit and enjoy their meal, the babe got louder and louder, and was soon all-out bawling. No one at their table could soothe the child, no matter what they did. And they were beginning to get frustrated and lose their cool. The screaming babe was disrupting the entire dining room and everyone was beginning to stare at them. Enough. I got up from my table and went over to them and held out my hands to an obviously frustrated grandmother who was red in the face with embarrassment. She handed the baby to me and I held her close and started to whisper to her. She got a little quieter and started to calm down as I walked her around the dining room. Soon, other diners wanted to get a peek at the babe, so I bent down to them and gave them a peek as the child calmed down. They smiled and cooed at the little one. Soon, an old woman stood up in my way and held out her arms and took the babe and played and smiled at her for a minute, then handed her back to me. Then a little girl came away from her table and I knelt down to the child and allowed her to carefully hold the baby and give her hugs and talk to her. Soon the baby was laughing, smiling, having a good time. By the time I got back around to the parent's table, the baby was quite content and I handed her back to mom, who thanked me and smiled and offered to buy my breakfast. "No, no, that won't be necessary. You folks enjoy your Sunday." I sat back down and finished my cold brunch. I was walking through Big C the other night, shopping in Nakhon Pathom. A woman was berating her son and daughter in an aisle in the store. The son continued crying and would not let go of an item he had in his hand and the mother responded by smacking the back of his hand so hard he screamed. You could hear the "whap!" from one end of the aisle to the other. Then she continued berating him on top of that, in a voice as loud as thunder. No one said a word or even batted an eye. This sort of thing is quite normal here, in fattening, deteriorating Thailand, the land of the narcissist supremes. Then the abuser continued walking up and down the aisles. shooting off her mouth, screaming at her brood. Again, no one batted an eye. Now, if you were to try and get involved in a scene like this, you would be promptly told to fuck off and mind your own goddamn business. It all depends on where you are, who you are. Context is everything. Sometimes just staying out of it and minding your own business is best. "Never wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and, besides, the pigs like it." George Bernard Shaw Things aren't getting better, people, and they aren't going to. Not yet anyway. Be careful out there. And be good to yourselves--and frustrated parents! We're all on our way to hell in a narcissistic handbasket! Happy Ntopic New Year!

I agree with ditching the wedding altogether. Big expense. Big pain. Why throw a party so others can come and get sauced at your expense? I don't even get sauced myself, why should I pick up someone else's tab? We rented ourselves a cabin in the mountains in the winter following our spring wedding down at the JOP. When my daughter got married, they were planning a big shin-dig, but I stepped in to the rescue. I suggested they get a couple of witnesses, get the JOP to do the job, then sneak off for a little vacation together, if they cared to, and be done with it. They did just that. Saved all their cash and bought a second house.Thanked me later. Smartest thing they ever did.

Ah, thanks. I didn't think of that! I am going to try the Trusty Tahr, and if that don't work, I will just stick with Saucy Salamander. It's no longer supported, but, hey, it still works like a charm! Thanks again!

So, what's up with the Ubuntu Utopic Unicorn 32-bit downloads that won't boot on my 32-bit machines? I downloaded three already and not one will boot from either of my old 32-bit machines. They boot fine on my new machines however. I need one of the major Linux distros for a Linux course I am taking and decided to go with Ubuntu. I don't want to use one of my new machines for the course, so I broke out a couple of old 32-bit laptops that will work fine. But no go with any of the latest Ubuntu operating systems. I want Ubuntu because it runs best on my old hardware. I ended up installing an old Saucy Salamander 13.10 cd I had lying in the drawer, which is no longer supported. When I went to upgrade, that's when I found none of the new .iso I got would boot from the old hardware-even though it is (allegedly) 32-bit! What's up with this? Anyone find this problem?

My wife couldn't wait to get hitched. I met her when I lived in Las Vegas. She came here from Thailand and kept hounding me about getting married (wanted citizenship and to start working toward her son's citizenship immediately afterward). I was in no hurry. I could've cared less.). I made it very clear to her that more children was out of the question anyway, so why all the fuss about getting married? She persisted. Finally, one day, on a rare day off we had together, I told her I had to go to the government center to get some stuff done and that she should come along with me. She acquiesced. Before she knew what was happening, we were standing in line to get the marriage license. This made her very happy and surprised, and we got the job done and got the license. As we were walking out with the license in our hand, she kept asking what we needed to do next. I told her there was any number of ways we could proceed, we could do this and we could do that, and blah, blah, blah. As we were discussing the matter, we passed by a woman sitting on a bench outside the building, who overheard us and jumped in, "Yes, you could do any one of those things, among others, or you could just walk across the street to the Justice of the Peace right now and he will hook you up for a fee. It's that building right there on the corner. You kids knock yourselves out." "Well, thank you very much for the tip!" "You're welcome!" At that, we walked over to the JOP and we were officially hitched in less than an hour. Been hitched for thirteen years now.

I didn't mean to imply she's a bloodsucking parasite. Nothing of the kind. I don't mean to imply that there is something wrong with them wanting all of your money. What I am saying is that is how they do things in their culture. I am pretty far from racist. My wife is Thai/Chinese. Speaks four languages, writes three; English, Cantonese, French, and Thai. Been married to her for over thirteen years now. Lived here in Asia off and on for all of that time. Had many Asian girlfriends, from Thailand, China, Cambodia, Vietnam. Speak some of the language. This is how the culture works. This is how they do things. There is nothing wrong with it. There is nothing malicious about it, but to a Westerner with no experience in these matters, it might seem malicious. It isn't. It's just the way it is. Sounds like your wife is Westernized. If she's been living in a Western culture since she was two, she is hardly "Vietnamese" any longer, except by "blood", whatever that's supposed to mean. To my mind, "blood" and "race" means nothing, absolutely nothing. There is only one race: the human race. And I'll say it again, from vast experience, the differences between Eastern and Western cultures are so vastly different as to be almost completely incompatible. I often tell people from East and West I meet, that if they are getting together to make a relationship they should plan on doing things one way or the other, the Eastern way or the Western way. But sounds like you don't have any of these problems to begin with. Wife is Western. Nothing to it. You are of the same mind already, sounds like. You did not make this clear in the outset of your post. Best of everything to you.

Does she have an ex? If so, do they have a child or children between them? If so, expect to pay out for them, too. Yes, the ex included. You are a bank account to the family already. A cash register. They want the money. All of it. Everything you've got. This is why they want the marriage, too. Is she a citizen? Is she hounding you about citizenship? With the Asians, the money is pooled. Everything everybody makes is expected to go into the kitty, and usually a big mama controls all of it and runs the show. The most money goes to, usually, a golden child. This is just the way it is. This is the culture. There are exceptions, but not many. So, if your partner is not controlling your money already, get control of it right now. Get tight control of it. Every penny. If she asks you for anything, find out exactly what the money is for, and who will be getting it. Then make a rational decision based on the answers she gives you. If you give the money, demand receipts. You will get no sympathy for the abuse you suffer or that you have suffered or that you will suffer. Asians simply do not understand this. They see no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil. It's "bad luck" to talk about your bad past. Give up the past and move on. Don't talk about it anymore. It's the only way. This, too, is merely a part of the culture. Get used to it. These are people who watch with indifference children who have fallen on the ground, flat on their faces, and get hurt, and scream for help. They don't move a muscle to help them. These are people who watch with indifference as animals, hit by cars, and struggling along on broken limbs, are completely ignored. These are people who don't get out of the way for ambulances who clearly have their lights on and their sirens screaming. The differences between the Western and Asian cultures are so radically different as to be almost completely incompatible. Read everything you can. Go visit the country and meet everyone and find out what is going on. Don't trust anyone and leave anything to chance. Choose carefully.

I like both Kaki and MMX2010 arguments. While any experiences, background, environment, genetics, physiology, etc., are highly influential in shaping the individual's sexuality, desires, activities, etc., it is also true that when we grow up and become big boys and girls we can choose what we want and what we don't want. We can raise our awareness and self-knowledge, adapt, expand, and work with what is given.

I stack one ounce rounds, ten ounce bars, and one hundred ounce bars. I've found that's the easiest way to handle and store silver. I like to buy junk silver, too; it's easiest to keep that in coin bags.

Those are some sweet prices. When I moved to NV in late 2001, I started buying lots of silver. I was getting it for less than $4.00 per toz. Man, would I like to see that again! Because, for me, silver is for buying, not for selling.

Ah, yes, this explains everything. The little Stefbots on parade. They have no mind of their own. Poor Stef. He has a lot of work to do. Just what I thought. Zero.

As for the first remark, sure, you could say that's a "logical fallacy", but then again, so many things could be read into that statement, it could have so many different meanings, one would have to ask the author exactly what he meant by that remark before drawing any conclusions. I haven't talked to him and would not venture to guess what he meant. It's sophistry to say that the comment is sophistry. A "false premise"? You don't have to look very far to see that our "modern sexual interactions are devastatingly corrupt." Our ancient sexual interactions are devastatingly corrupt, too. Has there ever been a time in human history when they were not? Sex has always been, and likely will always be, used purely for social and anti-social purposes, as well as for pure pleasure, so long as mankind walks the earth. So long as the parties involved are acting of their own free will, what's corrupt about it? It's like listening to music. We pick the kind of music we like and listen for pleasure. It's the same with sex. We pick the partners we like, and have sex purely for the joy of it. That's what I do. Of course, the kind of person who finds no joy in sex would not subscribe to that idea, and there are plenty of these kinds of people about. Obviously, I am not one of them. And if someone is forcing someone else to do it, it isn't sex, it's violence. Nor am I trying to procreate. In fact, that is not desirable for me. I don't want any more children. So, procreation, for me anyway, is not only undesirable, I actively seek to be sure it does not happen, that it is in fact never the result of a sexual experience I have with any of my partners. My partners and I are always protected against procreation. We are not having sex to procreate. We are having sex purely for the pleasure of it and nothing else. "Other than that, if you want to have multiple lovers, there is nothing wring with that. It's nothing new." This is "science", "logic", and "reasoning"? Your comment is backed by what science, logic, and reasoning? Your own? Where did you get an idea like that? And what "science", "logic", and "reasoning" brought you to this conclusion? "It's nothing new"? What does that have to do with anything? What if it was something new? What then? Would there still be nothing "wring" with that? Or would something now be "wring" with that? According to your "science", "logic", and "reasoning", there's nothing "wring" with anything so long as it isn't something new? If it's new, there's got to be something "wring" with it and therefore we should refrain from doing it? What the bloody hell are you talking about? What will you try to "science", "logic" and "reason" your way into or out of next? Are you going to try and tell me that whores, sluts, harlots, doxies are "evil" and that snakes talk?

Still waitin' to hear some of that "science", "logic", and "reasoning", kids.

Talk about logic and reasoning... Lulzerskates... Logic and reasoning isn't everything... You can "logic" and "reason" you way into and/or out of anything you like... I've yet to see anyone on this thread, or anywhere for that matter, introduce even one slightly good argument for monogamy. The truth is, you haven't got one. And there's no need to bother looking for one. That would be like looking for the Fountain of Youth. You will never find it because it does not exist. But, again, if you feel it is in your best interest to practice monogamy, you go right ahead. Enjoy,

All good, except you forgot the "as for me" part. Science?

Silver closed yesterday at $15.87 per toz. It's still like buying dirt. Get some silver.

The purpose of a Japanese or another individual in another tribe being forced apart from someone they love and to have sex with as many different people as practical to facilitate the breakup is most definitely social, or, more accurately, is most definitely anti-social behavior, i.e., anti-social violence inflicted on individuals in order to perpetuate the norms and customs of the society. And I have stated clearly, if monogamy is your thing you should have it your way. As for me, monogamy is 100% pure laughable bullshit. So, you go on and have your monogamy and enjoy it.

It's definitely a social thing in many cultures. Many tribes and cultures are against the idea of a man and a woman falling in love and being together. Their happiness is a threat to the tribe. Their joy in being together would make them think not of the tribe first, but of themselves. Their relationship would be selfish, and selfishness is not to be tolerated. So, when these love connections are made, the tribe steps in to break it up. One of the ways they do this is to encourage the man and the woman to have as many sexual relations with as many different people as practical, in order to disabuse them of the idea that they belong to each other. They do not belong to each other, they belong to the tribe. The Japanese, for one example, once ruthlessly enforced this. They had become more westernized in the twentieth century, but a large element of this still exists today. Monogamy is good for some of those who choose it, perhaps. I certainly have my doubts, but it is always possible that monogamy is desirable for some people, and so they should have it their way. On the other hand, there are a great many people practicing monogamy out of simply not knowing they have an alternative. They are monogamous, but they don't want to be, and they repress themselves to please the world around them, to be accepted socially, to be a part of something "greater than themselves", etc. They make a mess of themselves and lead a life of lies for reasons they don't even understand to begin with. The same idea goes with believing in god or gods. Many people do it only because they do not realize there is an alternative, because they repress themselves, because they believe what they are told without question.

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I've been monogamous. Biggest mistake of my life. Useless nonsense. And many times what happens is that people who are monogamous presume that people who are not are merely promiscuous; this also is nonsensical stupidity. "You can kill all the people you want on television; you just can't have sex with one." The truth hurts, don't it?

Hello my Fellow Linux Lovers, just wanted to take a minute to share my latest Linx raves and favs and other new goodies I have found... As for the big distros, I'm an openSUSE lover and user, and I just downloaded openSUSE-13.2-DVDx86_64.iso and installed and it's just wonderful! Best openSUSE I have seen yet! I also downloaded centos 7 and gave it a boot. Can't say I liked it much. I just downloaded Fedora 21 but haven't booted that one yet. No comment. My most used, most reliable distros are of course the Puppy Linux distros. These are my main operating systems, I use them everyday, they do everything I need and then some right out of the box, and I can't get enough of them. I run my first love LxPup-Precise-Retro 14.02 on my electronic notebook, the one that's never ever, under any circumstances connected to the Internet. I do a full install to the hard drive, then boot the computer with the Precise operating system and get to work. That way, only what I want saved to the hard drive is saved. Once I boot down, the entire session vanishes. This method is great for online banking, too! I just found this one, didn't even know it existed until a couple of days ago: LxPupTahr-1-4.10.1-pae.iso And I fell in love immediately. I will likely use this Pup to replace Precise Pup sometime in the near future. It is just fantastic! And the latest Pup I've walked around the block is this one: Quirky Pup unicorn-6.2.1.91.iso This Pup is amazing! Note: the .iso, should you decide to download and try it out, is not what you need for a full install. This CD will only be good for booting up and using the operating system as a live CD session. Once you boot down, all will be erased! In order to do a full install, you will need another version. I recommend burning to disc the .iso I have posted here and trying the Pup first. It is still in development stages and it is said that it is kind of crazy right now; I don't know what they're talking about, as I have had zero problems with this Pup, but you can't say I didn't warn ya. Quirky Pup is, by far and away, the fastest operating system I have ever seen. Enjoy.

For those of you dealing with a narcissist in your life, Spartan Life Coach did an amazing thing here in explaining how the narcissist always comes back to get more from old sources of supply and how they feed off sources of supply. My wife is like this. It's amazingly accurate how he describes her. One of the things she does that makes me chuckle is when she comes to me, which she often does, asking advice on something. She's not a very good thinker. She's a confused, muddled mess most of the time, unable to walk and chew bubble gum at the same time, so she needs a little help on most things. Now, this used to make me very angry and hurt, but now, knowing what I know about narcissistic behavior, it makes me laugh... As I said, she often comes to me for advice on a personal or business matter, clearly befuddled as to what's going on and/or what to do about it. I listen to her intently. In a flash, I understand the problem and explain it to her and give her all options on how to handle it. Most of her problems are easy. She says nothing, not even a simple little, "thank you", and walks away. The next day, or a couple of days later, whatever the case may be, we will be talking and she will bring up her subject once more, explain it back to me exactly as I explained it to her, and recite the course of action she has chosen. She will sit there and explain the whole thing as though I had never heard it before, as if she had just thought all this up a few minutes ago, and then she stares at me as if to say, "Well, aren't you going to compliment me on my brilliant thinking and action?" Now, this used to drive me to madness. I would become indignant and enraged. "What the fuck? We just talked about this yesterday. It was I who sat there and listened to you for a half hour on all of this and explained what could be done about it. Now, you come back to me as though we had never spoken a word on this and act like it was all your idea. What are you trying to do? Are you screwing with me? Are you going to sit there and tell me you don't remember our conversation yesterday? What, exactly, are you trying to pull? Just yesterday, you were depressed and wondering what could be done about this, and now, today, with my words coming out of your mouth, you are on top of the world. I don't understand you. Why do you have to lie like this to try and make yourself look good and try to make me feel small and stupid? What's your deal?" At that, she just sits there and looks at me blankly, rolls her eyes, sighs, and changes the subject. I used to cry about this. Now, I just laugh. Sometimes, I will overhear her at a dinner party explaining something I have explained to her in exactly the way I have explained it. I just smile and ignore her. These days I refrain from even talking to her when I realize one of these episodes is about to come on. I just tell her I'm busy, got other things to do, can't talk right now. This leaves her depressed, barren, lost. The narcissist is a shell. There is no one in there. They do not understand you. They merely mock and mimic what real people do. You don't understand why they appear to be devoid of empathy, sympathy, affection, love, etc. It is because you are filled with those things. It is because that is what you are and that is precisely what they are not. They get their supply of it from you. They get how to act from you. And it is an act. They do not know how to act. So they act like those around them. They are like monkeys, simply mimicking what the other monkeys are doing so they can fit in with the rest of the world and not be found out and identified as the misfits and outcasts they really are. Now, my wife likes to get her goods, her supply from me because I am different. I like to think. I like to solve problems. I often can't help myself from trying to figure out just about anything people put in front of me. No matter how hard the problem is, no matter how long it takes, I will dive into it and not come up for air until I find the solution. Unfortunately, for her, and any other narcissists who might come along in the future, I have thought my way into knowing that she is one of my problems and will soon enough be dealt with accordingly. But that's another story for another time. What I mean to point out here is that I am one of those in the next video posted below who Spartan Life Coach is talking about. I often catch my wife mesmerized by my words, trying to ingest it all. She might as well be walking on Jupiter. She simply cannot do it. And of course, like other weak and stupid people, she cuts me down for it, hiding the fact that she does not understand me, does not understand other people, does not understand the world around her, and she is cold and alone, like a hurt child, like an abused child. People like this resort to shame, ridicule, and guilt, because they are feeling that way themselves, and they project what they feel onto others. They can't bear it. They have to get it off of them at any cost. They feel better when they get everyone laughing at someone else, someone other than themselves. Of course, they are too childish, small, stupid, and immature to realize that no one need be laughed at, ridiculed, guilted at all. No one. The narcissist does not understand this, after all, if no one is laughed at, shamed, guilted, mocked, and wrecked, how will the narcissist ever get a handle on things? How will he ever be able to force others to give him supply? For the narcissist, it is not a matter of doing the right thing or the wrong thing. Right and wrong is determined exclusively by the narcissist. And when it comes to getting a feed of supply, for him, for her, the narcissist-anything goes. Literally, anything goes. You are simply a tool for his use in getting that job done. Real people are the narcissists connection to reality, their only connection. This is another reason they cling so tightly to their supply, why they become so violent at the prospect of losing supply. They are screwed without it. They cannot live life on their own. They need people connected to reality to draw from in order to make it through life. Without their supply, the narcissist is a helpless, hopeless disaster.