FrankHuranku

Nice interview. I've heard from The Menprovement Podcast that Dr. Gupta Amygdala Retraining™ is also very effective for such things. The host had anxiety problems, but I think it was from an injury that ended his soccer career, not his parents. I've used something called The Release Technique: Abundance Program, & a Taoist meditation practice called Inner Smile, but what helped the most was basically re-living my trauma & experiencing all the emotions I buried when I was a child. I've had a self-sabotaging thing going on my whole life, so I would reassure myself in the midst of re-experiencing the trauma that it wasn't my decision or fault, that I was powerless, & that I did not deserve such harsh punishment. These were things I logically arrived on a few times before in my life, but what was different here was that I told myself that over & over, in the midst of feeling the trauma. Also, after listening to peaceful parenting stuff, & reading psychology stuff to be vague, I had a better understanding on why this was true. That was more focused than The Release Technique, but as I went on, I used them all together along with EMDR I think it's called, which wasn't invented by whoever claims they invented it. It's another old Taoist technique, they just didn't call it that. Emotional Intelligence is also another valuable book in this mix.

AAAAAGGHHHHHH! Just AAARRRGH that felt good. I've had a "I deserve punishment" message running my life. I've spent 7 years (I'm 32) searching for a way to fix this, & only really realized the message about 3 weeks ago. By the way, I commit the FDR sin of being a drummer, & aspiring comedian at that, definitely not a psych major. I read something called Treating adult survivors of severe childhood abuse and neglect: Further development of an integrative model John Briere, Ph.D. I took about a page of notes on what I found most relevant & after making a complete timeline of early life trauma, I've been doing something very similar to this. This is extremely validating that I'm on the right track.

Haha, good amount of replies. Well, I've been all over the mental psilocybin universe with this one. I've experienced oneness, megalomania, it broke me out of the most severe depression I've had in my life, I've been in a panic in my tent at a festival, constantly switching between thinking I peed my pants feeling for wet spots on the ground, & then seeing a flash of...achem, doodoo, like right in my vivid imagination center, & finally, I rarely meditate but I meditated for over 2 hours once, wild stuff.

Let it go...which is a sentence that brought me madness for a while. What the common saying should be, is identify, face, express/expel, & change. Emotion & trauma, identify trauma, face what you've been pushing down emotionally, express it until calling upon the details of the trauma doesn't give you the emotional response. Realize while in the trauma moment, that you are not responsible for these moments before 18, & from the learned behavior that resulted from it. Then make light of the events once it's emotionally ok to call upon them, I'm doing this with standup comedy. Then, personal development, the long road of overcoming learned behavior & replacing them with new habits.

...the giant God-hand of empiricism & philosophy knocked it all over the floor like a diner-set love scene in a romantic comedy starring Dane Cook. I say ol' chap, FDR/Stefan joins the ranks with David DeAngelo & Tai Lopez: 67 Steps, as the most concentrated forms of valuable information for dollar ratio. ACE score of 7, get that out of the way. Nothing has kicked me in my dangling set of beliefs harder than the almost manic aural addiction of free FDR books & hours of podcasts. At the heart of that ACE is...was?...a belief that I am garbage & don't deserve love/success. After much audio digestion, & going against what those around me say about digging in my past, I am beginning to stop giving my father a free pass, thus, internalizing the proper belief that I have worth & intrinsic value. It's been very painful, & FDR just flicked the steering wheel away from the cliff towards the dusty bridge to freedom, just in time. Happy to be here.