asaf92

I can really connect to your story. Disconnecting from my oldest brother was really a no brainer (and actually supported by the rest of my family), but that left a lot of space for me to think that the other brother should be a role model and he's kind of like your sister that left to New-York. He has been a DJ for most of his life, lives in "the big city" Tel-Aviv (which is the Israeli version of New-York, a lot of short sighted 20-35 year old people who pay a lot for night clubs, rent. coffee houses and cry about the price of living and capitalism) and chooses not to have kids because "it's not like the world will be hurt if people will have less kids or something". If by RPG you mean video games of that category, than I actually played a lot of RPG when I was young. I'd spend most of my time on the computer actually. I'm happy to see that your answer includes a lot of stuff that I've done over the past year and a half. I became a lot more picky when it comes to friends,also removing a lot of my social circles that had a bad influence on me. I changed my mind over whether or not I want kids. I don't completely avoid alcohol, but I barely drink and I definitely don't have these relationships where it's all about the alcohol and you can't have a meaningful conversation ever. Yes, I took the advice of meeting more real people to heart. Over the last year I spent too much time in the library of the university and haven't had a lot of socializing except for some awful people I met through Facebook. Now I work in IT so I'm surrounded by more high quality people, so I try to spend more time on meeting them and less on Facebook. I also take to heart the part about leadership. I want to use my skills to bring these ideas to my country. Israel is a very high IQ country and I can see the potential, but I'm having those mental blocks every time I open the video editor. I'll probably do it someday, but I have more important issues to bring to my therapy sessions and I think it can wait to a better life situation so I can actually do a complete and not half-assed job at it.

Hi Louise, glad you enjoyed the call! PUA is just where young confused men go to when they have no better idea of sexuality and relationships (both of my older brothers are unmarried and I'm not gonna be an uncle). For a lack of a better podcast to listen to for advice about relationships, I've listened to a certain group that was actually a lot more about motivation, confidence, entrepreneurship in general etc'... It was also an activity I did with a friend as sort of a "training" to help us cope with out fear of approach and confidence around women. When you close the video game and leave your room to a bar and start talking to women and see that they actually respond positively to you, it does help to jump-start your confidence. I'm now completely "converted" though. It was these 7 minutes that completely changed my mindset around women. I moved away from many people in my life way before I even heard of FDR. I haven't talked to my older brother for 5 years. In my experience, relationships that are not based on love but rather on fear or inertia can be a black hole for energy and motivation. Do you think you would have designed your life differently if you were exposed to the knowledge you have now 5 years ago?

(Keeping the titles going) My name's Asaf, I'm a 24 year old computer science student from Israel and I work in IT. I was also the first caller in #3448 (http://www.fdrpodcasts.com/#/3448/selling-yourself-when-nobody-is-buying-call-in-show-october-7th-2016). I found FDR about 18 months ago. I was already an atheist, but I had leftist & liberal views. I was also somewhat of a PUA not seeking to build a family and only interested in sexual relationships. This experience has been the most significant life changing thing for me my entire life. I completely changed the way I view relationships and politics. It's not always easy. It gets lonelier when you climb up the pyramid of knowledge. I would never take the blue pill or give any of this knowledge back, but I have to admit that I fell into depression and decided to go to therapy (also a decision I would have never took if it wasn't for FDR). When I discovered IQ I felt a bit relieved to know that I have this quality in me, but also felt like I've wasted my life because I learned programming when I was about 11 and I ditched it in favor of other childish stuff in order to be more in line with people that I don't really love. When you learn about how to look for quality in women you're glad that you avoided so many bad relationships but you're also sad to know how many few good women are out there. When you hear all these honest conversations about relationships, you're glad that you get to learn a lot but you also feel shit about the fact that conversations in your own life are not like that. And that's why I'm here. I would love to associate with like minded people from this forum. I'd be happy to see a comment on this thread, a PM, a Skype conversation or even a meetup if you're from Israel or visiting. I'd be happy to talk with anyone who's interested in FDR (especially the more personal side of it).

Shalom Ben! How old are you? Where are you from (in Israel)?

You keep hearing from feminists that the mainstream media are to blame for anorexia because of how they set an unrealistic beauty standard (and obviously they use it to justify regulation). Is anorexia really coming from the society or from ACEs?