I have recently remarried and my new wife and I both want kids.  She is Filipina and I admit I do not know how she was raised.  I was raised by parents who spanked.  My first wife and I both spanked our three kids.   
  
I see the damage we did and do not want to repeat those mistakes.  I am now disabled and honestly unable (and unwilling) to be a physically oppressive parent.  I want to learn all I can about peaceful parenting and persuade my new wife to do the same. 
  
I would be grateful for all suggestions.