I've only known one couple who has what I would remotely consider a successful marriage and they are somewhat leftist and therefore less "traditional" than I want to be. I believe that I know the main stuff- don't pursue a career and raise kids at the same time, manage the house, be supportive, etc. but I'm lacking in the details I guess. I know what our general roles are, but sometimes I'm not sure if I am overstepping my role or not filling it enough. It seems like I have a somewhat cartoonish guide of how this is supposed to work. My soon-to-be husband was raised by a single mom, and all of the people I grew up around, though they professed family values, were either single parents, in clearly emotionally abusive marriages, or had a parade of baby daddies/mamas with no end in sight. I wish there was a book I could read to tell me how to do this. Though I am not religious, I have tried looking to people at church, but they are just as bad. Where can I even look for this, or am I left to figure it out as I go along?