Ronin_3000

My dad will introduce me to people and stuff. One time I said I was interested in becoming a lawyer, and he contacted some lawyer friends to talk to me about being their paralegal or student.

I don't like talking to my parents. I think my dad will say that I should just try something new.

I should ask my parents if they care for my well being? Of course they will say yes.

What should I ask? How do I find a career I enjoy? Can I do it over email?

My dad used to try and talk to me, but I told him I don't like talking to him so he stopped. He says he just wants me to be happy. I don't know how to be interested in my well-being. I think my parents are interested in my well-being. I think they just don't know any better like me.

Pretty much. My boomer parents think that going to college is the key to success. Beyond that, they have no useful advice. My mom's advice is "pick one thing, get really good at it, and people will pay you for it." But she never did that. She works non-jobs for government sponsored organizations. A high-schooler could probably do a better job than her. I think she only gets hired because she's old and has a college degree. My dad used to email me stupid inspiring quotes said by famous people. He is a fat, miserable (from my perspective), independent lawyer so I wonder if he even has any decent advice for me. One time I asked if he would train me to take over his business, but he said I should go to law school first. I'm done with school. It's never done me much good thus far. I only got a slightly higher salary than people without degrees in China. My dad did introduce me to construction people when I said I was interested in construction though. I guess he missed a step of finding out what I'm really interested in though. He thinks I need to try something for a year before I know if I like it or not. I think that's absurd. A year of trial is much too long in my opinion.

I talked to an owner of a construction company who was an old friend's dad. He seemed interested in hiring me, but then he didn't because I had no experience. I'm not sure why I lost interest in construction. I think the only reason I was interested in the first place was because I was fed up with teaching.

I just thought I should try something new. I didn't think that much research was necessary since I'd seen people doing construction. I didn't do any substantial discussions. I mentioned it to some people. I met some guys at a gym who did demolition work with sledgehammers. It sounded fun to me.

I hated sitting down so much being a teacher and preparing lessons. I thought a job where I get to move around might be fun. Also, I imagined being a plumber and having sex with lonely milfs like in Manchester by the Sea.

At the time I thought I might enjoy those things. I didn't have any better ideas at the time. It was my dad's idea for me to live with him. I don't think the idea of finding a career I enjoy was pressured onto me. I may have felt pressured because of the situation. I'd been in a detention center for assault, and my dad paid to get me out. What?

The idea was for me to find something I enjoy like construction or plumbing. I'm no longer interested in those things though. My dad gave me a deadline of September to move out or go to school. It means masterless samurai or a recent graduate without a job in Japan. It's a name I used for video games. I didn't choose it originally. My friend used it as his Runescape name, and we shared the account.

Yes, because my dad wants me to move out or go to school. I can either get a shitty job in a place that I'm not confident in getting laid (USA), or a job in a place where I am confident that I can get laid (China). I'm not interested in going to school since I'd have to go into debt for a potentially useless education. I enjoyed parts of them, but those parts technically weren't part of the actual jobs. Overall I did not enjoy them. For example, I worked as an assistant teacher, and I enjoyed playing with the judo club after school in one of the Japanese public schools I was at.

I need to get a job, and I'll be able to get laid relatively easily in China. Didn't have any better opportunities lined up. It was also a pain to move since I took a lot of luggage. To be clear, I self-sabotaged twice in China and once in Japan. I play cellphone games that don't take much skill.

Yeah, your first statement about sadness makes sense to me. I think your second statement about challenge encompasses my problem. I don't have any particular challenge that I want to take on. Should I just move to China and do a job I don't even enjoy in the meantime? I've done this twice, and it's resulted in me self-sabotaging after a while because I get bored with my job. Then I get fired and move back in with my parents. Not sure what you mean by this. I'm saying the longer you've been in a routine, the less change it takes to make you happy or unhappy. I misworded that. I should've said your tolerance for drugs gets lower if you don't do drugs for a while.

The longer you've spent in one state, the less action required for you to become happy or unhappy. It's like drugs. If you don't do drugs for a long time then your tolerance gets built up and it takes less drugs to get you high.

Happiness and misery aren't states you can reach and then chill there forever. Your body will become numb to any given situation over time, so you have to do new things if you want to be happy or miserable.

This is the first I've heard of it.

I was happy when playing video games with friends. My best friend stopped talking to me one day though so I don't have that happiness anymore.

I guess China since I value freedom, and you can do more in China than you can in Japan or America. For example, you can sell shit pretty much anywhere without a permit. At least I don't think these people get permits. Companies also regularly hire workers on tourist visas. These workers have to leave the country every 2-3 months to renew their visas though. I see China as de-jure oppressive, but de-facto free. What I mean by that is China's laws are probably as strict (or stricter) as any other state, but in practice, many of these laws aren't enforced. This is one thing I don't like about China. Chinese lie. The non-enforcement of certain laws just one reflection of this lying culture.

I'll list the places I've lived and the pros and cons of each. Feel free to suggest brand new places that I haven't lived in yet. Beijing, China- pros: relatively cheap, easy to get laid, good public transportation, sense of freedom (think '70s hippy type of freedom), conversational level Mandarin, easy to find work cons: bad food, dirty, noisy, slow Internet because VPN is required for Google services, can't play Pokemon GO Osaka, Japan- pros: best food, clean, quiet, good public transportation, best Internet, fluent in Japanese cons: expensive, hard to get laid (but easier than USA), hard to get a job without proper documentation, oppressive culture Tri-state, USA- pros: near parental safety net, native level English cons: mediocre food, shit public transportation, hard to get laid, expensive

Where can I find the podcast where Stefan talks about the bond with his mother being strong enough that he didn't murder her?

My therapist is going to give me a free session next week. I guess that's good enough. Also, he told me days in May on which he will not be available.

I told him I wanted to take a break from therapy. He phoned me and apologized. He seemed genuinely remorseful so I ended up scheduling our normal session the following week. Regarding this second missed appointment, he just replied to me yesterday. He says he doesn't force clients to pay who miss appointments, but sometimes his wealthier clients pay anyway. I asked him if he would let a patient continually miss appointments without consequences. Also, I offered to let him pay me 3x the value of a session if he makes the same error again. He hasn't replied yet.

Both actions are morally equivalent. I think the reason I am hesitant to conclude this is because of the statist system we live in. John is a murderer, but Winston is not even though their actions are the same. Murder is about the most evil thing you can do, but it's easy to think of things I've done that could've killed someone, but didn't. I've dropped things out of windows and hit people. If I was more unlucky then I'd be a murderer, but I'm just guilty of assault and property destruction. I think this would be a good topic to talk to Stephan about. I want to hear what he thinks.

The first time my therapist fucked up, he double-scheduled a new patient at the same time as me. He asked me if I was willing to wait 2 hours, and I said I was, but then I changed my mind and left. The second time, he forgot to tell me that he had some therapist training during our appointment. Given this new information, do you think I am being too hard on him by requesting compensation?