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I suspect that my mother has intentions that are beyond imagination for my grandmother who is dying of cancer. She abused me severely as a child and was abused by her mother in a more severe way. The difference between my mother and I is that she has a desire to perpetuate that abuse. My grandmother has expressed to me on multiple occasions that my mother has frightened her/coerced her into doing irrational things during a period of time 7 years ago when they lived together. My mother has described the abuse she received as a child from my grandmother as being extremely harsh. My mother has been trying to isolate my grandmother by speaking about her as though she is more sick than she is, lying to her about trying to find her other two sisters, privately begging me not to look for them, telling me to stay away from her, and finally last night she threatened to put a restraining order against me if I attempt to contact either of them. I'm worried for the safety of my grandmother. It's interesting because my grandmother certainly didn't protect me from my mother as a child, but I am genuinely frightened by the potential harm that my mother could inflict of my grandma. I suppose I am sympathizing with the terror I recall from my childhood. There is also a financial factor driving her. My mother abandoned me at 10years old when I made the decision not to help her hide her abuse of me. I was distant because every time I attempted to communicate she would further the abuse. My grandfather, who was my favourite person as a child, shot himself in the face with a shot gun when I was 6 two weeks before Christmas and left no note. He left some 200,000$ to my grandma and that sum has increased as a result of smart investments on the part of my grandma That is allot of money to my mother who has no goals outside of her own indulgence and is someone who claims iq 132 and has spent her life drinking alcohol secretly all day and night while working as a baker at a grocery store complete with endless burn scars all over her arms from 'working so hard' My grandma told me a while ago that she left everything to my mom I wasn't surprised Neither of them invested anything in me after I escaped at 10 with the help of children's aid (CAS) and moved in with my father. I also wasn't disappointed to hear that my grandmother decided that my mother would make better use of the funds than I They have done so little for me and have neglected/abused me so much that I don't really desire a contribution from them to my well being In a way I feel like if they were going to fund my education/integration into society etc they should have done it a while ago (I'm 27 now) Anyway My mother has spoken to me on multiple occasions saying things like 'Your not getting any of the money, grandma left it to me' and begging me not to look for her two sisters because she 'doesn't want to upset' my grandma despite my grandmothers request to be reunited with them. All of her statements seem to be absent of consideration for the fact that our close relative is about to leave earth as we know it, I can't figure out what her intention is. She is already getting all of the money (at age 54) So unfortunately the only reason I can see for her to try to isolate my grandma is that she intends to inflict some weird sociopathic revenge on her. I feel that way because unfortunately my mother has the potential for that kind of deranged mania. I am concerned because I can't imagine a more terrifying hell than being trapped in my mothers clutches and having the government prevent anyone who cares about me to help me escape. I searched online and found nothing helping in terms on steps to take, Just stuff about elder abuse but nothing as extreme as what my mom is capable of. I don't have anyone to advise me, kind of friendless after the election and my dad refuses to hear anything at all about my mom or if her does on occasion listen he ends up telling me he wants nothing to do with it/her. I've got so much going on in my life and I moved to the opposite end of the country What do you think I should do? My first thought was to call my grandma and tell her that my mom told me if I try to contact her that she will put a restraining order against me but that might not go over well I assume my grandmother will suggest we keep our relationship a secret In fact for years my grandmother kept our relationship a secret from my mother because she was 'afraid' that my mom would be upset with her for speaking with me. My second thought was that I need advice because the situation is dangerous and volatile.