Goolash Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Hello, I know I'm a hypocrite but I'm working towards integrity. I think I'm in a somewhat unique situation so I thought I'd share. I was known as the smart good kid by my entire family and extended family, so a lot of pressure to conform in a Catholic household which I fell into the roll quite easily up until a few weeks ago. Though I still smoked weed and drank occasionally in high school, then partied hard in college. But I still graduated in engineering from one of the top engineering schools with a 2.5 gpa, with no real interest in engineering stuff, just going through the motions. I got a few interviews but never got the job. So I delivered pizzas while I wait for the job and 2 years later I get my only offer from the Department of Defense. I take it, move to another state, marry the girl I've been seeing, stop smoking weed (drug test), buy a house, commit back to religion, blah blah blah. So I find out this place I work at is pretty much a joke. It's virtually impossible to get fired, not to mention what we do should not have to be done in the first place. Complete retards work there making 6 figures and others don't do anything ever, I literally work maybe 10 minutes a day and am considered an exemplary employee by my superiors. I've always enjoyed politics/libertarianism so I dove in a lot more with all this free time and eventually came across Stefan, I really liked one of his videos and checked out another one about how religion is trauma inflicted upon us as children etc. I was turned off that for a while but eventually came back to Stefan just to explore what else he had. Something happened one day where it just clicked, maybe it was my first kid making me really think about what is true and best, or reading more and more stuff from Stefan, I don't know, but I realized religion is bull shit, and what is the point in believing there is a god, I mean really what is the point, unless you're suffering. I broke it down much further than this but in the end I'm now an atheist. I read/listened to all of his books and listened to hundreds of podcast. I also started a business/hobby that I hope to do full time eventually which will allow me to raise my kid(s) full time but its still really slow so I'm still kind of worried. So now I have the uphill battle of telling my wife I don't believe in god anymore as well as all these other principles that deal with raising kids. I don't think the god one will be that difficult as she has never been religious, only went to church because I brought her. We haven't gone in about 6 weeks or so, the time of my epiphany, and she hasn’t once said anything. My strategy with telling my wife about my new beliefs is to kind of break it to her slowly by little discussions and comments. I've tried getting her to simply sit down with me and listen to this podcasts or watch this video of Stefan talking but she falls asleep or fights me. I see her side, I'm forcing something on her that she has no interest in and trying to use her 1 hour of freedom she gets per day to learn rather than relax. She has a demanding job and the baby kills our sleep, so she gets home at 6 and goes to bed at 8, with cooking etc there is really only an hour of free time. Kind of sad I know. She'll talk with me all day but as far as getting her to listen or watch something is another story. So my plan is to do some prep work and start a discussion about peaceful parenting nonviolence as the first idea to get into her mind since she was hit often as a child and still thinks that may be the way to do it. Then work my way to religion and god. As I get closer to quitting my job I can start broadcasting how pathetic this place is to maybe get more people to see how wasteful government spending is. If anyone has any tips, books, podcasts ideas on the peaceful parenting wife issue I'd be happy to hear.
Guest NateC Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Government employment is such a horrible trap, and I share your hypocrisy as I distance myself from the military. In regards to communicating with your wife, I'm sure many would recommend therapy as you and your family go through this life changing process. I just listened to the podcast below, and perhaps the section starting at 25:21 might help. [VIEW:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OFwpHH_yRRg]
Guest darkskyabove Posted April 10, 2013 Posted April 10, 2013 Welcome aboard! Suggestion: don't be too free with info on the job status. Never assume that the, supposed, anonymity of posting to a forum under an assumed name cannot be traced back through your ISP to you. Just because they're evil, doesn't mean they're stupid. I have a simple rule: never use the Internet for information you can't afford the consequences of. Anyway, best of luck with the transition. Thanks for joining the A-team.[]
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