Devon Gibbons Posted February 25, 2014 Posted February 25, 2014 I got through 'The State and the Family' podcasts and 'God, the State, and the Family' podcasts and I get it. "All unprocessed trauma must find a root somewhere if it doesn't find a root in the truth, which it almost never will if it is unprocessed, that is the very definition of unprocessed, it will find its root in mythology." My sister and I have never really had much of a relationship. I feel she always verbally terrorized me basically and still does to some degree. There was always this understanding gap the width of the grand canyon I always felt between us. Her behavior, to me, seemed totally erratic and baseless. I always went to my parents when she verbally abused me. I never really thought and don't think I was the instigator of a majority of the mostly verbal abuse between us. Listening and watching so many of Stefan's videos on parenting I started to realize and now know my parents were a major factor in the way my sister treated me. The degree to which the abuses in the family were re-directed towards her, just to fuel her abusive vanity, which unfortunately now seems to have transformed her into a quasi-self-hating egocentric sociopath, was completely exaggerated because I didn't see my parents as the cause of her behavior and their depiction for me of her as the stilts to raise them above her (and me). I feel deep sympathy and empathy for her. I am uncovering some harsh bits of the truth of my own parenting. I am just getting started, but it is kind of hard to bring up those memories of them and stay in contact with them at the same time while living away from them with my relatives and feeling so codependent still. My direct family is more statist, but my relatives I am living with are more religious. I've been understanding more and more the shared paradigm of the two dichotomies of statism and religion, but the effects that parenting and childhood have on these two things really smacked me in the face. The blind narcissisticaly self-assured frauds who say they understand ethics when all they are doing is enabling the systems they despise to continue by not caring for children. They are anti-human; they say they know how to live. Only because they were brought up to think they know. You really hit it home. Anyway, just my thoughts after the epic God, the State, and the Family podcasts. Thanks Stefan
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