QueechoFeecho

I don't know if that is quite abusive so much as dishonest. That is someone shoring up their own week self-esteem by piggybacking off another's success. I think the key for you is to not let that get in the way of your own success. Succeed for YOU rather than choosing to not succeed to spite them.

Hi All, I'm QueechoFeecho. I joined the FDR board recently, have posted a little bit and have gone into chat several times, which has largely been a blast. My interests (in chronological order of how they developed, from oldest to most recent): economics politics logic psychology interpersonal relationships / social interactions, including within organizations and groups parentings / childhood feelings/emotions This place is kind of awesome. Sometimes it can be just as scary as eye-opening to delve into some topics, for example if you realize that your grandmother you thought was a sweetie all these years was in fact manipulative and complicit in child abuse, but you were blinded to it by the collective behavior of your whole extended family. Still, knowledge is knowledge, and the topics on FDR help you accomplish what I consider to be one of the most important things a person should learn as they develop: how the world works (and the flipside, how the world does NOT work). Best wishes to all, I plan on sticking around a bit.

I don't know if bumping threads is a tolerated convention on FDR or not, but I'm bumping this one right now.

Not every imbibement (I made that word up, but the flexibility of language and the use of cognates will make it effective I hope) indicates a psychological motivation. Some things just taste good, smell good, or feel good. Similar to a meatball hoagie. It tastes good and looks great. So when I eat one, it doesn't necessarily mean I am masking a desire to shrink away from the world. It just tastes good. Same can apply to beer, wine, cocktails, and many other inebriants. More examples: Massage feels good. Yoga feels good. Sex is confusing and gross. Haha. Exercise feels good. BBQ tastes good. Bacon smells good. Music sounds good. Full disclosure: The sex thing is a joke.

Anything by K-Rino: Annhilation of the Evil Machine (any FDR fan should enjoy the story in this song) Duality No Redemption Pantheon Journey Through the Metaphor Labyrinth

The "against me" argument is very volatile because it asks the other person to face their true intentions. Do they wish to have force used again you, or don't they? If they do with to have force used against you, then the relationship can only maintain or get worse. If they don't, then it can get better, but that requires someone to step over what will feel like a massive assault on them and accept what they are, and then resolve to become different.

Can you do both, i.e. go there AND work and make money?

Death of the West (3 parts I think)

You can experience success without having your parents claim it for their own. Don't bring it up with them if you don't want them to take ownership of it. They can't brag to their friends about what they don't know. My upbringing was full of that on my mother's side. I know she loved to yap to her friends at work about her children, and I remember thinking to myself one time when I was a kid "Why is it that you tell them I got all A's on my report card, but then I actually got chastised by you at home because they weren't all A+'s?" That moment made me think I was some kind of ornament or decoration. When I went to college I spoke to her regularly, and when she asked how classes were, I would just say "fine" or "easy" or "I don't really know, I don't go that often". That last one was a little underhanded.

I think it is being used ironically. Also, in which subforum to things like the FDR BBQ get announced/discussed? I'm objectively, scientifically too much of a fool to figure it out on my own.

The "against me" argument has the potential [and likely, in my opinion] downside of leaving the other party feeling like they are being accused of being evil. Almost nobody enjoys being called evil. It can be a bit of a powder keg. If the other party is someone that really cares about you, then it's one thing, but I suspect it can just as easily reveal something worse as it can turn a relationship into something better.

This kind of stuff is fascinating, where diagnostic imaging can be combined with psychological "exercise" to yield a specific change in behavior based on spurring development of the related part of the brain. Now if only all the diagnostic imaging wasn't so expensive! I'm curious if there is any kind of larger glossary of such things, like a list as follows: Brain Part A ==> grow this to avoid relapse Brain Part B ==> grow this to avoid anxiety Brain Part C ==> grow this to avoid melancholy That way each person could have a maintenance scan of the brain to identify stuff and immediately get to work, rather than waiting until a problem materializes such as substance abuse and a related relapse.

What does the respond with when either [or both] of the parents ask the child what they think of the transition, how they feel about it, what they think is the reason, what they prefer? I'll bet 12 cents those questions aren't asked of the child.

I don't think it is reasonable to expect that a 100% free and voluntary society would be without problems. If the best parent in the world wakes up tomorrow and decides to dress their kid as Justin Bieber, then it happens. I think there would be a lot more prevention in general though, not so much where Person A prevents Person B from harming Person C, but that the overall behaviors would be such that Person B would rarely have the desire to harm Person C in the first place. That is a little pie-in-the-sky, yes, and it ignores that there would be a long [multi-generational likely] transition period from today's society to 100% free and voluntary, but every true step in that direction would by definition involve less coercion, force, violence, abuse, dishonesty, etc.

Thanks for the reply. At some point I will do the necessary registration in order to communicate in that meetup thing. It is encouraging to see 10 already there.

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Are there any Pittsburgh-area FDR/libertarian/anarchists that can see this message? If so that is great, as that means you have either eyes or a very useful gadget for people without eyes. Either way, anybody in the Pittsburgh area interested in making like-minded friends? Or like-minded mere associates to wave to on the off-chance we see each other on opposite sides of a shopping mall?

This is something I had been wondering about for several years now. Also notice that the phenomenon of young adults living in their parents' house has been showing up more in pop culture in movies and TV commercials.