FreedomPhilosophy

Yes completely agree that cheating is a breach of contract and unacceptable in a relationship. If you explicitly signed up for sexual exclusivity and broke that, then it's a potential deal breaker. I'm sure about applying the concept of investment in each other to emotions. Obviously if I invested materially in something then I could get that back when I leave, but what you invest in a person is your time. You can't get that back, it just passed and you both put in the same amount so one leaves a broken relationship equal in terms of investment. Was that time lost, it may have been a good time, or was it just spent? Anyway, I'd like to hear you explain this "invest into each other" concept further with respect to emotions and the implications of that if you would please?

My ex was a stripper for years and also one of my close friends as well. There are some really nice women who strip the better ones are great with their body, it's very sensual and feminine. Your mileage may vary!

I agree with the central themes that people have other lovers for their own benefits and not generally as a method to hurt the other (although that may be a motive). And I agree that people are not property and that treating them as such doesn't seem compatible with basic ideas about freedom of the individual and self ownership. Much of the rest of the article is poorly argued as has been pointed out.

I read this article, it seems completely logical but does it leave a bad smell and if so, why? "If I complain that my girlfriend has cheated on me, it really makes it sound like what happened is about me. That she and her other lover are doing whatever they are doing just so they can hurt me. This puts me both in the role of the victim, and in that of the main character. But most of the times, I’m neither. They’re probably just enjoying themselves, and not thinking about me. I’m not the star. This is the first uncomfortable truth: What is happening between my partner and his or her other lover has only got to do with the two of them. It is not about me. My partner and her lover like each other, and they want to connect intimately. They would do it if I didn’t exist. And they want to do it even though I exist. Ouch, that hurts. My ego doesn’t like this a single bit." http://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/01/cheating-2-uncomfortable-truths-about-it-that-we-need-to-hear/

That's what I see, women who have a high sense self worth have a high level of expectations for their partners. The bar rises for men all the time, expectations increase for men, but it seems to lower for women. The time where men just had to have an income and basically be a nice guy is gone. Now the expectation is for a sort of new age superman. Meanwhile the old ideas of what a woman needed to be, loyal to her family, hard working and faithful to her partner have all gone - replaced by what? What is the corresponding new age woman - some kind of feminist, ethical slut or what?

Thank you, that was moving and helpful.

I feel lost in my life, over the last 8 years I have mostly lost connection with my older kids who live with their crazy mother, lost my house and garden, ended a professional career. I've had some therapy, but probably not enough. I suffer from anxiety, some post traumatic symptoms from a violent and unloving childhood. I'm nearly 50 and don't have financial security or see what my future is. I'm intelligent and have worked in IT for nearly 25 years, but am fed up with the 9 to 5 - that's not a life well lived. I don't know what to do. I like trading but am struggling to get restarted on that path. My girlfriend of 7 years just broke up with me because of my moods and lack of direction in life. I feel lost. I'm getting some life coaching. I need to find something that supports me financially and that makes me feel really valuable. I live in Thailand where the cost of living is low, so low income is manageable. Of course, I would like to be a "success" in all areas of my life, but that seems like an impossibility. If I could find a business partner, entrepreneur, something that I could support and that supports me, that would be great. I've tried various other things over the years and trained in massage, reading stock charts and even (ironically) tried relationship coaching with no success. I need help.

I find these remarks odd, looser vagina tends to mean that sex lasts longer and can move into deeper and more satisfying states. Young women with tight pussy just make one cum sooner. And how does one objectively define value? There is much more to attraction than reproductive value. Some men value a woman who is experienced or may have other qualities that most other women don't have. People are going to weigh up the whole package, not just age and parental status. Some people are exceptional in other ways. I value maturity, emotional wellness and sexual positivity which are qualities I don't experience in a lot of women.

With a teenage mum, I would expect he was neglected not coddled. It's hard not to think that this would produce a tendency to seek mother replacements.

She was unhappy with him because of his depression and some of his behaviour she didn't like, no abuse though, they are still very good friends. I think the "she could do better" is an apt description of the situation. Update is that the young guy is giving her the hot-and-cold treatment and that has been triggering her. It's asking a lot for a 28yo to commit to a single mother and that she pursued him doesn't seem like a great dynamic.

Yes please explain further. I am not at all attracted to single mother situations even if I happen to like the mum. I am interested in what motivates these men, and from the single mums perspective, what kind of man "ought" to be attracted to a single mum?

She split up with the dad after making a play for the young man, they were somewhat unhappy together. And I agree with your summary that she has prioratised herself over her family. But people need to feel happy right? How long should one stay in an unsatisfactory relationship?

The mothers motives are fairly clear I think, attraction to a young fit guy who she shares many common values. It does seem like he is vulnerable though, I'm not sure how much work he has done to process his childhood, but the dynamic here seems to suggest not. The woman could be somewhat exploitative in this case. I don't know how one looks at these things objectively - perhaps they are actually just a great match and really love each other authentically? How would we know this to be true or not, do all the actual circumstantial oddities really tell is something is dysfunctional?

I'm wondering what motivates such men, why don't they go after single women, or could it just be that the woman is perceived as more attractive/available?

A 28yo male who has a history of dating single mums, now dating a 40yo single mum of a 3yo child. They are in "new lover energy" and feeling very happy. This man is a child of teenage parents. What say you?

The so called "Treaties" of Velasco where no such thing, as they were not ratified by the Mexican government because they were signed under duress. Indeed they were only called treaties after these events. The Rio Grande region that the US military entered was populated by Mexicans. Texas was part of Mexico before Texas became a republic, so the Mexicans claim to the contested land was superior (accepting of course that states can legitimately own a territory). Therefore it could quite rightly be regarded as a US invasion.

You quote very selectively from my source and miss this bit: So with the aim of starting a war with Mexico but making it look like Mexico started the war, President Polk sent U.S. troops to Texas, intentionally situating them on the Rio Grande and knowing full well that Mexico considered that to be Mexican territory.

The Class War group, been the same old story since the beginning, hate and envy, no addressing the real problems let alone anything realistic as a solution. http://www.standard.co.uk/news/london/antigentrification-protesters-target-cereal-killer-cafe-and-estate-agent-in-shoreditch-a2956481.html

This http://fff.org/2014/04/23/what-about-the-u-s-annexation-of-mexico/is how I understand the story.

The US stole much of Northern Mexico though and is still pretending it is American when names like San Whatever tell a different story.

Oh I see, she got upset and went to fetch daddy.

high paid lefties that benefited from social housing that is supposed to home the poor... Big earners living in council houses or flats and paying cheap subsidised rents are to lose the perk in a Budget crackdown this week. Sky News understands George Osborne will announce that anyone earning over £40,000 in London or £30,000 outside the capital will lose benefits and have to pay the full market rent. The crackdown, which will save taxpayers £250m a year, is aimed at the likes of Frank Dobson, who still lives in a council flat near the British Museum, despite serving as a Cabinet Minister under Tony Blair and earning a six-figure salary. The late Bob Crow lived in a council house in east London, thought to be paying just £150 a week in rent, while he was the militant leader of the RMT union with a pay and perks package of more than £140,000. When challenged, he said he made “no apology” for living in social housing. https://uk.news.yahoo.com/crackdown-rich-council-house-tenants-221350191.html

Venezuelan struggling socialists hold legislative primaries http://news.yahoo.com/venezuelan-struggling-socialists-hold-legislative-primaries-130806386.html

Mass murderers not crazy if they are white - says ignorant Salon hack.

The Spanish revolution was essentially reactionary and consisted largely of workers continuing their former social roles. People behave differently and will collaborate more than they usually would against a backdrop of war and external threats, You simply cannot use this as an example of how communism would work otherwise. There is no example of communism being created from the ground up absent of the social upheaval of war, other than the example I gave of New Harmony, which flopped. The *reasons for this failure* are highlighted in my program and you do not deal with them at all, instead you offer a distraction of a spurious counter-example. Labour can either be organized via the market dynamics that develop out of private ownership, or in the absence of property rights via state violence, i.e. "the dictatorship of the proletariat" (aka slavery).