CrazyCanuck

Thank you for asking. Let's use a bucket of water. Negative actions and thoughts is dirty water because it causes you stress. Let's say positive thoughts is clean water. You go to therapy and change things you have mostly positive thoughts, however you haven't forgiven so there's still negative thoughts. You might not be fully aware but subconsciously it's still there. The more negative thoughts will result in dirty water. So can you say the water in the bucket is pure? Of course not because it contains dirty water. The rice experiment will prove this. I asked people to do it but they won't. If you do it you will understand what I mean. On top of that negative thoughts causes stress. People that hurt you in the past are harming themselves because it takes thoughts to do bad things. Unless they pay back what they have done they will continue to suffer. If they are harming themselves probably for their entire life would I be angry or dislike them? If I can truly forgive them then I won't suffer and that person will, would be unreasonable for me to continue to be angry at them. Stefan talks about highest level of virtue. How can you have highest level of virtue when you hate people. Of course it's not that I don't get angry, but I don't hold grudges for a long time. The difference is I'm striving for highest level of virtue. I don't claim to be virtuous because I haven't reach there yet. Btw it's not about suppressing anger but transforming it. There is a big difference. I hope you enlightened to it eventually.

That's real nice. Stefan is right about one thing. I used to speak and write Korean quite well, although I was six when I moved to Canada from South, Korea. My parents used more English that Korean because I couldn't understand them. You do need keep up at the skills. Whatever you don't you use you can lose at some level.

People get sickness and depression because they felt wrong. It's how you look at things. My father heated me but I wasn't scared. Nobody can hurt me unless I give them permission. Unless it's real physical pain but I'm not talking about that. You can not have true love with hate. If you can not forgive the person that you have hate at some level.

If I remember correctly he was asking himself, if I was god how would I create and design the universe.

I don't know my mom that well I have vague memories of her. It was my father that was aggressive to my step mom. Both of my sisters (technically they are my step sisters, we all have different moms). They saw how my father father would beat her and boss her around. My brother in laws are just naturally great guys. For a great of my life I talked very much this is why it's hard for me to interact and communicate with people. I have a problem expressing myself so that people can understand what I say. It was me that was the one got the beatings, lecture's etc but it seems like it's done a lot of damaged to my sisters in many ways. In my later years in high school people I hated women. I saw feminism my life. Now I just don't care, I just needed to forgive and move on my life. Not forgiving was a huge burden emotionally and mentally. That's your opinion. Obviously I am wasting time because you don't have any listening skills. Not many have good listening skills.

Probably due to higher meat consumption. If you look at the food combining principles you will see that digestion is impaired when mixing carbs with animal protein.

As I remember when I spoke up in the later 90's and even more later on, guess what. These guys were white knighting the feminist. Every guy was defending feminist like tooth and nail. Been there done that. Took enough of their bs. Sorry it's tough like because it's the men that allowed this crap. Why should I care about them when all they cared was themselves. By white knighting they were trying to feed their ego and increase their chances to find a woman to date or have a relationship with. They haven't been silent I can assure you. That's just your thinking.

Why would I fight feminist? In the end they will end up with nothing. They will be lonely, unhappy, etc. It's already happening. There is research showing that women are less happy then men. Men can't be men when we are confused, we are dammed if we do and we don't. Both of my sisters need to be in control, if they don't get their own way they get aggressive. Pretty hard for for my brother in laws act like men. They have to be somewhat feminine in nature. I'm responsible for my own life even it's the other people's fault. No finger pointing I really don't care because selfish people will end up with nothing. I have tried to speak up but when I do it gets ugly. It's not worth my time or effort. Go to avoiceformen.com then you will see what I mean. There are great women out there why focus on the feminists? I won't go to the junk yard expecting to find a brand new car.

I'm not finger pointing you made a comment and I pointed out that it's women stop abusing children. Men can't do that, men can not make women stop doing anything. Actually it seems the Men's Right Movement is laying at least some of the blame. I don't like the Men's Right Movement because it solves nothing. They tend to spend pretty everyday thinking how evil feminist are.

I know I just wanted to make a statement.

http://www.americanhumane.org/children/stop-child-abuse/fact-sheets/child-abuse-and-neglect-statistics.html If femenist actually cared about children they would stop abusing them. Considering stats women abused children more than twice that of men. Even Stefan about this in one of his podcast just recently.

Now I'm suppose to vegan. I really can't take people seriously when they are like this.

Was it a single paper? I highly doubt when he fought nearly 30 years. Also science also corrupted especially in medical, technology and safety. Peer review is pointless these days. Why? Because who funds these scientists. If I make a product and fund the research for that product it is a conflict of interest. But this is going on a lot. For example cell phone safety. Scieintists getting millions in funding to do research, however since they find something that states their product isn't safe the fund comes to a halt. So scientists will only find studies to prove that a product is safe otherwise he could lose funding or even a job. Of course with things like string theory it is going to be very hard to prove because our advanement in science is very limit. This is why I'm agnostic. Hard to prove there's a god but it's hard to disprove when what we know is every limited.

I've been with a woman something like that. We fell in love first but we fought and didn't talk for a long time. She did eventually reply to me because she had nothing else in her life. We called each other in the beginning. I didn't love that way I used to, just as friend. We talked for a long time and after her I think it was her 3rd boyfriend she told me she loved me. I told I love her as a friend only. She claimed to be my best friend yet she stopped calling once she was dating a new guy just a few weeks telling she loves me. She no longer puts efforts to contact me. Unless I contact her she won't even email. I didn't even say anything why would I need to? My advice stop white knighting people especially women.

I forgave my father long time ago. He was physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive me. He told me I was useless, good for nothing, better off dead and even later on life he told me if he had another son he would forget about me. While he doesn't do these things to me now he does regret it. He hasn't told me personally but he wants to see me a lot. He can't even have the balls to show me his feelings it's always at a distance. Last time I visited him I gave him a hug before I left. i didn't forgive my father for him but for myself. It's like a ton of brick is off my shoulders. One of my sister wouldn't forgive my father for something else and she only started talking to him because he almost died of infection. You do not want to be in that situation. Forgiving is a lot easier than you think. A lot easier than going to therapy trying to workout your problems.

If you want to marriage to work you need to stop blaming her. You're just as responsible, you're certainly going at the wrong way. Getting upset because she wouldn't talk to you right away surely doesn't help things. You wrote: It's you, taking the phone call that irritated me. The problem is not that i reacted, the problem is what caused my reaction. Imagine that you told her to hold for 1 min or telling her that you ll call her back later. What would my reaction be?It's you, taking the phone call that irritated me. The problem is not that i reacted, the problem is what caused my reaction. Imagine that you told her to hold for 1 min or telling her that you ll call her back later. What would my reaction be? You are responsible for your emotions and behaviour not her. If you can't take responsibility for your own actions/emotions and be respectful how can you expect her to be. I am saying not because she did the right thing. However you made it worse. If there's a problem you should try asking for her help. Asking that you need help resolving the problem. Then you both discuss solutions. If you can not come to an agreement you should try her way for 30 days. However you should ask her if doesn't work with no improvement to try it your way. Also you're not giving what she needs or wants. It's not about buying her gifts but how it makes her feel. Sounds to me she's still suffering a lot from her childhood. The only reason she was seeing another man is because you pushed her away so she went somewhere to get what she needed. You can not solve problems by find her faults, attacking for her errors she made. Because you made errors yourself how would you treat yourself? I hate to say that but Stefan's podcast doesn't mean things will work. Expecting others to take their own responsibility when you can't do yourself is puzzling. No matter how wrong she is you should able to do the same?

I'm not angry. You didn't offend me. No reason to be. I don't feel wronged. I might be a little blunt but that's a habit I got from my father.

I know that, we are talking violence is caused by anger, that's why I quoted them, of course that's not always the case. You can not think clearly with any type of anger. Passive or aggressive. I'm not suppressing anger it's more like transforming before it leads to that. I do get angry but my goal is eventually not get angry at all. I only know of person that has never gotten angry and that's my brother in law. Not because they way you acts around me but what he says and what my sister tells me about him.

I said it sounds like you made stuff up since I'm looked for those terms or even remotely close with types of anger. What am I suppose to say? If I said you're making sounds up that's a different story. I am suppose to prove my points here and I expect the same.

Are you saying parents that abused their children aren't angry? You might they are in a good mood when abusing their child physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually? Why are you asking me? It's Stefan brings the topic of how violence allows the control of the people. If you call sparring with others because I practice martial arts violence? I don't know, we don't hurt each other nor do we get angry. Even when someone trying to rob me with a knife I wasn't angry. I was cool and calm and not even afraid. I did end up beating this person because this person was going stab someone. You do not have to be violent to hurt people. You can hurt someone's feelings verbally. I'm sure you already know that. As for your religious bashing show me the evidence/proof. Sounds like you're making stuff up. Nothing I can find on authentic anger or misplaced anger. Here are the types of anger: http://louisville.edu/counseling/topics/anger.html/when.html http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anger http://www.angermanagementnyc.com/types-of-anger http://www.conselis.com/anger-management/articles/main-causes-of-anger.php So much for reality.

You're attempting being a smart a##, but you know what I proved your point wrong then you go and help me proving your point wrong. Exercising isn't difficult. If I offered 1 million dollars to these people if they worked out 5 hours a week they would succeed. Losing weight is complete like i stated earlier. Anyways I'm done with this thread because you lack the respect for fellow posters. Each person is different and one diet won't well with everyone. Until you understand that you are just wasting everyone's time here. See ya.

Children learn from their parents. When they grow up they usually adopt these certain things. Unless they get good therapy or something else it's bound to happen. It's no surprise I have seen with my sisters.

Let's see according to the site: "The most current reports show number of people who have at least used a health club in 2012 increased those with memberships by 8 million in the same year.[" It says the number of people used gyms. However it doesn't state how frequently. Maybe they used only once or maybe for a few months then stop going. In order for exercise to be beneficial you need to do it consistently. So those numbers maybe not accurate if you take accord of regularly exercising approved to at least exercised a few times. Many people stop going eventually and that's why many gyms make good money.

Why can't Walmart give their workers a bonus? They make more than enough in profit to give out bonuses if their employees truly needs money for thanksgiving dinner.

Now you are calling me names out of anger? You are not me and I'm not you. I thought anger was ok. However the more I see it it is not a good thing. You say you're not angry with me but you call me names. Yes anger is an emotional state however you can choose not to get angry. You can decide to use your other emotions. There is a process of getting to the emotion of anger. You can use anger as you can use your other emotions. I don't deny my feelings I am in fact smiling and even laughed a little bit now. Not to upset you just that I can decide my emotion. And I don't anger angry that much anymore and sure there will be times I do because I need to work on them. I can get peeved or mildly annoyed. I can use these things. I am transforming anger not suppressing them. Since you have virtue in your signature I like to say something about it. Here is the definition of virtue. Virtue (Latin: virtus, Ancient Greek: ἀρετή "arete") is moral excellence. A virtue is a positive trait or quality deemed to be morally good and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being. Personal virtues are characteristics valued as promoting collective and individual greatness. I like to know how anger is morally good and how great anger is. Anger is the reason why parents hit their children. Anger is the reason why people there's violent crimes. How is this deemed morally good and valued?