Tyler H

Donnie Darko

I'm reading Parent Effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon right now, I'd certainly recommend it. I don't have kids yet, but I want to get a good running start for when the time comes. A nice side effect has been that it has helped me get in touch with my anger towards my parents that I've had a hard time actually feeling.

Their new album came out today and this songs lyrics stood out to me. "A Beautiful Indifference" There's a struggle coming, but to conquer, first they must divide. The machines keep humming night and day. How are we so unaware, Why are you not afraid? Protests are drumming while you turn your nose and roll your eyes, Knee-jerk reactions so ingrained. Judging from an arm chair. Cause there is hate and there is love and there is loss, But there is light and there is dark, then there is us. And whether this world burns, is none of your concern, Caught up in a ticker-tape parade. I have learned to stand up and just to walk away, Sometimes the cold hearts aren't worth the love or the hate. Learn to let go, learn to walk away. Up from the shadows I'm seduced by the light of the flame, But this time I'm here to stay. Gunpowder residue, bright lights and turpentine, True colors shining through, as we are stripped of our exteriors. Now, cause there is hate and there is love and there is loss, But there is right and there is wrong, then there is us. We're falling until We learn to stand up and just to walk away, Sometimes the cold hearts aren't worth the love or the hate. Learn to let go, learn to walk away. Up from the shadows I'm seduced by the light of the flame, But this time I'm here to stay. Feet first into the quicksand, every day we are surrendering, Never straying from the game plan. I keep hoping you will take my hand and stand up. The water's overflowing, the walls are breaking, But I know where I'm going, that we can make it. And there's a light still glowing and I will chase it. And I've been lost before and I have been led astray, But this time I'm here to stay.

Another reason is that because men can really just mate and move on, women must be selective in who they copulate with. If a pregnancy results then the man can possibly take off, but the woman is stuck with the responsibility for at least 9 months and the difficulties inherent therein (possibly death back in the day). This adds to the fact there there are a lot more men willing to have sex with a lot more women than vice versa, which leads to the women being in demand and therefore left with the responsibility of choosing from among the proposers. Does that help?

One of my favorites, really gets across the predatory nature of the military recruiters (and government in general) that get these kids to do terrible shit that they then have to live with for the rest of their lives, which sadly so many of them choose to cut short.

Hey Matt, welcome. I thought the same thing when I first came across these ideas, I remember saying with a snort of derision while listening to an Adam Kokesh video "well we can't have no government, pshh". I think much differently now that's for sure. I don't think anarchy can be implemented. The root of violence is childhood trauma; if we make the case for people to raise children peacefully, then in the future people will be less and less susceptible to the lies fed to us by statists to justify a coercive government (redundant). And when the state goes the brutes will go with it. The only way we get an ancap society is when people see the veiled violence of the state. At that point the obvious violence will be rare. There are a lot of great ideas in the books Stef wrote on anarchy - Everyday Anarchy and Practical Anarchy. They really help with dispelling that Mad Max vision that keeps creeping into your head when you first start to digest this stuff. https://freedomainradio.com/free/

Here are a couple Rise Against songs I think may fit into this category, they are one of my favorite bands. "State Of The Union" If we're the flagship of peace and prosperity We're taking on water and about to fuckin' sink No one seems to notice, no one even blinks The crew all left the passengers to die under the sea [Chorus] Countdown, to the very end, Equality, an invitation that we wont extend Ready aim, pull the trigger now, In time you firmly secure your place in hell State of the union address, Reads war torn country still a mess The words: power, death, and distorted truth Are read between the lines of the red, white, and blue [Chorus] Your place in hell [x2] 'Guilty' is what our graves will read, No years, no family, we did Nothing (nothing) to stop the murder of A people just like us "Bricks" When faith alone is not enough, To keep our heads barely above, We look for reason and come up empty-handed. And when our children fight our wars, While we sit back just keeping score, We're teaching murder not understanding now. We're setting the fires to light the way, We're burning it all to begin again, With hope in our hearts and bricks in our hands, We sing for change The lives our buried sons have laid, Won't cancel debts we've yet to pay, In death, we justify anything now, As long as we blindly obey and do exactly what they say, We'll have no one to blame, but ourselves now. We're setting the fires to light the way, We're burning it all to begin again, With hope in our hearts and bricks in our hands, We sing for change. We run on the fumes of injustice, We'll never die with the fuel that you give us, Keep it coming 'cause I'm prepared to burn, Keep running, find me at every turn. Your life around, (into something true, into something true) So turn your life around, (into something true, something true) We're setting the fires to light the way, We're burning it all to begin again, With hope in our hearts and bricks in our hands, We sing for change. If you like these songs there are some more you may be interested in.

I think that's an awesome idea! I'm interested for sure.

Sounds like you're doing some great stuff!

Thanks for the comments everyone. I hardly ever feel anger, even when I know I should. I know I should be angry at my parents for so much bull shit (hitting, threatening, endless religious indoctrination, etc), but it's hard to get in touch with the actual feeling. Posting the story here and remembering the details helped me empathize with myself as a child and finally feel some of that anger. Reading your posts helped as well - exactly, WTF! They are disgusting fucking assholes! The absolute worst part of the abuse is that it turned me into one of those idiots who blindly said "I was spanked, it was good for me!" with no memory of the terror I felt as a little kid and every intent to repeat history. I can't express how grateful I am that FDR exists and that I was able to find it and be receptive to the truth. I have already deFOOed from my mother and will break with my step father soon. Neither would take any ownership for the issues I laid out. At first I wanted to break from them without confronting them, but I'm glad I decided to take a stand. It has made me much stronger. Thanks again for your comments and support!

I think I was hit three times as a child growing up, of which I can only remember two. Of these two I can only remember the reason for one. When I was 5 or 6 I was at church with my step-father on a saturday; he was the worship leader for the church so he was there practicing and I got dragged along. What I remember is that I was in a room by myself and when my step-father left to go practice he left a can of pepsi by the door and told me explicitly not to drink it. So he left, and of course I had to take a sip. When he came back, he knew. I didn't take a big sip, but I put the can down in a different orientation. He told me this is how he knew that I had "directly disobeyed him" and I was going to be spanked when we got home. That is what I was hit for the three times it happened; lying or direct disobedience (which was basically anything as long as the warning was given). Each time I was told to go to my room, take down my pants, and wait. He would come in and I would get three open hand slaps on the ass so hard they sent pain shooting through my entire body. I can remember the feeling even now and the sound of the screams that followed. So considering I remember very little of my childhood I thought that the fact that I remembered this particular event might be important. While thinking about it recently it dawned on me - holy shit, I think he set me up! He deliberately left the can there to test me, taking a mental picture of its position on the table. Why else leave it there to tempt me when he knew I wanted some? And I just remembered right now that he said he would've given it to me if I had not taken a sip. Yeah total set up, pretty shitty game to play with a kid where there's a tiny prize for conformance and a massive punishment for nonconformance. Along with making me an unhappy little slave living in fear for the rest of my childhood, I'm trying to think of any other effects it could have had on me. It has certainly been harder de-fooing from my step-father than my mother, which I can only attribute to the fear embedded in me as a child. Felt good to share, I don't do that enough. All thoughts are welcome. P.S. Here's me when I was 5

get out there and get yourself a squatty potty. kinda tough to get your feet on the seat, especially for those of us with the archaic round toilet bowls (how was the oval not the original design?). http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=squatty+potty&tag=googhydr-20&index=aps&hvadid=33814263355&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=4034283832335496142&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=e&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_7iboehubww_e

If he did all those things correctly then wouldn't it stand to reason that his daughter would not be susceptible to being brainwashed by a church? Parents don't have the right to expose their children to toxic people; if he allowed his daughter to be subjected to people that would have such a negative effect as to lead to her current mindset, then the grandfather still has some responsibility. I don't think a finger can be pointed and fault designated, but neither can absolution be granted.

oh, nice! thank you.

Came across this letter on the internet the other day. Here's the link and a copy of what the letter says. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/02/grandpa-letter-gay-grandson_n_4029750.html While Chad certainly deserves support from his family members, which unfortunately he is not getting from his mother and fortunately he is getting from his grandfather, I couldn't help but think that what is missing from this letter is the grandfather's recognition of his own culpability for his daughter's behavior. He says a parent disowning their child goes against nature and then proceeds to contradict himself and do the same thing. That being said, I have to wonder what's worse - disowning your child for something completely out of their control, or disowning your child for something that is a great deal your own fault. I'm not surprised that the daughter of a man who would call her a "B-word" would be ignorant of her own sons needs. It reminded me of the analogy of the painter who steps back from his painting saying, "who painted this ugly piece of shit?" Thoughts or insights? Any errors in my logic?

It'd be great to meet some like-minded people in my area! Anyone who lives near Boston or the southern New Hampshire area shoot me a message.

wait......you mean everyone doesn't have all the podcasts saved to their iPod?

I haven't listened to this song by Rise Against since before I started listening to FDR and it came on the other day. It seemed so much more powerful now that I see these wars for what they really are

Message from the future - I think it certainly was one of their best seasons so far. I was very relieved since the past few have been *meh* at best with only one or two episodes that were up to their average standards and I was about to give up.

Thanks for pulling up those podcasts Kevin, that's awesome. I was just going to go and find some of these to show my friend and voila! I remember junkyard dreams was one I particularly liked, though I've only been through the first 5 of those. I find this process fascinating.

Thanks guys. Yes, I am certainly glad it was the former! Still trying to navigate my way around this place - information overload I suppose I don't have to read every post.....

Yes, I have. It's been a while though I'll have to re-watch, thanks for the tip!

Greetings FDR Board! My name is Tyler and I'm new to the Freedomain Radio community. I've been listening for about a year now and have found it invaluable. I'm excited to meet like-minded people and hone my skills in debating statists and hopefully converting them! And also when to recognize a lost cause and move on. I'd like to thank everyone who has participated in the call in shows - your conversations have helped me so much and I admire your courage to share. I'm looking forward to all that we can accomplish.