KeepOnGoing

Those friends are long gone just like many other people that I knew. They just didn't make it. I think it was part of a natural process which followed my personal growth. it's true but we can't change the past, the trick is to find out why do we do certain things and how not to make the same mistakes again. I've learned my lesson for sure. Mothers... they give you life and they can take it away if you let them. But hey, I've heard stories about good mothers that they don't cripple their children. They are out there... somewhere

If a man can't take care of himself how is he going to take care of a child? People should fix themselves before they get involved in parenthood. Btw. There is a reason why this person is poor, homeless etc. without solving his passed issues there is no way for him to get out from his position. He can date and do whatever he wants but to force his lifestyle on someone else (who has no option to leave) is evil. Btw. Why not to focus on getting out from this situation first? How successful that person should be? Successful enough to feel good about it and to be accepted by potential future partner. Of course it varies among people.

If it's worth saving? Of course it is. I know sometimes it feels that there is no hope and it's not possible to open people's eyes soon enough before it will collapse but it's worth it. Western Civilization is the closest best thing you can get these days. You have to ask yourself what is the alternative? I might be wrong but I guess it's a total Leftists lunacy or Muslim invasion and it doesn't even matter which will be first because the final outcome is Muslim Invasion. Call me crazy call me islamophobe it is what it is. I'm not very excited about it. The left will be too weak to defend itself. There actually might be another scenario but it is almost like a conspiracy theory, not so sure if we should go there. You can see what is happening in Europe, it's not difficult to figure out in which direction we are heading. The best thing we can do is to talk with people and vote for people who are willing to clean up this mess. After that we can think in which direction we want to go but for now this is the most important issue. The left is still strong but you can see more and more people speaking their minds, they are waking up. That is why I think it's important to talk with each other and to be honest even though it will mean you might lose some "friends".

I think it's very similar with men and women these days. I spoke also with my male friends on this subject and they confirmed it. Maybe it is different on some religious dating sites. I think we are pretty equal when it comes to dating. People are desperate, lonely and many of them are damaged and they don't even realize it. So they take what's available surprised that it didn't work out and they are left with the feeling of resentment. If I knew what I know now I would never use online dating again. Not so sure if it was a good idea to use it back then. I should go to a therapist rather than to jump into dating so early after ending very bad relationship. I guess sometimes it's better to learn the hard way than not learn at all.

Close the borders, leave the EU, get rid of welfare, deport criminals. I don't think the government will do much to protect their citizens (to solve the problem) so there will be a civil war. People will have to fix it. The far right is too far (many of the organizations praise Nazis) and there is no way they will get many followers. I think there will be something in between, that will attract the masses. Without masses you will not fix this problem and before getting better it will get worse. Worse enough for the people, regular citizens, fathers and husbands to get their hands dirty.

I've done in the past some online dating and I can't recommend it. Maybe I wasn't lucky enough or I've chosen the wrong type of men but it didn't work out. Dating online is like looking for a love in a club or in a bar. Same people looking for sex, switching partners constantly. The chance of finding someone valuable in that kind of crowd is very low. I think the best way to meet someone is to figure out what you are looking for in this other person but also I think it's very important to have something in common, similar interests etc. My female cousin use online dating and her experience it's pretty similar to mine but she is still doing it. I guess it benefits her in some way. I told her to be honest with guys and to say what she wants in relationship. No time to waste for silly games and especially if she wants to have kids (she is 35 years old). People are afraid to be honest but who they really are will come out sooner or later so what is the point of lying in the first place? It's very hard to find suitable partner and we have to be picky because it's not only for ourselves but especially for our future children.

I think diet is much more important than exercises. Food is your fuel and it matters what you put into your body. I don't eat animal products for a year and a half now. I've done blood work and I don't have any deficiencies. I feel great, I've lost 11 kg without exercising and kept the weight. I eat a lot and until I'm satisfied. It might not work the same way for everyone of course. I also might have good genes. Btw. My grandmother turned 102 years old this year. Her husband died in his early 70's. One household two different diets: my grandma ate a lot of grains, legumes, vegetables, fruits and dairy (she lived on farm); my grandfather ate a lot of meat, animal fat and dairy (she cooked for him this way because she always said that a man have to eat this way to be strong). Could be coincidence could be genetics could be something else. I went all the way I guess until you feel good, you do some tests once in a while and there is nothing suspicious happening with you health you should be fine. Eating unhealthy food and exercising like crazy sounds kind of silly to me. Why not to eat good food and not exercise or exercise with pleasure? It's like exercising turns into a price you have to pay for your bad dietary choices. There are no fat animals in the wild. There are fat cats and dogs for sure. We can't feed ourselves in the right way, we can't feed our pets without harming them. If you will eat the right food for you you won't be fat.

I'm not an expert in this matter but I also think it has its roots in your mind and your previous experiences. This condition might run in families the same way like heart attacks runs in some other families. Some people keep the same behavioral patterns throughout generations just like some obese people have their own eating habits cultivated among their family members. I would definitely seek for a professional help. I don't have your condition but I struggle once in a while with health anxiety (my mother and my sister also suffered from it), this seemed to be one of few dysfunctions I'm left with. My therapist helped me a lot. It was a horrible experience but it was worth it. We have to digg in the past even when it hurts and especially when it hurts. It's like cleaning up a wound. It hurts, it's nasty but it has to be done otherwise you will end up without an arm or a leg or you might even die. It's better to have a scar than to be mutilated or dead. Anger? I've changed sadness and the feeling of unjustness to anger and it feels good. I still have to figure out if I want it to stay this way for a while or should I work on transitioning it to something else, something more freeing. I know it will change into something powerful but harmful to me.

It's hard to say what kind of childhood people around me had because if you haven't seen it happen, you didn't hear any stories you can't know for sure. I had pretty rough childhood and for most part of my life I seemed kind of normal to people. I actually turned out good but I just put a lot of effort in it and of course still working on it. When I was a child my mother called me a savage because I lacked social skills and was extremely shy. If a stranger talked to me (even if they were asking me some normal kind questions) I started to cry. Of course I was punished for that by my mother. Funny how parents are trying to fix symptoms of abuse with inflicting more abuse. When my family (aunts, uncles, grandparents etc.) wanted to hug me I was so scared that I was trying to get away and when somehow they got me I was like a frozen statue waiting for something bad happen. Most of my close friends in early childhood came from abusive alcoholic families drowning in poverty and physical violence. Once in a while I met some lucky kid with normal family or at least it seemed like it but like I said, you never know for sure.