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Geez. I guess it's like they say - Hope is the mother of fools.

Don't know if I should CPR this topic or create new one but it actually has few good points so maybe it is worth to be continued. Are there any other preppers or people that are preparing for something? Maybe some homesteaders?

I don't have Netflix but I'm not surprised that people are canceling their accounts. There was a time when I thought that actions like this are childish but hey, it works perfectly for the Liberals so why not to try to defeat them with their own weapon? On the other hand I try to vote with my money as much as I can so it seems to be logical. We make choices every day, there is no need to support financially products and services that make us dissatisfied or simply hurt us. Or maybe we are just being trolled? Have you seen Dear White People movie from 2014? Maybe it's not what it seems to be? It's easy to jump into conclusions especially in times we live now but maybe we need to research it better or just wait. Don't know.

I don't have Netflix but I'm not surprised that people are canceling their accounts. There was a time when I thought that actions like this are childish but hey, it works perfectly for the Liberals so why not to try to defeat them with their own weapon? On the other hand I try to vote with my money as much as I can so it seems to be logical. We make choices every day, there is no need to support financially products and services that make us dissatisfied or simply hurt us. Or maybe we are being trolled?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvq3vTRNl54&t=601s

I don't have Netflix but I'm not surprised that people are canceling their accounts. There was a time when I thought that actions like this are childish but hey, it works perfectly for the Liberals so why not to try to defeat them with their own weapon? On the other hand I try to vote with my money as much as I can so it seems to be logical. We make choices every day, there is no need to support financially products and services that make us dissatisfied or simply hurt us. Or maybe we are being trolled?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvq3vTRNl54&t=601s

I'm sorry to hear that. It's never easy and it's a very courageous move to leave your family of origin behind. I've also done it last year and it was difficult. I blocked them wherever I could (my mother and my sister) but I know that if they really wanted they could find a way and I know they will one day. For now they left me alone. I know it's very tempting to read the massages left by then even though you don't want to receive them in the first place but if it bothers you so much maybe you can change email address. Think about your wellbeing, they don't care about yours. They need you to play the role in this disfunctional relationship and seeking of the contact it's just another form of manipulation. If they would really want you back (in healthy way) they would move heaven and earth to get better and to try to create a relationship based on love, respect and honesty. For most of us it will never happen but we like to fool ourselves secretly from time to time that somehow they will become people we always want it. In most of the scenarios it's the good old game, there might be few cosmetic changes but the core stays the same.

Europeans should definitely stop voting on the Left. People seem to wake up but it might be too late for some of the countries. I've been into this topic for many years now and it was getting scary long before this refugee/immigrants crisis. You don't have to be super smart to figure out where does it lead. I was born in Poland but for few years now I live in Iceland. Iceland is still extremely safe for women and children but of course it's just a matter of time. People seem to not want to learn from mistakes made by Sweden or Germany etc. They believe that this time it will be different, they don't want see the patterns.

He is not perfect but he is pretty successful in attracting certain type of audience and he has his own way to approach the subject. I've seen him being interviewed by Tomi Lahren and he seemed pretty civil to me. It would be interesting to see him interact with Stefan but I would prefer to see Anthony Brian Logan on the show. If you don't know the guy yet it is worth to check out his YouTube channel.

I agree that it's important to have some kind of relationships outside the family unit but for me the most important is the quality of the relationships. Btw. When it comes to family it can go either way. The kids might have a lot of friends and some of them might like to have only few. It's good to teach them by an example but sometimes you just do what you can with what you've got. Like I said before I don't have kids yet so maybe I don't see things how they really are. My example: somehow I turned out distinctly different than my mother and my sister and many of my female cousins. We all come from similar disfinctional environment but I was the only one to get out of it in the probably best way possible (of course there is always room for improvement) so I'm pretty optimistic about my future parenting style. Kids are different and you just have to approach each case in different way.

I never had problems with meeting new people after hitting puberty (guess sexual market value). On the other hand as a child my mother called me a savage because I cried when strangers were talking to me and I was very shy when I was meeting new kids - I was severely abused as a child. I had one good female friend (in my teens) but we don't live in the same country for many years now and the only thing that we still have in common is very special sense of humor. We have always been very different but now it even went more further. I usually had more male friends, most of them very intelligent guys. I tried to make some female friendships but it never worked out. I was a tomboy as a kid and I had stronger relationship with my father rather than with my mother. I've never been accepted by her neither by my older sister. Maybe this is a reason why I can't get into deeper relationship with women or maybe it is something else. Sometimes I wish I would have female friends but in the same when I look around I don't see anything interesting. Sometimes women try to get to know me better but I'm pretty quick in judging people and I just don't give them a chance. On the other hand I don't think I've ever met an interesting woman in real life. It all seems so trivial for me and since I don't have kids yet it feels like my brain works a little bit differently. I like people in general but very often I prefer to be alone so I can focus on doing something that interests me. Spending my free time with people that I don't have much in common seems to me like a waste of time.

The first impression matters but you will get better in it. There is no magic but only practice Some people are lucky enough to find someone good pretty fast. Some need more time to be successful in their search. Some never will. That's just the way it is. There is no need to be sentimental about female encounters in your past. Maybe if the circumstances would be good for you maybe it would work out maybe not. It's in the past. Sometimes we have tendencies to idealize things that had the potential but there was no way to pursue them. Leave them be and focus on the present and the future. I had many men interested in me, few of them were really crazy about me. I could choose from rich and poor, from smart and successful, from simple minded, good men, bad boys, Christian men, artists etc. I tried to reason with myself, giving a try. Nothing worked out. When I didn't trust my guts I felt nauseous and I had to stop lying to myself. The bad boys were too bad and the good men were too good. I knew that if I would meet a virtuous man he will see through me and realize how damaged I was and that he will not want to have anything to do with me. Btw. I also had few rejections and it hurt me. I couldn't understand how it was even possible. Silly me. The hope of finding someone was making me miserable. I tried even to lie to myself that I'm not looking anymore but of course I was looking. Deep down I wanted to be happy. I've been always interested in psychology but that time I decided to really dive into it. Therapy didn't work out. I also didn't want to take "happy pills" and since I'm "do it yourself" person I've read a tons of literature on the subject (my ACE score is 5). I met my partner in the middle of that process when I was 27. In some way I wish I knew what I know now but I'm happy now so there is no point of dwelling on the past. Everyone has their own unique path. Go out and practice and trust your gut. In some way dating is like going on an job interview. Both sides have something to offer, being an expert in something doesn't always mean you get the job because other factors also matter. Same with the relationship. You need someone that will get the job done and that you will get along with each other. Before you find a good employee you have to surf through many applications. Nothing wrong with that because good things very often don't come easily.

In my opinion your lack of dating experience would not matter for someone really interested in you. If someone is not interested in the "real" you why to even bother? I know it's easier to say than to do it but this is just a reality. If you want to have a good relationship you have to be honest. It's that kind of a deal - take it or leave it - because sooner or later the truth will come up and there is no need to waste so much time. Rejection in the dating business happens to everyone. Learn from it and move on. Dating for me personally was at some times interesting but in most cases just tiring. You have to swim through many rapids until you land safely on the shore but at the end it's worth it even though you might came out with bruises or even with some fractures. I'm happy that I don't have to worry about it anymore. I'm 34 and actually I have female cousin (35, never married, no kids) that for the last few years is trying to find a man. Nothing to be jealous about. It's difficult for her (she is still very attractive) but there is always something wrong. I offered her help, advised her therapy but she says that there is something wrong with guys not with her. Dating is a hard work but it's not that there is only something wrong with the other side. There are sometimes things in us that prevent us from finding the right person. If I would be in dating again I would try to find a man with similar interests like mine so I would look for him in places connected to it. I would not date single father since I don't have kids myself. I'm not religious (even though I had pretty strict catholic upbringing) but maybe Christian man could be a good fit. Christian but also openminded and respectful towards my beliefs. It's very important. I could also be interested in the Right wing environment - conservatives, nationalists, traditionalists etc. I would also tried someone who is not into politics but can think logically - I could work with that. Left wing? Waste of time in my view. There is no point in changing someone. I think the beginning of the relationship should be great and exciting and with time should only get better. Of course you change and your partner changes but in kind of natural way. There shouldn't be pressure. I've been actually to Vancouver last year. I'm not a fan of big cities but BC is beautiful and if you are into hiking there are many opportunities for sure Maybe you can try in this direction. Btw. I find my partner when I wasn't looking for anyone (at least not consciously). I have some dating experience for sure but many times I've lost hope to find someone good. But like I said it before: it's worth it and hey... we have some duties to fulfill. Making the next generations great again

I wonder how girls/women get to this point. Probably many different factors are involved in this process.

Isn't the whole feminism some kind of substitute for something else or maybe some kind of defense mechanism? Personally I don't know any feminists. Sometimes I think that only normal women can defeat feminism or some military conflict which will straighten up things between our genders.

I think it's good to ask about therapist's approach in this matter. Some of them push the "forgive and move on" agenda and that somehow you should still be in touch with your parents because you will benefit from it. That they (therapists) will teach you how to deal with your family's BS.

That's a tough one. Most people will not understand you because they project their own feelings on your situation. Every situation is different. For me for example it doesn't matter that he is your father, that you have a duty as a son or because one of the 10 commandments says you should honor your parents. I have another one : you reap what you sow. My story: my father was an alcoholic and he drunk himself to death, my mother - cold sadistic manipulative woman. She abused me physically and mentally, my father didn't care, to weak to protect me. I confronted my mother about the abuse, same old story - she was and is the victim. She just doesn't get it and she never will. I don't love her, I love and miss deeply a mother that only existed in my heart, someone that I've never met and I will never meet. It's out of my reach because this person doesn't really exist. It's very hard to come to the terms that this woman is not able to be a mother. Nothing I can do about it, the only thing I can do is to change my attitude to this. Sometimes I wonder what I will do if I will get a phone call that she is sick or dying. She neglected me when I was a child, when I was hopeless and when I needed her the most. Instead of proper care I got beatings and name calling. I'm not a saint. Enough of my suffering. The best thing I can do is to have my own family, to break the cycle of abuse and to raise my kids the right way. Many damaged people have so much love and affection to offer but they focus on giving it to the wrong people. There is no point of watering the rock and expecting for it to bloom.

Why not to try online therapy sessions. It doesn't have to be in Swedish. It can be in English. You are an employer to the therapist not the way around, so you can ask how he/she plans to help you etc. Look until you find one and trust your gut. It's difficult and exhausting but worth it.

No need to watch it. Very often you don't even need to see the trailer to know that it would be a total waste of time. I could never understand why some of women are drawn to that type of movies. But actually it doesn't matter. No, Stefan have more important things to do. The time is running out and there is still so much to do.

Why not to try intensive therapy? Few hours per week? Therapy is a great idea and especially when you are in need for change its good to have appointments very often at the beginning. It's hard but nothing bad last forever. It's possible to fix it you just need to put a lot of effort in it. The defense mechanisms might get overwhelming sometimes at the beginning of the therapy but it's possible to survive it. Edit: btw. Where do you usually meet these girls? Maybe it's a good idea to avoid these places?

There is a new info about Czech Republic urging people to "prepare for the worst". I don't know how much true it is. Couldn't find the video were it was mentioned. Apparently Czech tv station CT24 broadcasted it. Could be just a rumor, it's easy to get excited these days

I think it's also a little bit different these days than before. More people eat out or but ready to eat meals etc. If you don't cook from the scratch there is no need for keeping your storage full and it's true that the living space might be smaller than in other countries. Not many people have gardens or even some pots with veggies on balconies or in the backyard. No space and no time for that. Unfortunately we are very dependent on government and the stream of provided goods.

I don't know how much of a help it will be, you can decide. I work as a production manager in factory. I hire people that don't need some advanced skills, they just have to be team players, work fast, be accurate etc. Some people can do this job some don't. That's just the way it is. Once in a while I get applications from people with higher education, impressive resumes, even people who wrote some books etc. Kind of crazy but if they want to work for in the factory I guess they have to have a reason why they choose that type of job. I know that they will not stay forever. I always make sure that they realize what kind of job it is, how much they can get paid and ask why do they want to work here. I ask them directly if they plan to work for a while. If it's days or weeks I wouldn't bother to hire them and train them. But if they say they want to work for few months and they work well, I keep them. When you hire someone you never know how long that person will work for you. Even people with lower qualifications quit their job once in a while. In my opinion it all depends where you plan to work. I like when people are honest with me and I respect that, I like to know what are my options so I can adjust accordingly. I would never hire someone who lied to me in recruiting process (if I would find out) it's definitely a red flag for me. If it immoral to lie on CV? Yes. Is it immoral to not mention some facts? I don't think so, at least if it doesn't hurt anyone. Is it immoral to lower your qualifications? It's a lie so I guess it's immoral. Maybe you can find work where you can be honest and you can tell what is your plan. Maybe you can mention it in cover letter. Getting a job is a both sides deal. You are also making an offer and it is just up to them if it will work for them and if it's worth the hassle since they know you will quit.

what about your father? Btw. Did you share you childhood story somewhere here? If you have a link I would like to read it. I think it always seemed kind of natural for me to not being in contact with my mother since I stop being dependent on her and that is why I always felt some kind of disgust toward her. I could never accept her hypocrisy and fakeness. She was very religious when I was a child and when she got older she was going all the way into craziness. Going to some masses where the Holy Spirit talks through people, she caimed even to see face of Jesus in the picture of a moon. I know she will never change, she is delusional and she can't admit how much she have hurt me. She just doesn't get it. I don't think she is even capable of some kind of empathy. I always wondered why I was so different from my family of origin. How it was even possible. I always thought they made a mistake in hospital and I suppose to belong to a totally different family. I couldn't believe it was my family. I wondered why she was so evil to me, why she treated me so differently from my sister but I don't know if it even matters. I didn't deserve this horror just like any other kid doesn't deserve the abuse. I'm kind of happy that I cut her off now. It would be much more difficult to do it when she will be older. But in the same time she didn't have mercy on me when I was a child why should I have any just because she is getting old and she might die. You reap what you sow.

There could be few reasons for that. Maybe they are expecting something to happen (but this unfortunately might cause panic and people will start asking questions - and I think Left is trying to avoid it at all costs, since they are censoring the news on regular basis) or they are conditioning citizens to get used to a new normal which is a constant life in fear of terrorism. Maybe it's something else but I would guess it's the second reason.

Not sure if I should try to reanimate some similar old topic or to start new one. I didn't find any similar or I just didn't digg deep enough so I hope it's ok to post this one. I'm new here. I've been listening to Stefan for a while and I just can't get enough. The podcasts about politics etc. are great but the Call In Shows have a special place in my heart and I find them very powerful and helpful. I always thought that the "West" is more civilized when it comes to parenting, I guess I was wrong. I was born in Poland and actually I won a life lottery - born into a poor family with alcoholic father and religious sadistic mother. Great combination but as a child there is not much you can do about it except surviving somehow. I was surrounded by dysfunction and degeneracy and I always knew that it wasn't normal. As a child I promised myself that I will get out from there and I will be in control of my life. I promised myself and my future kids that I will never hurt them. I knew that the horror can't last forever and I will get my revenge. I totally forgot about the revenge for many years and just recently I started to remember it. For many years even though I got out from that hell I've tried to please my mother unconsciously hoping for her aproval and love. Of course it didn't work out because I could never meet her standards even though I actually turned out pretty fine. I think all of my relatives continue the circle of abuse and degeneracy. I was always a very good student, I got some good education and work hard. If it comes to my childhood I guess I was lucky enough to not have to go through sexual abuse or starvation but since I remember I was physically and mentally abused by my mother and my older sister. My father didn't care, was busy drinking and fighting with my mother. He died 12 years ago. He made the decision to check out earlier, not willing to help me, not willing to help himself. It's been few years since I left my country and like I said I tried to have functional relationship with my mother and my sister. It was not possible. It was like talking with people from a different planet. Year ago I got tired of the manipulation from my sister side and I just told her that for my own good I cannot have her in my life. It was actually very easy to me. It was done but my mother was still in the picture. I continued to talk to her once in a while and I still had this feeling inside of me. My body was telling me to get rid of it. I felt nauseous every time I had to speak to her. It wasn't often but too often for me that's for sure. One day I got attacked again by my mother (via message) and that was just too much for me. Somehow I decided that I don't care about her feelings anymore and I'm not going to protect her from the truth. I wrote to her all those things that came to my mind. Of course her response was how horrible person I am for saying all those things to her and that she didn't know any better, it was difficult for her having an alcoholic husband etc. She recommended for me going to church and talking to God because God helped her to have a peace with the past and my favorite line "God forgives the greatest sinisters". After that I knew I was done. Of course she mentioned also that she loves me very much even though I hated her all my life (which I never said to her, but maybe she was right) and I will always be her beloved daughter. She texted me on two more occasions how much she loves me but I didn't even bother to reply. After the second text I blocked her. It's been few months now. I've been having therapy sessions since then. Btw. I've done some on and off therapy before but I never had a good therapist. So every time I stopped the therapy saying to myself that I will fix it on my own and I've done a lot of research and read tons of literature on this subject but I guess good therapist is very important. My current therapist is not perfect but she helped me a lot and she doesn't force me or guilt me to forgive my mother which is very important to me at this time. Everything it's still very fresh but I have to admit that facing my worst nightmare-my mother was the most scary and the most freeing thing I have ever experienced. Just when I started to write this post I realized that what I did was actually in defense of my future child. Around that period I started to think about having my first child and I might be wrong but I think unconsciously I wanted to clear up the environment from potential predators and puff the big bad wolf is gone. Just wondering if any of you had this experience? With deciding to cut off from your family? Why did you do it? What did you feel and think shortly after? What are your thoughts on this matter now? Did you go back and restore the relationship on your turns or you never looked back?