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With this recent Paul Walker discussion, I think the differences in when people mature may be overlooked. Young women are presented with opportunities with the opposite sex earlier than men are. Men play the pursuer, and it can take them a while to figure out how to pursue. Women get pursued simply by letting their bodies do what they are going to do. Some men figure things out early on, but they are a minority. This leads to desirable men being the older ones. I have heard Stefan tell stories about dating as a teen. I wonder how many of those who disagree with him about this age disparity issue did not develop in that same trajectory. I remember thinking many times that the average teenage girl who was much younger than me had years more experience dealing with men than I did with women. This is what happens when men are conditioned to self attack themselves into such painful shyness that they are taken out of the dating pool. I eventually saw it all for what it was after studying evolutionary psychology. Men want to reduce competition for fertile females, so they condition possible competitors to use their minds against themselves leaving more females for them. All of this "age disparity makes me puke" stuff sounds very much like the false moralizing dictates I heard growing up in a Fundamentalist Baptist Church where the pastors screamed angry prohibitions against teen sex, and I was a good boy and took them seriously. The pastor was eventually found to be carrying on a sexual relationship with a 16/17 yr old. I know there are many situations where things are inappropriate, but please do better than "it's yucky". I have moved beyond worrying about social approval for my dating preferences. I am done with the celibacy that it gave me for many years. For other men who have confidence issues, one of the things you have to let go of is the worry about what others will think if you approach a woman. I think it is really amusing to me now when I see attempts to shame older men. BTW, I have never fooled around with a 16 yr old, but there were times where I am sure I would have if given the right opportunity. I have with 18 yr olds when I was in my 30s though. Dating Market Value Test For Women Dating Market Value Test For Men

Looking at this thread now, I think it would have been better started as a suggestion of resources to help with procrastination.

Joe has said that the existing system of government is obsolete. More importantly, what percentage gay is Stefan?

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I have noticed many people dealing with procrastination on this forum and the podcasts. I think Steven Pressfield's book The War of Art and the book Do the Work are useful in pushing through it and also in finding goals and direction. I am wondering what your thoughts are on them if you are familiar. The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battle Do the Work

Persnally, I did not see the approval, monetary gifts, rewards from family and social acceptance from friends and other people. Looking back, I think that if I had played their game sufficiently, I would have recieved some of this or at least the illusion of acceptance as only false self would have been accepted. This sounds a lot like me and my experience. I think a lot of my social anxiety came out of this. I grew up in a batshit crazy fundamentalist cult. I could understand logic, and desperately wanted to see the logical reasoning behind what they were asserting so confidently. I assumed it was true because they seemed so confident in their assertions. This lead me to think that I was missing some of the key information that the rest of the people were in on. Not only was I in a cult that was in many ways isolated from the outside, I was also isolated from those within the cult as I was not in on this information. I remember feeling EXTREMELY nervous when people would start talking Jesus and Bible stuff around me because I felt like I might be shown to not know some of this information that pulled it all together. I was born into this cult and grew up there, so I couldn't claim to not know. After getting away from these people more, I realized that it was all assertions, and they were only repeating false self phrases that identified themselves as part of the cult. I have noticed the parallels in the state. The courts are filled with people who speak with false confidence about things things that have no basis in reality. Those who are extorted from play the game with the supposed judge and his minions to gain false self approval. Deep down, they know it's all bullshit.

By paying on a first date like that, you are identifying yourself as a provider type. Women in Western Societies aren't that attracted to provider types anymore. Not paying screens out women like this. People can hate on her, but those who know how to screen for these types won't be bothered.

I am not that familiar with this guy beyond people ridiculing him, but I do think there is value in collapsing the ego. I don't mean permanently, but we are not aware of the parts of ourselves and how they affect us unless we alter or stimulate them in some way. My ego, and the filters surrounding it, is part of who I am. Denying it would be to deny myself. To not be aware of how it controls me is to be controlled by the influences that built it. I am a bit into some other spiritual types that might be considered New Age in a way. I can see their flaws, but that does not prevent me from learning from them. I wonder if some focus so much on the flaws of certain teachers out of some desire to prove their own superiority. I'm not promoting Chopra. I will admit I have a negative prejudice of him after hearing so much about how he is wrong. Maybe hearing lots of "quantum" this and that might get to me too.

I haven't listened to this guy, but It might be worth it if he could attract new people from it. I would like to see a debate over the state with Seth Andrews. I have doubts he would go for it though.

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A caller in a recent show reminded me of a topic that I would like to see further explored on this show. That is people who don't want to have children. It seems to make sense that they would considering that people are genetically motivated. I have wondered why they don't. I have some guesses. I assume they have never seen parents who enjoyed parenting, particularly their own did not enjoy it. This is more of a result of my conversations with people I know who do not want to have them. A woman I am seeing said that she never had the urge to have them. She added that there is this view of childhood as being idyllic and carefree but it isn't, and she would not want to put anyone through that.

If government is a projection of family structure, what will those raised peacefully end up doing? Will they try to project this peaceful structure onto something? Or having had all their developmental needs met, will they be comfortable and desire fully being an adult who does not seek a parent in fictional entities such as the state? All anarchists I see are reacting to corrupt childhood authority. What are emotionally healthy anarchists like? I think the real test for Stefan's claim is his daughter in a decade or so. Will she see no need for outside entities?

Seeing the immature Cantwell - Buhler feud on Facebook, I think Stefan would be better off continuing to ignore his existence unless he wants to talk about how his rage toward his parents has motivated his trollish behavior.

Oh no! My identity is so tied to your opinion of my mother.

I did have one when I said, but I am thinking of another one during the first week or two of November. I am considering a place in Elmhurst. What do you think?

I didn't take the petition part of this seriously. Peer pressure is the wrong reason to take psychedelics. Only take them if you feel ready to.

Therapy is for people who have money. I wish I could afford it. I am sure that if I could have afforded it years ago, I would have plenty of money to afford it now as I would be far more productive. I've just accepted that I can't and have focused on books and podcasts to help me with it. Supposedly you can negotiate deals with some therapists. If you have strong enough negotiation skills, try that. Although if you did, you would be making plenty of money and also able to afford therapy. It's such a vicious circle that spirals into many wasted years.

I'm not sure I can make the case for him. I don't know enough about what is going on in his head. If there is something that he wants to figure out about himself, but feels like there is a block, it could help. I'll admit that I like it to satisfy my own selfish curiosity.

Are you assuming that a proposition is a should? I don't believe anybody should take these when he is uncomfortable with it. That could lead to a bad experience. I don't know that they are required. I have noticed Stefan come to realizations of things that I could only see on and after psychedelics, so maybe he was able to do it without. I am curious about him trying because I would like to see if he could go deeper into these areas. A few that come to mind are experiencing the present moment and viewing one's own experience as worthy and not seeing our experiences as just an extension of others, dissolving the cultural delusions that we see the world through. It is ones thing to come to an intellectual realization that the state and culture are nonexistent, but it is something else to fully let go of that illusion emotionally. Another thing that comes to me with LSD more than anything else is my suppressed greatness that I am holding back. I get a vision of what I could be if I stop self sabotaging. It give me a direction of things to work on myself. I think magic mushrooms have helped me read people better. One of the effects of them is a dissolving of emotional filter for other people's emotions. This filter can be useful much of the time so we don't become overwhelmed by others, but it was valuable to go out into public places and feel strongly the emotions of others. I think what is happening here is that our brains can read many faces and body language words, but we don't pay attention to them. Dissolving that filter allows us to read them more clearly. This isn't exactly a pleasant experience. So many people are unhappy that it can be a bit much to be around them.

There is a 16 year old who has been showing interest in me and said she has a crush on me multiple times. I know her through her parents who are around my age, or few years younger I think. I have had chats with her, and I think there is some missing fatherly guidance that she is after. She lives with her mom and step dad, and she told me her step dad doesn't talk to her much, and she feels ignored by him. I have talked to her about where certain behaviors of hers have come from. I try to be careful not to say too much that might anger her mom or step dad. I am seeing a 24 yr old right now, and I am impressed with her ability to figure things out and have self knowledge conversations with me where we both talk about the behaviors our parents are still stuck in. I guess listening to so many of Stefan's listener convos gets me going in these directions more and more with people. I find that I get into parental relations and early childhood experience conversations with people earlier and earlier.

I know Stefan hasn't tried psychedelics, but since he has done dream evaluations, I would be curious to hear him try to do a psychedelic trip evaluation.

My take on this movie is that it starts out well like so many lefty documentaries then devolves into nonsense based around the fallacy of believing that the state is us or for us while also being a tool of corporations. Oh well. What can you expect from these types? Also, they could have easily lopped out at least a half hour or more and not taken any content out. It was lazy editing.

I am in favor of this. Maybe Rogan can help talk him into it. 5 dried grams of magic mushrooms or smoke DMT or go to an ayahuasca circle. Remember, the state is all imaginary. Those that believe in this fictional entity won't hurt you if they don't know you have these substances. Don't keep them around. Get then take. I don't think mushrooms are that tightly restricted in Canadia anyway. I know you can order the spores and grow your own batch. I would pay good money (if I had it) to eat mushrooms with the stefbot. I would also like to hear Stef do trip evaluations like he does with dream evaluations. I try to evaluate my trips. Sometimes it can take a long time before it comes to me. Supposedly the subconscious is many thousand times the processing speed of the conscious. Wouldn't you like to be aware of all of it at the same time? DMT

As somebody who has seen women of significantly younger age, I say see her if you want, but be cautious and remember that she may be viewing you as the older wiser authority. It could all just be attraction based on her part. I don't know how much you actually know her. Hang out and get to know her if you want. Keep up a bit of playful tension to keep your options open, but don't make a decision you will regret later. Ask her about her early childhood history. If you have listened to this show you have a feel for that.

Where to focus may be more a strategy decision. Focussing on rebuilding a system from the top down by someone who is not at the top becomes a mental masturbation exercise at some point. I like form a system structure in the abstract and then finding the concrete steps to build it, but focussing on individual change is one of those very early steps. I'm not sure where you believe in focussing on changing a system in some way other than individuals.