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Yes they are very real. The part that really surprised me is how common they are. For years I was unaware to how much the degree of emapthy varies from person to person. To the same degree that I was unaware of just how much I now feel that I have higher than average empathy. It explained alot about why I was so unhappy with the situations and relationships I was involved in. I was in a sort of denial that these people would purposely disrespect, hurt, or be inconsiderate of my well being. Wether they were aware or not. The thing i was aware of is that it was hurting me to be around them. Their actions frequently didn't match up with the things they would say. They were inconsistent and let me down alot. It would be confusing, and wen things were in their favor they would be great towards you and it was hard to let go because of the times that were or at least seemed enjoyable. They know in which ways you are vulnerable and play on that to keep u giving them what ever it is that u are providing.

I think if Stef tried a phsycadelic, i would love to hear about his experience. I think it might open his mind in areas that we are less in touch with otherwise. Like something not too crazy tho. I would rather have Stef be who he is and show people that you should strive for a life without substances if at all possible. I do believe that they can be beneficial under the right supervision and guidance. Especially if u have no experience, and don't know what to expect. Should do a little research before trying phsycadelics for sure. You may have an unexpected reaction depending on dose or other variables. I remember the podcast Stef did on drugs, and i admit i thought it was a little silly because he pretended to be high in the beginning and it's not quite accurate unless u way over did it. I understand where he was coming from and I agree that any drugs misused can certainly screw up the mind.

I often feel guilt about my procrastination issue. At times its really debilitating and downright scary. As I've been working on figuring myself out it has occured to me that I need to be engaged in the right way to get motivated to do something. I have failed miserably with sticking to something if its repetitive, boring, and there's no cause involved or no meaning. I should specify that my biggest issue that I'm refering to is finding work that i can do steadily to make money. If I find out that there is a child being abused, or there is some evil going on that needs to be uncovered, my brain will strap itself rite in and start trying to solve the problem staying fixated on the issue until that problem is solved. So i've been thinking that this must be why i'm procrastinating. It's because i think about the problems that need to be solved that are not trivial. I get so consumed carrying the big things my brain wants to focus on and im trying to fight it. Not because i want to fight it, but because i'm too worried about the other stressors like immediate concerns that really need my attention. It's like i'm fighting with myself everyday bc the major things that are engaging take up so much of my thoughts that the simple stuff is the most difficult. I think that once i can find something that pays the bills the other little things wont be as hard to do. I have some ideas now, and a better sense of what I might be able to do well. I'm just now getting a clearer picture. Maybe once I do wat motivates me enuf and is rewarding, meaningful it will help with the other areas as well. i dont know how to fix it, apologies for the messups in my posting

It's funny you mention that Mishelle, I also have a friend who i'am no longer able to b close to. So i guess we are more distant now as a result of his worsening opiate habit among other things that he can get his hands on. He has became more deceitful and I can no longer trust him like I once did. I feel conflicted, and still keep in touch. However I can't get too close because there's nothing I can do for him even if i know he didn't choose his addiction and the resulting manipulative behavior. I believe that you should continue to be supportive and unconditionally so. The only thing that its really important is that you set boundaries with them so that u don't become an enabler or victimized. By being supportive I mean if u can provide or help them get the resources they need to try to get better if they choose that, thats positive. Outside of them making their own decision to get help. I don't think there's much else you can do.

thanks wesley, next time i will add the link lol! sorry guys

People – scientists and civilians alike – often associate intelligence with positive life outcomes. The fact that more intelligent individuals are more likely to consume alcohol, tobacco, and psychoactive drugs tampers this universally positive view of intelligence and intelligent individuals. Intelligent people don’t always do the right thing, only the evolutionarily novel thing.

I really enjoyed the podcast with Peter Joseph. I hadn't heard of him till the podcast. It was very entertaining, right from the start. I was suprised that he started out with that offputting comment rite in the beginning. Like as if he was offended before the debate even began. Or on the defensive, like just frazzeled bc he knew it was going to be difficult to try to make his arguments. He started to sweat pretty badly, it was priceless to watch Stef correct him. Peter just kept trying to repeat the same stuff over again and just couldn't get anywhere. Not to sound mean but the guy had it coming lol! Stef I love watching you debate. You turn these guys into dogs who limp away with their tails between their legs. Also loved the Joe Rogan podcast. I thought u too hit it off well, considering having such different styles. My little bro Pete, loves Joe Rogan, and my fave is Stefan. So when i told him u guys were doing a podcast together it was awesome. He tuned in as well. Thank u so much. I feel like im rambling on, so until my next post, this is it for now lol!

Not having freedom has made me insecure and afraid of not being able to take care of myself and others I care about. I have struggled to get by in life, because I wasn't educated properly. I feel like I never had a chance from the beginning, even if there were great opportunities. Not being able to get the rite help I would have needed earlier in life, has cost my quality of life in many ways. It's hard to think about achieving your dreams, while at the same time feeling stress over trying to take care of the here and now in order to survive. Don't get me wrong, its not that i don't want to be a contributing member in society, it's about the conditions under which i feel like i can thrive and not just try to survive. It's hard when you feel disrespected, exploited, like you have no control, resources, time, healthcare. It's hard to think positive, when u have experienced and realize that so many things are corrupt. I feel like I have value and abilities that i could be using much more. I would do drudgery work and meaningfull work volunatrily, because i wanted to. The incentives would just be there. We would not be boxed into uncertainty and disatisfying lives in general.

Just because there is a rating doesn't mean that young impressionable minds aren't getting access to it.

I happened to catch some news on the politics channels on violent video games. There is a recent version of the game called 'grand theft auto'. sorry im not great with punctuation lol! I would like to see Stef do a podcast referencing the phsycology, impact, people behind it, the propoganda. I just find these type of games shocking, disturbing. i was talking to a male friend who happened to b playing the recent version #5. i remember seeing the first ones played before. That game is so realistic, and the part that is most shocking is that u can do anything. including violence against women, its been awhile but i belive i saw a prostitute getting hit or something. my mouth dropped. I just think it's kinda sad. In reality if u were in the positions of those characters, it would not be glamorous at all.

It's a friend's child whom i remained close to. I had lived with them for awhile. Her mother and I had a falling out, but I remained in touch with another mutual friend and the child to check on how she's doing and what's been going on. Yes i made another report, i had actually made one a long time ago but it was for neglect the first time. I later learned how inefficient child protective services is about looking into reports. so i didn't continue with it. i did use them again, but this time im going to continue checking up. Also reporting any additional evidence that i may find or remember. It will end as long as i can do anything about it. I'll update everyone when this is stopped.

How can i make sure that it will stop without going about it the wrong way? I have to keep it on down low big time. I can't explain whole story right now, its just that i dont want to wait too long for the right time to act. I need to get the ball rolling tho, I will do whatever to intervene. maybe i shouldn't post this, kinda impulsive, its a sensitive issue.

sorry if i kinda went of the subject a little, another thing with being at a bad job that u can't stand, is that it will have a negative impact on you're energy, positive thinking, its like it sucks the life out of u, just like being around the wrong people. so if u have to quit so that u can regain your ability to not be muddled in the ability to think clearly and recover. im not even joking from experience. i was at a bad job and couldnt even think about how to get out or wat to do for like a month after quiting ok thats all i got right now lol! I will a little later ive got to jet.

I totally understand the pressure to be forced to get a job, like just get a job, yet there's no supportive people around to take the stress off bc nobody cares about your welfare as long as you are working. i lived in a situation where my roomate who i thought was empathetic when i had to quit a job due to like complete burnout to the point i couldnt go there bc i was so unhappy depressed etc. she had zero sympathy, all she could say was "well if u wouldn't have quit your damn job" and this girl was someone i had been frends with since we were 12. All she cared about was what i contributed no matter what might be going on with me. it was awful. the only way that i have been able to survive is creating work, which isn't eazy but the satisfaction u get gives u more incentive and no one micromanages u. In the meantime if u have some supportive frends, or people u feel like u could ask for help to lean on a bit till u can get on your feet. that is what i had to do, it was hard bc i didnt have many good frends. but sometimes the only way to get out is to ask for help. the only thing with that is, u have to really feel it out so u dont end up with another person who isnt understanding or patient, or possibly bad for u to be around.

There's a podcast, forgot which one, its in the Sunday call in shows grouped together. I've had the same issues, and mainly because i didn't ask enuf questions, interviewing the employer also to find out if the chances of it being a good fit to your needs and standards. Things that are necessary for you in a job, so u can be less likely to end up working for an exploitive employer. Negotiating about what you u need to get out of it in order to increase your chance of a good work environment or at least closer to a win/win. it might be harder to come by, but it will pay off in the long run. Also, compare the jobs you have had. What u liked and what u didnt like. what u are good at, and things that u have an impossible time with. which factors are a top priority which things are less important. hope this helps

thank you for sure!

Without rulers, i would think that with some collaboration of rational minds who are not allowed to draw straight lines we could certainly come up with ways to find workable, favorable solutions that dont just benefit some people. I mean really, like Wesley was saying we have plenty of great technology to keep improving, or changing any lines if they arent working for the majority. None of this will be done with rulers.

Oh my god Wesley! you are a genius. this is something that would really be a great idea. Yes i'm on board with this. Often times i'm not the most organized person, trouble staying in reference and relevant to the topic more. Unless this is something that i could somehow improve on. I'm slow to discover certain features on sites or my cell phone that i could have been using to make things much eazier lol! Impatient with details

I go by Sasha, I love to research, and learn new things. i enjoy sharing info on topics or posts, that i have experience with. At the time i dont have a job like a place that pays me to work there. but i do many diff things that i consider my work. I just havent put them all to use yet. Well, feel free to say hi and connect.

I once lived with a girl who got on disability pretty young for bipolar, borderline, cutting, addiction, and oh my was she a complete physcopath statist.That was before i learned about people that are like predatory and want to exploit you for their own ends. I had went thru PTSD which continued to devastate and ruin my life until i found some self therapy resources. But i'm kinda just beginning the healing process. So as result of many stressors and pile on some PTSD. I struggled in school got punished for it alot, and for years i thought that i had low intelligence, learning disabilities and i lived up to this being reinforced over the years. Teachers ignored the signs of abuse completely. When i barely graduated, i was terrified about how i was going to make it, i could barely conceive of any kind of future. I couldn't even do a low level job bc of my broken brain syndrome.Anyway, she tried to convince me that i should get on disability. I knew that i needed help but not from the government which has taken away so much from me. Anything that complicated and ridiculous of a process cannot be a good thing. Im pretty sure the majority of people would definitly not be on disability if the state hadnt crushed them into the system.

Hi Elias, I feel like i know exactly how you feel because i have been there and at times still struggle with the very same issues. Speaking from years of coffee use, i can tell you that it helps me especially when i really need it. I drink 16oz. lattes with 4 to 5 espresso shots and have at times got large ones 20oz. with up to 7 espresso shots. I don't drink strong coffee drinks daily, but i do drink a decent strength coffee from grocery store daily. The only thing to be aware of with concentrated caffiene shots is the crash, so i actually know about how long it will work for and to be prepared to feel a bit of a crash for a little bit. U want to find coffee drink you like, and experiment with strength, taste. Some people are sensitive to caffiene and you should try to use it responsibly bc too much can make you feel edgy,anxious. So my coffee discovery actually started as a result of self medicating attentional and depression fatigue although i wasnt aware then. I just felt like it helped alot so to me the benefits were worth it. For me caffiene hasn't been addictive because of the caffiene itself, because i dont want to feel wired most of the time. I specifically use it for wen i need to accomplish something. The other thing it helps me with is journaling therapy, by enhancing your concentration, you also retain what you learn or ideas. lol! There's actually more info i can share with u, but another time. ok good luck!