thecurrentyear

I can't read that article. Yes there are some good points about men doing manly things. Where is the woman's responsibility to accept her man as a man who does not give two shits about the glass next to the sink? Be a woman and clean the goddamned house so he can move heavy things or use his brain on strenuous problems. Made me angry to see him taking responsibility for her dissatisfaction.

Hmmm...how do you know? Changing your daily activities is a process. The habits that need to be built up require re-wiring in your brain, essentially. So it's best to add them gradually. If you get overwhelmed, you will condemn yourself and quit. If you look back at new habits you've added in the past 6 months or a year, you can probably see that you've already made a lot of progress. Probably more than you have in mind when you decide "I just refuse to actually commit myself to the actions I would need to take to achieve them" I think that's actually not a true statement, but one you are using to justify coming here and dwelling on your "problem" as opposed to adding more things that are difficult to your activities and tasks for the week. Just a thought.

I like aviet's suggestion to use referrals. You can think of it as a tree that branches out from one stem or trunk to grow into an entire book of business. Cold calls suck and it hardly ever works. But if you can get a foot in a door somewhere, then call on their neighbors and everyone you meet on the way (coffee shop, barber, mechanic, landlord, etc, etc) and make that one connection pay off. As a woman, if you care...I would want you to focus only on playing up masculine traits and skills. Organizing your cleaning and improving your wardrobe would be the last things I would want you to focus on, and would prefer to help with them myself once in a relationship. Maybe that's just me. Definitely work on ridding the flab and magnifying the positives. FWIW just my thoughts.

Proof that indoctrination works, folks.

My notes for anyone interested: lack of "public service" experience is usually a good sign why would he cite mother jones? did someone hack his account? first paragraph, identity politics then vouchers capitalism, conservatism, voluntary welfare check, check, check child labor is awesome yes please bring it back traditional values, vouchers, no government schools?! awesome charter schools run by for-profit companies I don't see the problem ...?

It's been my experience that very many FDR women describe themselves in the same way. I'm not entirely sure why that is. Probably for a lot of the reasons cited above. However, much in the same way that a quality rational partner is worth doing the extra work to find, so too are same-sex friendships. Women in particular have a duty to the family to maintain social connectedness. This is important for so many reasons. One of the most important being the finding of quality mates for the children. Another would be for emergency help and regularly-scheduled companionship when the parents need a break from the kids or from each other. There are just too many reasons to even list, and it boggles the mind to think we would give up on any decent connection beyond the family unit. How does your daughter make friends, or figure out HOW to make friends, without you as a model and a social connector for her? I feel pretty disappointed in my own mother for not placing a priority on friends for herself, but mostly for me. And also for the way she spoke about her "inability" to make friends. That made it seem like an impossible task that I was alone in my quest to pursue. Overwhelming and depressing for a child. Children should not be left alone to navigate the world of relationships.

I am not a troll. But I am flattered at achieving "most insipid" status in your mind. I apologize for the "manlet" comment. I was only joking around, the way I do with the people in the chat. It was rude and inappropriate. I'm sorry.

Love it! Thank you

Haven't you ever known lazy smart people, and hard-working dullards? Work ethic is a product of your upbringing, not intelligence.

But surely you understood his request, and that your decline while insisting on your own request meant you wanted a lopsided one-way exchange of value. Where you get what you want but he does not get what he wants. One does not need to assert that their offer is conditional for the other party to understand what a fair trade is and is not.

I agree wuzzums. I've been trying to find the right words to explain this. None of them seem strong enough. "Double standard" does not begin to describe the tyranny of the hypocrite who wields power over others. I do think the denial of reality and sense evidence belongs somewhere in there. Because the hypocrite needs the victim to identify with his version of reality, in order to perpetrate the double standard which is posed as a universal.

Something being a fallacy does not make it untrue.

Anything by Ayn Rand, certainly

Calling in to the show would not be a bad start.

Taking full responsibility will only help. Stef, Trump, everyone who has ever been successful has had to live under a state. They never let it stop them. Stop complaining and do something.

Might I also recommend "How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk"

This country is the United STATES of America. There are other options. Vote with your feet. Make states compete and feel the effect of enforcing laws you don't like. You don't HAVE to. But it is an option. Don't pretend you have no choice in the matter. FYI, "this sounds like..." is not an argument.

Typical leftist tactic to redefine the buzzwords that push the amygdala buttons. It's a moving target, dodging any possible logic or evidence that could argue it away. So all that remains is conditioned emotional response to what the words USED to mean. Example: rape used to mean forcible, violent attack against a resistant and defenseless victim. Now it means any masculine behavior the left wants to suppress, but our brains still hear and respond emotionally to the imagery that originally applied to the former definition, as a means of controlling and demonizing the right/men/western values.

To paraphrase: Obvious assertion is obvious. No argument needed.

You are being very passive about your victimization in all this. Take some responsibility. Move if you need to. Make some choices and do something other than defend your bad habit and demand others' change their opinions on it.

Agreed. Men considering whether to "go their own way" may want to take note of the level of unhappiness of people who subscribe to that perspective. It was nice of meetjoeblack to illustrate that point here.

@meetjoeblack--I predict you will never be happy.

Wow. I'd say that's progress, if it's real and widespread. Would be very cool.

Just re-posting for emphasis and to add in my agreement with this argument. And, not an argument, but perhaps of relevance to some: I am a woman.

Wow, that is very sad. Good to have that data, I suppose.