MysterionMuffles

I hear ya. It feels in congruent with the difficult task of actually accepting fault. It's not an easy task someone can smile at you and remind you of, it a real life relationship as opposed to a bite sized YouTube video, you would want someone more sympathetic to tell you where you may be wrong. I think as a child, yes, life does just happen to you and it's a terrible, scary life to live around abusive adults. And of course that would inform one's opinions about the world around them and all. At the same time, as an adult, when you become aware of your PAST victimhood, there is the temptation to hold on to that as your present life and get attached to that. Of course I sympathize with victims of child abuse, an am aware of all the negative effects ACE can have on someone's development--but once you become aware of how much of a disadvantage your childhood has given you, I think it does become all up to you whether or not you make something more of yourself. If you watch the video again, she doesn't say that everything is 100% your fault. There are some things that are out of our control, but the things that we can usually do stuff about like our social circles, work and home lives etc, it is our responsibility to shape, change, or remove anything that doesn't serve us.

Stefan's delivery in what regard? An hour's worth of metaphors rehashing the same lesson just to make sure the lesson lodges in your brain?

Damn glad to hear it man. I'm sensing there's years and years of struggle in just those 3 paragraphs. Personal accountability is indeed a giant game changer in life. What type of message and delivery does appeal to you? And why would you do what? Take responsibility for your faults? Because if you don't, you're doomed to repeat them unless by some stroke of chance, life will just happen to you and may or may not work in your favour. Life is too short to make that gamble.

I think this video cracks the code between insults and harmless jokes

They should use whatever washroom they want to use, as long as the same rules should apply; don't take a stall right next to someone else when there's plenty of untaken ones elsewhere

Hey everyone I just had the pleasure of reading the wonderful book and watching the film adaptation for Me Before You. It's about a man in a wheelchair and his plan to commit suicide in 6 months to escape his painful existence. His parents hire on a personal companion for him who would hopefully lift his spirits and prevent him from going through with his plan. This caregiver eventually starts to fall in love with him and devote her life to making him happy, and yes I can see how unhealthy that sounds...as much as I could have touched upon that in my review, I focus more on the idea of assisted suicide in a real place in Switzerland called Dignitas. Live and die with dignity is their tagline. Is it truly a dignified thing to legally allow? Let me know what you guys think of my review as well as the ethics surrounding planned and assisted suicide. I personally think it's a valid exercise of self ownership, but it is a grave choice that should not be taken lightly. Enjoy.

EDIT: ...and What to do If You Are One Makes a huge huge difference in the context of the video! Great great video. https://www.facebook.com/alexi.panos/videos/10207381069858498/

Damn. Well said!

What if someone really abrasive and aggressive was dropping some valid truth bombs on you? Not that I condone having my intelligence or my dignity insulted when someone tries to correct me, just want to know what you think.

Jeez, I agreed and thanked the guy and still picked a fight. Good riddance... Forgot how much he used to derail almost every thread here.

Allow me to share with you some of my experiences. https://board.freedomainradio.com/topic/42792-child-abuse-at-work-and-lying-to-abusers/ https://board.freedomainradio.com/topic/43119-subtle-and-childish-child-abuse-at-work What I've learned from a conversation with a few friends is that the more emphasis we put onto shaming the parent, and less empathizing with the children, the more we're doing it out of vengeance against possibly our own abusers as opposed for the care of the children themselves. It's been a while since those two threads I posted, and I've learned a lot since then. I think addressing the child at the moment of verbal abuse and being nice to them is a good way to intervene because what are parents gonna say? "STOP BEING NICE TO MY KID?!" But in the case of physical aggression...it's tough. Not sure much we can do because unfortunately you prying a parent shameless enough to phsyically abuse their child in public can get defensive, and you can end up getting into an altercation where you may be seen as the aggressor. Even though you are just trying to defend a child. It's tough shit man...

I don't debate with people I don't care about or plan to care about. If the point is to help change people's minds, I guage to see if they would even be useful allies. If they're not, then I don't bother because I think it's futile to just debate out of sport and to have an antagonist. Sure you can sharpen your skills that way, but I'm starting to a see tendancy in professional contrarians disagreeing with me for the sake of disagreeing with me. It has nothing to do with educating me or helping me improve my reasoning, rather it's more grandstanding that I...cannot stand There was a time where I would debate just about anybody on anything because I was so inspired with all of this philosophical knowledge, but after enacting the ego trip of simply being intellectually superior over others, and then experiencing the other side of it from people far worse than I used to be--that time had to end. I have better things to do with my life. Thanks for the post, I agree with everything you've said, Steve, but you already know that from all the conversations we've had.

Hmm...I used to draw different faces on a piece of paper and ask my niece when she was 2 years old to identify the emotions. She easily understood happy, sad, mad, and even bored when I introduced that new one to her. It helped her verbalize her feelings up to this day!

What do you think authors of fiction are basically doing? But on paper. "Mal, goddamnit, don't do this! JAMES...and Phillipa are waiting for us!"

You have to approach it like a salesman. I've had a high failure rate to debate with people when I didn't ask them questions to figure out where they were at first. Like a salesman, you want to find out if their beliefs are due to emotional and/or logical, or even practical reasons. One rule I've always lived by is to empty people's cups before I fill them. What that means is I want to allow people to open up to me about what they believe in and why, because you get nowhere simply telling people how wrong they are and the only space you give for them to explain themselves...is when you're already putting them on the spot and shoving truth in their face. I've had much more success, not 100% but still better, once I've taken the time to understand people's thought structure before I try to work my way in with the truth and what I believe is true (there are some stuff I still think are subjective and have yet to be completely convinced of). Let's be honest, although it seems axiomatic to us that Atheism, Anarchy, and Peaceful Parenting are true--like Eric says in the video--we can't assume people think just like us. Everyone will come to the same or different conclusions in their own way. This is the very same reason why I would rather be friends with a Christian than a Statist. At least to some degree, Christianity promotes virtues, most of which are in line with the NAP. Yes, I would love for this world to be completely rational and accept truth based on reason and evidence, but unfortunately that's not how the world works right now. A lot of people are still dominated by their emotions on things, and it is through emotion that I argue for what I believe in when it comes to certain individuals. Hell, it's the reason why I review fiction on my YouTube channel, with a bit of a philosophical and slice of life edge to it. People connect through emotionality more than anything else, and a huge place they get it from is from entertainment. Instead of just viewing fiction as this fantasy land that's unattainable, I like to try and make the case that the bravery and vulnerability of our favourite fictional characters are created as a higher standard of human behaviour that IS attainable. Ayn Rand argued that that was the purpose of Romantic art; to emphasize an idealized state of man, but anyways I'm veering off topic here. My point is, with the whole salesman analogy, is that you gotta meet people where they're at, and as Gandhi says, be the change you want to see in the world. If you KNOW THE TRUTH and all...you want to live a life where you've made something of yourself and are happy with the results. Because even if you have all this superior knowledge, people could see you and be like "oh this guy's all about the truth and everything? He seems unhappy though and I'd rather believe in lies and be happy, than know the truth and be as miserable as THAT dude!" Then on top of that, you have to meet them where they're at and remember we've also been there at one point our lives. Sure I was always an Anarchist and against the State since I was a kid, but for most of my life I did believe in God or A God. Knowing that I've had the capacity for change allows me the hope that others do as well, but they need to show the signs. How they show the signs and if they even decide to...is solely based on how much or how little you empathize with what they initial think and believe.

I don't think I've ever dropped the Against Me argument on anyone because I know that once I had to, there was no point to if I knew what the answer was going to be. Treatment before ideology has become my new philosophy. It's usually people who treat me like crap who I defriend, their idealogical beliefs come second and usually logically lead to Statism. Then there's some people who are still for government, but are my friends and treat me well. These are the people who actually give me the time of day as well as open my eyes to a few things such as appreciating cops to some extent. Same with military, only in so far as DEFENSE, not so much what we have the State doing with them nowadays enforcing unjust violence.

Couldn't have said it better myself. Same with abusive parent apologists.

Should you do it? CAN you do it? I appreciate this fellow's thoughts and his Anarchist metal music that he makes with his band...

It's a strange thing for me to have read Ayn Rand's Romantic Manifesto to broaden my perspective on art and literature. It was highly infused with intellectual stimulation and gain, and really helped me to push my keen eye for detail and meaning in art even further. AND THEN...I read this piece of shit book called Mike and Dave Need Wedding Dates immediately after because the movie for it came out recently. Here's my review on a true story about two douchebags whose Craislist ad for wedding dates going viral. Why did I read it? Why did I watch it? Sometimes we deserve a mental break from the world's ills to consume trash literature like junk books and enjoy their...HILARIOUS MOVIE COUNTERPARTS?! What?! More on my review on it below... *explicit language*

Hindu, Buddhism, Mormon, Judaism, and Falundafa (sp?) are all religions based on non-violence. Correct me if I'm wrong, though.

That doesn't make him Christian. Several religions share that principle in their own way. He's not Christian if he doesnt believe in God or the religious docrtine of Christianity,

That's a very interesting theory, I don't know why you got downvotes for it. EDIT: Nevermind. Misrepresenting Stefan in that way was...yeah.

Wth happened to my original post? I went to edit one letter into a word and the whole post disappeared Anyways... I feel getting to know people who should be a universalized hobby lol. Yeah that's cool about the slot car thing. I get that too. They mistake my interest in them as the interest in the thing they're talking about, when really it's just the person I care about. That's why I don't care for spoilers either for TV shows or stories I will never experience immediately enough for it to be ruined for me. Glad you enjoy our interactions and that you can understand my desire to geek out about Rand's Romantic Manifesto! SCORE! Yeah women, or even men, who can tell great stories speak volumes of their character. Not just their capacity to communicate, but also convey meaning and value. Yeah the immediate desire to share their opinion instead of ask you of yours...it's too sadly common. It's like I brought this up because it matters to me! I will ask you for your opinion when I ask you for it. I've had better luck recently in terms of asserting my desires for a conversation. Like with that Fault in Our Stars example, I can't see if I mentioned it or not my post disappeared -_-, but I do remember telling that person that I don't appreciate their opinion undermining my personal experience with love, loss and grief. To others it may just be another sappy story about two teens in love, to me it's not even about the romantic shit. It's about creating bonds with people while you still can. That was the biggest take away for me.

Eh Steve NAILED IT!