MysterionMuffles

I know homosexuality isn't a choice, I was being sarcastic. Choice or not, this is horrendous.

I'm happy to read that you've changed your approach. I would suggest having a sit down with them and tell them what you've told us in this thread. Let them know you own up to not modeling what it looks like to clean up after them and that you will start, suggesting that they can if they want. Have you since apologized for the yelling?

So how is love a selfish virtue?

Oh those are some really good ideas. I still have pictures of myself as a child and I might try that. I have pretty good memory and can remember some innocuous moments in my life, but man I can barely remember anything on the days of having certain photos taken. Also the old school reports, I've looked at them recently. It is weird that I actually used to do well in math instead of language and how I was described as needing more one on one time to grasp lessons better. That's an insight on how I think I was meant for homeschooling and having a tutor. And as for listening to music, yeah listening to music I used to listen to just sparks my memory of the times I used to listen to certain artists frequently. What has your experience been when it comes to relistening to old music?

that thumbnail was already disturbing enough... that fucking piece of shit! I hope he dies a horrible death. I was fantasizing about all the kids rallying together to take him down to the ground, for they may have strength in numbers. Whoever was recording this video, and depending on the laws in Egypt, got this asshole FIRED! Please excuse my language, but I am disgusted by the man in this video. It was so systematic what he did, the hands, then the butt, and he has the audacity to throw in kicks in there!

yeah basically lol I have run fast and far from being her friend. These illogical beliefs in mysticisism and inconsistent actions that clash with her stated values--can't do it man. She preaches so hard about unconditional love and non-judgement, yet where's the love for me being such a "difficult" friend when she herself said you should practice love for someone you may have a good reason to hate. Where's the non-judgement crap when she's strawmanning, ad homineming me, and inflicting egregious conclusions? This is a woman who has rants harshly about her father for half an hour at a time who ends each rant with saying she loves him because she has to, otherwise not loving one is not loving all BECAUSE WE'RE ALL ONE. You wanna talk about delusions, honey? Take a look at yourself from the outside. I am DONE with this hippy dippy bullshit.

I think it's just an article on Huffingtonpost that Stefan found. Truly tragic...the irrational way his family argues that it was his CHOICE to be gay...

Stef posted this on Facebook today :'( read more up on it here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/28/family-son-coming-out-gay-video_n_5731462.html

NaA's and BSNAPS

OH! I just remembered the perfect podcast that got me on the path of valuing myself in terms of romantic relationships: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zuXO_zWLEbE I've listened to this one so many times. Hilarious intro and very valuable stuff!

I have some friends who come from divorced parent households... This does capture the kind of grief they talked about...

Dylan: it's funny that you say that because that's exactly what she did. She said it wasn't about anything in particular, but I know for a fact it was her holier than thou way of saying she didn't want to do the Gratefulness Challenge. Well I talked to her in private about how discourage and disempowering it was for her to say that and she got defensive, inflicting the conclusion that I was just taking things personally. I've been having a lot of experiences with her where when she can't provide any reason or evidence in our disagreements, she retreats to inflicting the conclusion that I'm taking things personally--online and offline. Needless to say I've unfriended her after a long series of RTR conversations where I just got my feelings dismissed because she would rather be right than compassionate. LMFAO yeah case in point. She believes in karma in the previous lives kind of way. I asked her how she knew that stuff was real and she gave me an anectodal piece of evidence where one of her spiritual master's family members died, then that person got reincarnated as a two year old who remembered everything from his supposed past life. Then I asked her if she's met this family and verified that, and she said no, she was just repeating what she was told. Then the topic moved on to some more personal stuff and she got defensive. Which is why this woman drove me nuts when we used to hang out. I ask for empirical evidence of her claims and she would just escape to this world of unreality that I supposedly couldn't grasp til I was at her High Priestess level

let us know how it goes

Hey man I'm glad you have gained the awareness to recognize the discrepancy. It's hard to reconnect with ones self, but if you want some journaling tips here's some from my blog. Start off with the fundamental principle I describe here: http://yourwritetolive.com/2014/07/03/the-free-fall-journal/ and then move onto this post about personal journaling: http://yourwritetolive.com/2014/07/10/save-20000-on-therapy-by-buying-a-20-journal/

aww he doesn't wanna be replaced he probably already felt like that with the sister's birth. I wonder if he had adjusted despite of it.

So for the past 3 days I've been engaging in a Gratefulness Challenge on Facebook where you post a status listing three things you are grateful for for five days, and then nominate two other people to do the same. It has been a great practice in vulnerability and shouting from mountain tops to immortalize my gratitude for each thing I've listed the past few days. Then I see this post from this hippy chick Ewwww this made my skin crawl. You know, I really hate a lot of new age spititualists. They hark on about non-ego and being Zen, when really they're just trying to assert ascendancy over those who don't share the same spiritual beliefs as them. Or at least it has been in my experience with this woman. I felt disempowered and discouraged from spreading awareness, compassion, and gratitude-- not just on social media, but also the physical world--when I read this post. An even more ironic thing is that she used social media to preach this holier than thou message. She posted this simply because she was the first person I nominated for the Gratefulness Challenge. What a passive aggressive way of saying "I have nothing to be thankful for than my own ego." Gross. I'm glad I unsubscribed to her so I don't see her on my newsfeed. I was just told about this post and that's how I found out. Do you have any people like this in your life? Where on the surface they're "spiritual" and on this path to wholeness, when really they use it to diminish others?

Just for shits and giggles...have you guys ever got what you prayed for or gotten a good emotional release from praying to God (when you still believed in Him)?

Youre right, I retract my statement. You weren't saying that you would kick his ass right then and there, you were inviting him to a fair fight on reasonable grounds where it's allowed if he consented to it. Were you ever really going to fight him if he said yes or was it just a way to make him back off?

I've had this train of thought lately I was hoping to get some feedback and comments on. I've been thinking a lot about apologies and regrets (and specific ones I've enacted) and came up with a way to figure out if they're real and valuable or not. Basically I think apologies and regrets are about the future. When you say you're sorry for hurting somebody, it obviously does not erase the past. But it's an acknowledgement of wrong doing and the apology is then an implicit comittment to better behaviour in the future. "I'm sorry I showed up late" = from now on I'll be more punctual, to take an innocuous example. Likewise with regrets. There are things in my past that I regret, and when I bring them up, people just loooove to tell me, "well you can't go back to the past and change it," and it's like no shit, Sherlock! Of course I can't. The reason why I often speak of my regrets is because I'm making a comittment to myself to not make the same mistakes. Regrets are usually around things you could have done better, and although you can't change the past, if you ever come across similar experiences, you have that regret to help guide you toward better choices in the future. "I regret not giving it my all," = I want to give my all from now on. Does that make sense? Tell me what you think.

and yeah that's kinda iffy. I remember a bully from my old work place projecting weird shit on this mentally challenged guy saying, "why you lookin at me you gay or something? you want my cock?" like eww dude just come out of the closet already. The mentally challenged guy glanced at him for like 5 seconds and didn't say anything so it's funny that's how the bully treated him.

Massive props to you for standing up for yourself! I don't agree with the threatening being so explicit, though I do wonder how I would feel if you made it implicit that you fight for sport. Well anyways, yeah you're gonna have to deal with a lot of bullies out in the world. They're cowards. Stand up to them, they back down. but I agree with this logic.

children don't associate the spanking with the situation that was about to be prevented. It's just disorienting that they get pulled out of something they think they were about to enjoy (like running into a busy street) and then getting hit. This logic fails because the parent is protecting the child from hurting themselves by hurting them. It's like saving a blind man from an oncoming bus passing a cross walk, and then slapping him in the face. Better alternative at a surface level: just pull them out of the dangerous situation. Better alternative at a deeper level: learn how to minimize your kid's probability to get into dangerous situations.

This fills me with so much hope, if not for my parents, but for others who are in the process of talking to theirs. Thank you for sharing and your vulnerability!

I'm happy to read this, creakins. Can you elaborate a bit more on what she apologized for and how else you felt in the moment of it? How did this come about? Was it really out of the blue, have you been having conversations with her?

Wait what can you elaborate further on why love should be selfish?