MysterionMuffles

and then she had the fucking nerve to say "you don't do that when Im talking to you"

lol yes you can Nathan I could totally understand the frustration with children. My neice was a good listener and does most of the things I asked because we've developed a solid connection but feeding her was difficult. I can see how when you feel powerless and unenlightened in regards to self knowledge, that you would want to take out your frustrations on a developing being to bear your poison. But I don't give in. I refuse to misplace my anger like most parents do, or in particular HER parents who have little to no patience when she doesn't want to listen to them. After all how can you LISTEN to over bearing nagging and yelling anyway?

maybe they reported us as perpetuating child abuse

I can't find yours, where is it? I posted also about how it's just teaching her to live in fear. The worst thing is the threat to starve her just because she might not eat a certain time. But be warned, you're gonna deal with koreans here who truly believe in such kinds of threats as just.

remember what kind of society we live in still

I agree with Holo Cene. My neice is about to turn 3 soon and I've been thinking about all kinds of reason and evidence based games I can play with her. When she develops language even further I want to play true or false with her, and obviously start small. True or false, is this a table? True or false, is the Sun green? Simple stuff like that to develop her reason faculties. I've been asking her "are you smart or stupid?" And she always says "I mort!" "Are you boring or fun?" "I fun!" "Are you a boy or a girl?" "A gul!"

James Dean, thank you so much for sharing about your experience with parental divorce, and sleeping next to your father. It brought me to tears when you mentioned how you need the constant reassuring. Big ups to your dad for being there for you. That is extraordinairely rare. And you're right about parenting the child you have, not the one you want. When I used to take care of my neice, I noticed that she did not like being hugged or kissed when she was wide awake and playing. But she did require a ton of affection when she was sleepy. So much so that even after a half hour of holding her as she fell asleep, I couldn't put her down to lie on her own because she would sit up with her eyes still closed and have her arms reaching out to me. Sometimes it would take a full hour to finally let her on her own, but as soon as she got up again, she didn't like being touched. After looking at my own history and all, and recognizing how needy I used to be, I knew that I couldn't use her as an affection pillow to satisfy my needs. In turn I learned to respond to her boundaries appropriately. She has an aversion to kisses because everyone in my family likes to pick her up, against her will most of the time, and kiss her. I find it disgusting especially since she clearly whines when this happens. Most of the time I'll tell these family members to put her down. It's unacceptable, the degree to which children's blatant preferences get ignored.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=256331697888633 As if...I wonder what happened off camera to warrant this disgusting interaction. Oh and look at all those comments talking about how cute the kid is for behaving this way and all the props to the mother.

good stuff man lol got me curious on that now

oh I DID see that topic, forgot about it thanks! ill check it out

I want to know what people think or preferably know about transgenders. What causes it? Are people born physically what they're not mentally? A common thing transgenders say is that "at a very young age I just KNEW I was meant to be born a [opposite gender]."

I noticed that when you ignore a user in the chatroom, you don't see their messages but they still continue to see yours. That person will then have to put you on their ignore list in order to make it mutual. I think once a user ignores another, the ignoring function should be set to go both ways from the get go. This would be useful to withold info from people you don't want to be interacting with (if you're speaking to more than one person in the chat and don't want to take it to separate PM's), as they can still be commenting on it, thus distracting others and derailing the conversation you may want to have.

Yeah it's pretty rude. I usually pause mid-sentence to see if they can give me the attention I'm implicitly asking for. If not, then I know not to try. I take it very personally when people are looking away, especially constantly to the same spot. Sometimes it's a clock, their phone's clock or just somewhere else in the room where they have chosen to throw their attention to. I mean I don't mind people looking away momentarily because we can't always have too much intense eye contact but I know what you mean. When you can sense people really not listening. When it comes to my siblings, who I'm more comfortable with saying this to, I stop mid-sentence and say, "nevermind, looks like you wanna be on your phone." They usually put it away and give me undivided attention. With other people, it's just...meh. I swing the spotlight around and try to talk to them about them, especially if I've spent ample time talking. I'll give them my undivided attention to see if they can reciprocate when the spotlight swings back onto me. If they don't listen as attentively as I have, I just find a way to end the interaction. I can't stand for that shit.

WOW they're not even trying to be subtle with a subtitle like THAT! Oh the propaganda...

the time spent on a time out could be a discussion... yeah I caught that in the podcast too and just thought it was like...you're almost there, Dr. Just not quite. Expert or not.

Well forget your daughter for a moment, why do you feel you have to drink so often to begin with?

Kudos. I often forget that you need to be gentle in these instances because coming at them with aggression obviously will frustrate them more. Good stuff man. Show them empathy so they can remember what it looks like.

When I read that in a Deepak Chopra book, that's when I decided to drop him and his pseudo wisdom altogether. You choose your parents because your soul needed specific lessons to learn.

Maybe he was forced to give this apology?

How insufferable...with people like that, I've developed this unhealthy phrase, "how do you not kill yourself?"

reminds me how they justify that kind of treatment analgous to "The Lord giveth, the Lord taketh" For me it was a little different. I would say I want something and my mom would say we couldn't afford it, yet I'd go with her shopping, seeing her buy $100 worth of groceries, some of which we didn't even need like junk food. Then once I got whiny enough I finally got what I wanted and it would tarnish my desire for it, yet I would binge on my usage such as a new video game. It was my way of making up for "lost time," when I could've gotten it earlier and shit.

I reserve the expectation to laugh...

It's been a while since I made a recommendation, but I just remembered having a blast watching A Dangerous Method. It's a movie about Carl Jung's love affair with one of his patients turned colleague Sabina Spielrein. When he first takes her in to psychoanalyze her using Freud's methods, she is a disturbed young woman who is horribly traumatized to the point of experiencing PTSD over something as simple as Jung beating the dust off his jacket with a stick. In their sessions, Sabina confesses about how the first time her father spanked her, it excited her to the point of wetting her pants. I don't know how much of it is true (basically Jung and Spielrein start partaking in some BDSM sex to manage her anxieties), but an interesting movie nonetheless that also highlights the relationship between Jung and Freud; both in the mentor-student paradigm, as well as friendly rivals.

seems like there's a huge story behind everyone of your lines, Shem